Students Comment 學生心得

24th Silent Mentor Workshop 23-28/10/2018

Muhammad Azri Bin Mohamad (MEM140063) 

I came across this program after being introduced by previous seniors where I will get a hands-on opportunity to do various kind of procedures on a real patient where sometime we could not have a chance to do. Therefore I am not hesitating in joining this program at all. 

After gone through this program, I realize how important it is to be compassionate to our patient.  The program has built a good relationship between the participants with the Silent Mentor’s family. This made us to be more caring and more understand about our Silent Mentor therefore we will be very careful when handling the Silent Mentor as if they are like our own family members. Throughout the program, it taught us to be respectful despite what background the Silent Nentor has gone through. This value is really important for a medical student like us because if we don’t treat a patient as respectful as how we would treat our family that means we are not compassionate enough to our patient.  

For our Silent Mentor, I may not know you, as we have never met each other while you were still alive, but I will never forget the sacrifice and contribution that you have done for us. Your selflessness and passion has taught us about gratitude and humanity. Thank you Mr. Lim for spreading goodness and nobility before, during and after life. It was priceless. May God grace continue to shine upon your soul. You will always be my special teacher forever. 

I hope that all my friends had an experience as such because this is really important, as it was not being taught in the classroom or even from bedside teaching. I feel that it is a privilege for medical students of University Malaya to get an opportunity like this and everyone should participate whenever if they got chance to do so.

 

Law Xing Yu 刘汛愉 (MEM140046)

春蚕一生没说过自负的话,那吐出的银丝是丈量生命价值的尺。无语良师不曾言语,可那从未开口的爱,是生命价值的升华。在生命的有限期间,您我不曾相遇,此刻的您,安祥沉睡,可您的爱跨越时空,刻在我心灵,不朽。您以生命的终点,成全我学习的起点,那是一场无需言语的心灵结合。那一瞬的千刀万刀,那一生的无怨无悔,医学的殿堂,祭奠着您逝去的青春。每日的晨洗,那一分钟的宁静,那一分钟的沉思,是一生的心灵洗涤。没有什么华丽的言语,没有什么豪言话语,您的无私奉献,使善永存,在我心中留下一道永恒的记忆。感恩有您,无语良师。 

~生如夏花之绚烂,死如秋叶之静美~

 

Nur Haziera Binti Abdul Ghani (MEM140084)

I knew about Silent Mentor Program since I was in second year as a medical student but during that time, I am not really interested to join it as I heard how busy it would be with the packed schedule throughout the one week. I have to really give my full commitment during the programme. I hesitated a lot to join it. However, I also heard that those who joined before get to learn a lot of things. As I am already a fifth year medical student, I thought when would I be able to have the chance to join Silent Mentor Program if not now. So, that is how I enrolled myself into this program. 

Honestly at first, I joined this with the thoughts that I want to practice the procedures that we have been taught as a student. That was all in my mind. I never expected myself to actually know about the patient. We actually went for a home visit to see the relatives and knew about our Silent Mentor’s lives. Where’s he from? What he worked as before? How’s his personality? What condition he had until the very last moment of his life. Although there’s a language barrier between me and the relatives, I could still able to understand as my teammates diligently translated those stories to me. 

Throughout the workshop, I kept wondering how and why someone would sacrifice their bodies for us; the medical students and other medical practitioners. I still remembered one sentence beautifully said by one of the Silent Mentors; ‘I don’t care if they did 100 incisions on my body as long as they do not cut their future patients wrongly’. I don’t remember the exact sentence but somehow that is how it sounds. Truthfully, I myself do not really believe in me, whether I would be a good doctor or not. But these Silent Mentors; a complete stranger to me, believed and sacrificed themselves so that I would not do harm to my future patients. I really respect them a lot and am really grateful for their sacrifices. 

From this program, I am not only able to practice my medical knowledge but also revisit my true intention of why I want to be a doctor. A doctor is not just treating the disease, but the most important thing is treating the patient. If other people can believe in me why can’t I?

 

Muhammad Naqiuddin Bin Tawang (MEM140066)

Silent Mentor is really a life changing experience for all medical students. This program gave me a bigger of what life really meant. Initially, I thought this is just a medium for us to practice our skills, but after 7 meaningful days, I learnt to be more caring towards everyone especially our mentor, Mr Lim Thian Sang. I learnt to give full commitments and never give up on helping people. Every stitches and cut made were full of respect. I believe this is a stepping stone to shape me becoming a passionate doctor in the future. Thank you my Silent Mentor. My memory of you shall never fade. May you rest in peace.

 

Beh Keng Hau (MEM140017)

It was a privilege to be able to practice procedures on relatively fresh cadavers. I inserted chest tube, endotracheal tube, central venous line, pins, etc on human bodies. This experience was beneficial because it allowed me to learn essential procedural skills in a comfortable manners while most of the healthcare practitioners actually do their very first time on a real patient thus subject to higher stress level and risk of potential complications. 

Besides, the cadavers were treated with dignity. They were addressed as Silent Mentors. Home visit and interviewing family members were done in order to understand the background of Silent Mentors and perceive them as persons and teachers. I was taught to handle my Silent Mentor gently, cleaned his body every morning and made sure all incisions were sutured at the end of the day. Humanity was stressed throughout the program. Family members gave feedbacks to participants. I observed the whole process of Silent Mentor from being frozen, thawed and preserved, till coffined and sent off to memorial park. I observed how the families react when seeing their loves ones for the last time. Their tears and sacrifices were so real and touching. 

Medicine is not merely a science. It is an art of humanity and relationship with patients and his family. Professional knowledge is supposed to be used for goodness rather than profit gain. Thank you, my dearest teacher, who taught me skills in silence and demonstrated how selfless and courageous a person can be.

 

Wan Nur Amani Binti Wan Hussin (MEM140114)

Before the event, I expected this program is a good platform for the students to do the hands-on activities and to apply the theoretical knowledge. The program is well-organised especially when it comes about timing. After the program, I realised to be a good doctor is not only about your knowledge and the skills you have. The silent mentors has taught us about selflessness, sacrifice, empathy and respect towards the patients. Before this, I only knew definition of empathy, but now I know how to feel it. To know and to feel are two different things. Thank you to all the silent mentors for the lesson they have taught us in their silence.

 

Fairuza Nur Syahira Binti Md Idris (MEM140029)

Silent Mentor Program is a program where you learn not only about academic stuffs but humanity as well. Our Silent Mentor who’s willing to pledge to be used for medical teaching and research purposes is something that not everyone will do it. Their selflessness, love and compassion towards medical teaching and researches would be the things that I valued for the rest of my life. My expectation for this program before I joined was just to learn about medical stuffs such as suturing but what I got after this program was definitely more than that. Besides the medical stuffs that I learned during that program such as appendisectomy, laparotomy and a few orthopedic surgical procedures, at the same time I also learned about team work. The experience in this program has been an eye-opener to me. I find it as challenging as it is rewarding. It has indeed been a very fruitful experience.

 

Jesse Perrin Jenarun (MEM140041)

In medicine, your best teachers are not your books, lectures or discussions. Your best teachers are your patients. Your patients provide you with experience and the means to be more confident in performing many clinical procedures and making diagnoses. For a patient to become a Silent Mentor is such a selfless, kind and brave sacrifice that is truly admirable. Therefore, I cannot express enough how grateful I am towards the sacrifice of my Silent Mentor in giving me this golden opportunity to learn the ropes through the Silent Mentor Program. In the span of just a few days, I have learned so much from my Silent Mentor. I was able to perfect my skills in multiple procedures which otherwise I would be too scared to learn in the real hospital setting. I was thought to be more sympathetic in interacting with my patients and was reminded of how precious life is and how critical of a role doctors play in comforting the patients. And I learned that death is inevitable, time is limited, and so we must always spread joy and kindness to others every day in the way we live as that is what makes life worth living. At the end of everything, hold on to anything.

 

Cheong Jun Leong 张俊良 (MEM140019)

无语良师工作坊过去了,可是这几天的回忆还不断地在我脑海里徘徊。我很感恩能够参与在其中,因为能够亲自的在真人身上动刀,真的让我获益良多。 

记得有个无语良师在生前说了:尽量在我的身上动千千万万的刀,不用害怕犯错,因为我不会痛,也不会痒;但是却不要在病人身上动错一刀。

我很感动,因为他们的奉献,让平时没机会实习的我们有了个实践的机会。我们也向他们保证将来一定要做个有医德的好医生。 

感恩!永远的大体老师!

 

Nurul Husna Bt Azizan (MEM140092)

I had been introduced to Silent Mentor since my first year of medical school. As recommended by my senior and my fellow colleagues, I joined the Silent Mentor workshop. The 1 week duration of Silent Mentor opened my eyes on Silent Mentor Program. Apart from practicing my skills on chest tube insertion, intubation, suturing skills and surgery skills, I also learned the definition of humanity. A good doctor needs skills, respects and humbleness. Throughout the sessions, we were required to clean the body, silent praying and treat the body with respect. It instilled a sense of love and respect in me. To my dearest mentor, Miss Fung Yim Har, you are truly a hero. Your silence speaks louder than words.  Thank you for everything and may you rest in peace, teacher.

 

Tung Yu Zhen (MEM140111)

Being chosen for this Silent Mentor Program was one privilege given to me that I treasure the most. What I knew from my friends who had gone through the programme was that participants would be able to hone their surgical skills. I am not someone who loves Surgery in particular, but I do have interest in learning those skills for future use. Well, I am glad that I gained more than these after the program. Cleansing my mentor’s body every morning allowed me to look at her more clearly every day, realizing that she had given her trust for us medical students to practise our medical skills, not knowing whom will she be sent to. Questions sprang into my mind whenever a procedure was done on her, asking myself if I would be a better person in dealing with live patients next time when I have already seen what was done on her. Her silence too, made me questioned if I have led a meaningful life, and that I should treasure the little things that are worth to be grateful for in this impermanent world. This program is definitely an exposure beyond Medicine, it teaches you how to be human.

 

Chien Kah Kah 陈佳佳 (MEM140129)

您冰冷的身躯充斥着满腔热血,

您无限的信任和包容激励着我,

您无声的爱深深的刻印在我心里,

您无私的奉献使我坚定人生目标,

您最后的嘱咐在我脑海里挥之不去,

一遍又一遍的在提醒着我将来要做一名良医。

死亡,是无法避免的,但生命戛然而止的那一刻真的就是永别了吗?

感谢您,让我从您的无私大爱中认识了“生命”的另一种意义。

虽然您离开了,但您的生命依旧延续,您将永远地活在我们心里。

但愿将来我们能不负所托,尽力的服务于大众,奉献于社会。

 

Abdul Kadir Shah (MEM140003)

Silent Mentor Program had bring a lots of emotion into me, Not only the training workshop but the whole ceremony. 

I really appreciate how generous is the people out there. They are truly the heroes of our nation - because of them, we are able to produce better doctors. I really learn a lot of new skills and procedures. 

I would say Silent Mentor has change my way of thinking towards people. Even they are no more living, but I was taught to treat them as a human. Turn a loss into a gift. 

 

Ummi Syahiirah Binti Damanhuri (MEM140112)

1 week had passed and the Silent Mentor Program had officially ended. I'm glad that I decided to join this program. This program had brought to me new insight, knowledge and friends. Thank you, Silent Mentor Madam Soo for your act of selflessness that make this program and my learning possible. Every day when I met you, I am grateful to you. You might be silent but you communicate and convey many messages with your body. Thank you for your noble act before and after your passing. May God bless you, my mentor.

 

Nurhanida Azera Binti Shahidan (MEM140090)

Before starting the program, I expect to learn a lot in term of surgical skills. My expectation was just to improve my knowledge and skills. However, when the program started, I feel like this workshop not only help us improving our education and skills, but teach us empathy and humanity as well. What impressed me the most was the way we were taught to respect our Silent Mentor. We visited her family, asked about her life story. We clean her every day, learn from her body and clean her again. We took a good care of our mentor, respect her family, managed her until the coffining session. Something that I’ve never experienced before. It was really an eye-opener for me. To see how the family members really love our mentor, and accepted her decision to donate her body for learning purpose. I really feel grateful this workshop taught me about humanity. I really treasure my mentor message, to be a good doctor, not a famous doctor. Her words: ‘it is better for her body to experience 100 cuts rather than to have a living patient being wrongfully cut’ was really amazing. I am proud to have her as my mentor. I learned a lot from her. I cherish this experience and hopefully I could use this experience later in future and keep this empathy feeling and become more understanding in managing patients.

 

Nur Aisyah Zainal (MEM140080)

Silent Mentor is a very good platform for you to learn not only about medical knowledge, but you also learn about empathy, selflessness and also team work. It is not easy to give a full commitment for this workshop despite our busy schedule. Having in mind about my mentor's sacrifice and selflessness, I was able to give my all for this workshop. The schedule for the home visit and the workshop was planned to make it easy for us, UM student and other universities to attend this workshop. I'll never forget the experience and memories from this program. Thank you Madam Soo for giving me this opportunity. May your soul rest in peace.

 

Kuan Szee Ling 关诗鈴 (MEM140045)

在墓园,从阳光普照,转而倾盆大雨,再雨过天晴。这短短五分钟里,天气的转变,难道是连上天都被这无私的大爱给感动了?这一星期的课程,就在大雨的洗礼后正式告一段落,但这宝贵的体验将永远伴随着我们。 

生老病死是每个人必经之路。去世后遗爱人间,又有多少个人能做得到? 

无私的大爱是不求回报,不分种族,不分你我地在为有需要的人付出。大体老师的捨身大爱将永远烙印在我们内心的深处。 

您,让我们领悟到视病入亲,将心比心的理念。您,让我们学会用耐心,慈悲心,同理心去对待每一位病人。“沉默是最好的良师”。您,无言身教,庄严神圣的奉献,是我们最好的老师。 

感谢您,无语良师们。

Noor Nadia Binti Sarbini (MEM140078)

Million thanks for Silent mentors for letting us learned precious knowledge from you. Even though you remain silent throughout the sessions, your body and soul speaks the loudest. Your willingness to let us cut you thousand times and not letting us to cut wrongfully on a live patient will forever engrave in my heart. 

Thanks to the Silent Mentor community for giving me chance to be a part of this wonderful journey and thank you for your hard work. Words cannot describe how grateful I am to be able to say “been there, done that” to the upcoming participants. 

 

Farah Alia Binti Abdul Rahman (MEM140030)

“Sometimes, you do not have to be a doctor to save life, you just need one big heart”. All our Silent Mentors may have left the world months ago but these people have pledged their bodies for the advancement of the medical sciences. Their gracious efforts and tremendous inspirations will never be forgotten. They truly possess wisdom and know how to create blessings for our society. These body donors show us what true wisdom is and have given their own lives everlasting meaning and value. They are our eternal teachers and the real heroes. They are amazingly great mentors and they will be greatly missed.

 

Afiq Amani Bin Saat (MEM140007)

First and foremost, I am thankful beyond words for the opportunity to express my utmost gratitude for the privilege of learning from all my dear Silent Mentors. I recognize that each mentor represents a loss; the loss of a husband, a wife, a brother, a sister, a friend but each of these mentors represents more than a loss. For me as a medical student, they are all representing a beginning. I spent hours learning from all my mentors to overcome my hesitation and anxiousness in making the cuts. I can tell you that I am getting better each time I learn from them. This experience with them had served me the very first steps in the long path towards my dream of helping others. But most importantly, they taught me the value of education, and that the human spirit and generosity knows no bounds. They’ve taught me about selflessness and altruism. Believing in me to learn all that I can from them. Faith that they can instill in me the key components of being a good doctor; empathy, respect, and compassion. I couldn’t learn these traits by reading the textbooks, or sitting through lectures. They are only taught to me through the silent words of all my dear mentors. Last but not least, to all my dear mentors, your selfless act has given me the opportunity to learn more than I ever could from a textbook. Though I will never be able to say “thank you” in person, I hope you know how truly grateful I am for this gift. You are my greatest hero and eternal teacher. May you rest in peace.

 

Nur Faizah Binti Mohamad Rahim (MEM140083)

Initially, I was quite nervous and anxiety about what to expect and what should I gain from this program. To be frank, I am a person who has a low confidence when doing any procedures to the patients as I am scared that I will cause pain to them and subsequently refused any further evaluation and treatment. However, after underwent this hectic week, it just not that I was able to improve my clinical skills but indirectly, abled to be a much more empathic person even though towards a ‘silent’ patients. As we shared the mentors among group members who consist of medical students and/or graduated doctors from various medical schools, I was able to develop my social skills in dealing and communicate with other individuals with different views and attitudes. I could see that actually I am able to manage my time properly despite how busy I was. I am very grateful to have this opportunity. 

Dear Ms. Chan Li Lan, our great mentor, thousand thanks for your contributions, sacrifices and endless love for being our teacher. We hope we can fulfill your wish to see us to be a good doctor, who always provides the best for the patients. May your kindness will be absorbed to all of us. Thank you to family members for trusting us in managing your loved ones. Ms. Chan and family, you will always have special place in my heart. THANK YOU!

 

Ahmad Asyraf Bin Azman (MEM140008)

Dear Ms. Chan, thank you for your contribution to be our Silent Mentor for this wonderful program. This program is one of the most memorable things throughout my medical school. It is indeed an eye opening experience for us especially as we had an opportunity to see so much hands-on procedures or surgical techniques performed by our medical doctors and surgeons. This is essential for us as most of this experience and lessons that we can’t get from our classroom. On top of this, I’m very blessed as we had a great and really supportive teammate. Lastly, I would like to thank the organizing committee for continuing this great event. Having a chance to participate in this program really taught me a lot of things, the knowledge, soft skills, empathy, caring, kindness which are important to be equipped in all of us in order to make sure that we can be a good and passionate doctors in future. Last but not least, from the bottom of my heart, thank you my Silent Mentor Ms. Chan, you will always own a special space in my heart, may your soul rest in peace.

 

Lisa Kennedy Nik (MEM140051)

If being silent is an art, Mr. Liew will be the Picasso of it. He is the best; the best there is, the best there was and possibly the best teacher I ever had in my entire life. Thank you Mr. Liew for your selfless contribution and dedication in this program. You’re not only giving us the opportunity to experience and improve our surgical skill but you taught us one important lesson that we will never learn from anywhere else, but only you-humanity and empathy. You may leave the world but your silence leave the legacy behind. 

“Death is the last chapter in time, but the first chapter in eternity.” I would like to sincerely thank late Mr. Liew’s family for their support and time. They are the unsung hero throughout this journey. It wouldn’t be a goodbye without tears and it wouldn’t be a beautiful journey without family. I thank God for sending me guardian angels in the form of late Mr. Liew’s family. 

24th Silent Mentor Program may be ended but the memories (happiness, tiredness and sadness) will be staying in my heart forever. Few years from now, I will definitely reminiscing all the good memories and experiences I had with my fellow colleague, new friends from other university and of course, with all the Silent Mentors. In the clouds, I’ll meet you again. Thank you and may your soul rest in peace, Mr. Liew.

Siti Sarah Johan (MEM140103)

I think the Silent Mentor Program is a wonderful program and definitely a memorable one too. There were plenty of opportunities to practise and learn. Tutors and lecturers were also very kind and great. I do wish that there could be more procedures perhaps.

 

Agnes Ng Yew Chien (MEM140125)

至圣先师孔子曾说:“未知生,焉知死?”。只有了解生命,将生命看得够透彻了,才能领悟到死亡。但有这么一群人,反而从“死”看清了“生”,在接纳死亡后,更懂得“生”的意义。 

感恩刘老师无私的奉献自己成就了我们这群医学生,化无用为大用。 

谢谢您让我在您身上学到许多课本上学不到的知识, 在您身上的 每一针,每一线, 每一刀都是老师的教诲。 

谢谢您让我看见您的生命故事,让我看见了无私,让我理解无语。 

虽然我们从未交谈过,也不曾言语,但您的无私,您的大爱,我将铭记于心。 

感恩在我的人生里能够遇见你,是您让我相信这世间还有一种爱叫无语良师无私的大爱。 

无语良师们,衷心感谢您。

 

Mohamad Jabbar Bin Abdul Rahman (MEM130090)

I had participated in 24th Silent Mentor Workshop which has given me priceless knowledge, lessons, values and precious experience about medical knowledge, love, respect, sacrifice and the best is humanity. 

To be honest, it actually taught me about selfless sacrifice (empathy and humanity) more than medical knowledge. Being able to know these selfless Silent Mentors personally made me reflect on myself regarding the extent of kindness that a human being can possibly offer to the world.

Emotionally, I couldn’t stop myself from remembering my late father throughout the workshop. I actually put myself in the family members’ shoes by recalling the memories of losing my late father due to MVA. 

Psychologically, to be honest I did dream about the Silent Mentors for a few nights because I felt their sacrifice is too selfless and sacred for a human being. However, it didn’t cause me any harm albeit emotionally or psychologically.

 

Melvin Isaac A/L Sasuraja (MEM140053)

It has been a great and memorable experience to be a part of the Silent Mentor Program. This program has taught me that a person's worth does not stop with death. My Silent Mentor has showed that even after the passing of someone, our body can be used for the benefit of the public. I learned the value of life and I thank my mentor for this opportunity. He will be always remembered.

 

Ong Xin Kai (MEM140094)

No amount of words is enough to show our gratitude towards my Silent Mentor. His selflessness and willingness to allow medical students to practice their surgical skills on are truly beyond what the current society can accept. It is my greatest privilege to learn from you and I will impart the skills I learn to the best I can as my form of respect to you. Thank you.

 

Chiew Shun Hong (IMU_24491)

The Silent Mentor Program has given me a chance to reconnect with my motivation and drive to read medicine. I am reminded yet again that I chose this path not for my own gain nor glory, but to be there to lend a helping hand. To offer a shoulder to cry on. To give some form of comfort to those who are at their most vulnerable point in life. Yes, that is what I strive for and strive to be! A compassionate, empathetic and competent doctor who will be able to treat the patient as a whole and not just the illness. 

The most memorable part of the program for me would be the gratitude ceremony. Just like many others, I was moved to tears particularly during the Silent Mentor’s last message. Even though she was assuring the students to not worry about her as we practice on her offered body. I could hear her voice crack and waver as she still tried to reassure us and convey the importance of not hesitating when learning from her. It really struck a chord with me. Would I ever dare to be that selfless? Can I be that brave? I believe that I will take my first steps in the direction of greatly improving my work ethic after the program. And I owe it all to the Silent Mentors and the organizers! So sincerely, thank you all once again.

 

Joel John Chai Chang Hao (IMU_19212) 

As a medical student, what we have always wanted to achieve was to be good doctors and save lives in the future. Joining this workshop has truly been an amazing eye opener for me. From working at odd hours of the day to being able to perform medical procedures to our mentor, I must say that I have truly learned a great deal throughout this workshop. 

Teamwork, patience and dedication are all the qualities that I realise I have to one day hone after joining this workshop. I am very thankful to have been able to join and I would like to thank the mentors, the volunteers, the doctors, and everyone else for making this workshop happen. I look forward to more opportunities as such.

 

Chong Zi Ching Sharon 張芷晴 (IMU_10614)

我和您非亲非故,不曾认识不曾交谈

可隔着天地之间,存着一段师徒之情

您给予极高权利,让我在您宝贵身躯

任意我千刀万剁,感激的心无从说起

诺您定竭尽所能,回馈社会成为良医 

谢谢您,

让我有认识您的机会

与您家人交谈的时光,

拥有拥抱他们的时刻,

为您哀悼流泪的瞬间,

安心送你最后一程的勇气。

 

Ong Yee Chiing 王玉瑾  (IMU-ME0213033131)

一转眼,长达七天的无语良师工作坊已到达了尾声。在这短短的七天里,我获益良多。我不止学到了很多关于医学的知识与实践机会,还收获了在课本里永远都学不到的付出,贡献与大爱精神。不仅如此,我还找回了当初那份为我的病人服务的初衷与使命,也收获了在我进入医院工作前的那份信心。 

至敬爱的无语老师们:

感谢您,愿意信任我们,把最珍贵的大体奉献给我们学习。

感谢您,用无声的教诲,让我们学会了最珍贵的无私付出与大爱精神。

千言万语尽在不言中,感恩感谢老师们的教诲。您们的教诲,我会铭记于心。“勿忘初衷,方得始终”。“不要当一名名师,要当一名良师”

 

Mohammed Ezra Nilam Buckman (IMU_24561)

Joining the Silent Mentor Program was an easy decision for me when I read up about it. Walking into the program, I was nervous at first and expected to learn a lot. However, after the program was done, I felt like I learnt way more than what I first thought I would. It helped me understand and cement what I want to do in the future. On a purely emotional view of the program, seeing my Silent Mentor with sutures all over her body made me really understand the immense sacrifice that not only the silent mentor, but the family also go through to see their loved ones being cut up by a bunch of strangers. To understand this and still volunteer to donate astounds me.

 

Lim Loo Hong (IMU_ME0213033092)

2018 年9月8 日,我到您家拜访,从您的家人口中得知您生前留下的点点滴滴。 

2018年10月21日,你我初次相遇。虽然遇见的只有您的空壳大体,我对您的了解不过是人言口中对您的认识,但心中还是对您捐赠大体的志愿感激不尽。 

直到亲眼目睹影视中的您对我们医学生的遗言,我方才真正的感受到您对于医学生的寄望那么的深厚。自您认知《无语良师》计划,您便二话不说、立马当下决定捐赠大体。您曾说过:“不怕在我身上开错百刀,就怕在病人身上开错一刀”。您伟大的奉献精神,不但让我们医学系生可以更好的探索人体,磨练更好的医学技术;您的意愿更是让我崇敬。 

感谢您无私的奉献,苏金梅老师、冯艳霞老师、刘汉强老师、林天送老师以及曾丽兰老师。即使您的灵魂虽已离世了但您的精神、您的意愿将永于我心。同时我也感谢热心的高级医生耐心地传授医学知识与指导着我们;亦感谢《无语良师》计划的志愿者所提供的辅助。《无语良师》计划使我受益良多,言语无法表达我对您的谢意,就让我以行动作为表态,我必定竭尽所能更好地服务大众。

 

Phyllis Yong Meng Yee (IMU_ME0213032928)

I have always wondered what inspired people or anyone to be a Silent Mentor, well before I was even involved in this program. This is nonetheless a huge decision for our Silent Mentors. What had motivated them to come to such a decision? 

After spending a short but fulfilling time with my Silent Mentor, Madam Soo Kim Mooi, I have a glimpse and only a glimpse of her selfless love. This is only then I understand her decision, not only Madam Soo, but all Silent Mentors’ decisions. It is their unrelenting and undying love for the world that has allowed them to donate their bodies after death. They wanted to contribute to the society, especially the medical field, even after they have breathed their last breath. 

Their altruism has left me ponder and reflect on myself. I shamefully must admit that my emotions towards death are somehow not as strong as I have started my medical journey 5 years ago. I kept myself checked so that I will never get too emotional or too involved with my patients. This was mainly because I wanted to protect myself. 

How shameful am I as compared to my Silent mentor? I have felt their utmost love and faith towards us. We are not related in any ways but they willingly entrust their bodies to us. Looking at each Silent Mentors’ life stories and expectations, I have realized that each of them are not just only a Silent Mentor. They are someone with stories. They have undeniably given me a precious lesson. 

Living is not just about ourselves, we should think of others as well. I think through this program, I picked up my somehow-lost-along-the-journey emotions and empathy. The most valuable lesson for me to remember is how to treat everybody equally and that we should make effort to understand them more. 

Madam Soo is not the only person who have inspired me. Her supportive family members are definitely a major factor of why this program is a success. They respected Madam Soo’s decisions and supported her. The families broke through the norm. They have suffered long periods of grief, while waiting patiently for the funeral since my mentor’s death. 

Last but not the least, here’s a quote for my mentor: “A truly great mentor is hard to find, difficult to part with and impossible to forget.” You will always be remembered, Madam Soo Kim Mooi. May you rest in peace.

 

Edwin Sam Keat Song (IMU_ME0213033251)

It is the greatest privilege given to me throughout my years as a medical student to be able to participate in the Silent Mentor Program. It is a program in which the lessons taught will never be found in any form of textbook, lectures, etc. The agendas in the program itself are unique and original where one can only experience it through the program. I am impressed by the level of professionalism the organizers have for being able to carry out this program while maintaining the Silent Mentors’ dignity. Prior to commencement of the program, the Silent Mentors were treated with the utmost respect with ceremonies, and moments of silence and prayers given to them prior to every single teaching session. This constantly reminds me that although the Silent Mentors are silent, I am still obliged to still treat them as a real living patient. 

As I undergo the program, my heart was deeply touched and at the same time inspired by these Silent Mentors and the feeling exponentiated towards the end. I was almost overwhelmed with tears of gratitude at the closing ceremony. My Silent Mentor taught me not only about the fundamentals of medicine, but also humanity. She allowed us to practice all the techniques on her until perfection, so that it would benefit patients in the future. 

Dear Ms. Chan, I am deeply grateful to you and your family, and not a single word in the vocabulary will be able to express how grateful I am. Your teachings will be forever in my mind. I will promise to be a doctor as selfless as you were and as your final wish, a caring doctor. You reminded me of the saying, “to treat often, to cure sometimes, and to comfort always.” 

Deepak Chopra once said that “Silence is the greatest teacher…” You are indeed my greatest mentor. Thank you, Ms. Chan. 

 

Annabelle Yam Zhao Qing (IMU_ME0813033532)

The Silent Mentor Program is most likely a once in a life time experience, and indeed second to none. It definitely differed from what I’ve been taught in the ward throughout clinical years, as this involved a literal sacrifice of not only the Silent Mentor’s body, but also the family’s need for closure for the passing of their loved one. This period of grieving for them has been extended willingly yet painfully for us. 

Ms. Chan, thank you for allowing us for showing a part of yourself that only a selected few get to see – in your must vulnerable and silent state. I’ll remember you for a long time. 

 

Samuel Wong Tian Ci (IMU_ME0813033693)

“You can perform 1000 mistakes on my body, but don’t make 1 mistake on a living patient.”

These words were echoed on the first day of the Silent Mentor Program, little did I know it will carry on echoing throughout the week long program and probably now my whole medical career. 

I admit initially that I looked forward to this program because of the prospects of being able to perform “practical” procedures and work on a cadaver, but little did I expect was how much it also focused on the humanity side of medicine. But like Jesus in the bible who said that greatest love is this when one lays down their lives for one’s friends, this was emulated by Ms. Chan Li Lan who graciously gave up her body for literally strangers in the name of medicine and research. 

The workshops were conducted with professionalism by the respectful doctors, morning cleansing and closing rituals were done with much care and learning alongside like-minded colleagues with passion made the Silent Mentor week a milestone in my journey of being a medical practitioner. I believe this was a special experience that I was blessed with and will not be able to come across again. 

Thus may I not waste the efforts of the organizing team, the doctors and also my Silent Mentor herself. And may I strive diligently to fulfill the wishes of my Silent Mentor which is to not be a popular or prosperous doctor but one that is good and caring especially to my patients.

 

Aravinthan Kadravello (IMU_10037)

A truly great mentor is hard to find, difficult to part with and impossible to forget. During the one week of the 24th Silent Mentor Workshop, I managed to learn various surgical techniques that tremendously improved my understanding of basic surgical procedures and human anatomy. By practicing my basic suturing skills on our Silent Mentors, I was also able to understand the challenges faced when suturing on human skin which is very different from synthetic skin pads. I will definitely remember the procedures and techniques I have learned during this workshop throughout my medical career. 

Learning surgical skills wasn’t just the only reason I joined this workshop. I wanted to learn how to be more humane and I can gladly say I have at least learned to be more appreciative towards my patients and their families thanks to this program. Every day when I clean my Silent Mentor, I notice more incisions and sutures on his body. I feel really bad for him but I had to remind myself it is for a noble cause and he wants us to learn from his body. Every time I did a procedure on him, my first thought was do not cause further harm than necessary. This is the same mindset that I will be applying to my patients in the future. On the final day of the workshop was perhaps the most emotional of all for me. It was not easy to see the families having to part ways from our Silent Mentors and what’s worse is that they couldn’t see the Silent Mentors’ faces before the cremation. It has taught me to be more appreciative towards my own family and the people around me. 

Lastly, I have gained quite a number of friends through this program which I will definitely come across in the future. I would like to thank the Silent Mentor team, my colleagues, our tutors and lastly my Silent Mentor volunteering to give his body for our learning. May his soul rest in peace.

 

Teoh Jiexi 张絜晰 (Monash_28400755)

視覺:您出現在我們面前。合著的雙眼,交叉的雙手,挺直的雙腿,無一不述說著無聲的威嚴。

觸覺:扶著您稀虛的頭驅,慢慢削過緻幼的髮絲。我很榮幸,這一刻可以為您做一點什麼,即使看起來那麼微不足道,可每一個悉心的觸碰,無疑透露了我內心的澎湃。

嗅覺:當身體與生命一分為二,軀體漸漸腐蝕,濃濃的味道侵入鼻腔,提醒著我,那位已經踏上人生另一段旅程的您,正充滿希望地看著我們,傳達您對我們最後的叮屬。 

聽覺:家屬悲痛的泣聲,伴著深深的不捨,及我們默默的哀悼。別離,是有點難捨,但不是悵然;是有點遺憾,但不悲觀。 

味覺:有什麼東西,滑過我的臉頰,透過唇瓣,進入口腔。鹹的。我嚐著舌尖消縱即逝的液體,卻不敢,也不想它停止。感覺每一個圓鼓鼓的晶瑩,是那麼真誠地在向您致敬。 

哺育學子慈祥心,師恩難忘刻骨銘。感恩有您,讓我重新認識自己,憶初心。

 

Teh Nian Xin (Monash_28218345)

“The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.” – William Arthur Ward 

Thank you, all of my Silent Mentors, for inspiring me, for your selfless sacrifice, I couldn’t imagine, how hard it is to make the final decision, to put your family members through months of grief and bereavement, to let others cut and fracture your body, and finally register yourselves for it, if not for you, I wouldn’t become what I am today. 

Frankly speaking, the week in silent mentor drained every ounce of energy left in me, going through restless sleeps as I have to study for my upcoming finals, but, believe me, all of it was WORTH it, doing procedures that even houseman wouldn’t have the chance to try, grasping the true meaning of humanity, I didn’t regret the slightest.

Thank you to the team who organized the Silent Mentor Program, you have my thumbs up for making it such a meaningful one.

 

Yii Jia Jia 余圣佳 (Monash_27998444)

第24届无语良师工作坊告一段落了。我们敬爱的大体老师们也终于可以安息了。回过头来看,从认识您,向您学习,到最后帮你入殓总觉得时间过得好快。老师,您真的离开我们了。这个心情是复杂的,即欣慰又不舍,即感恩又愧疚。欣慰老师您安息了,不舍老师您走了。感恩老师您的教导,愧疚对老师您我们做的还不够。但是,后知后觉的我发现,我早已在不知不觉中成为了老师您的家人。 

老师,谢谢您教会了我们那些透过书本及模型无法传达的知识。

老师,谢谢您教会了我们什么是生命。

老师,谢谢您将我内心那个快要沉睡了的初衷唤醒。我会将您的嘱咐及期望化作提醒,点醒那个偶尔会对学习感到麻木的我。 

透过每一位老师及家属们,我深深地明白“医生“这两个字。它不仅仅是一份职业,它是病人及家属们的一线曙光。它之所以沉重是因为这两个字也承载着每个病人及家属的希望,但是却也是敲醒我们使命感和责任感的警钟。 

老师,谢谢您对我们的信任,让我们在您身上划下千刀万刀您也毫无怨言。苏老师,您说:不怕我们在您身上划下千刀万刀,就怕我们在病人身上划错一刀。您的精神让所有医学生甚至是专科医生都为之敬佩。一个人到底需要有多少的大爱及无私才能打从心底说出这一句话呢? 

苏老师,您也说了,不要我们做一位名医,要做一名良医。这些嘱咐,我铭记于心。谢谢您老师!言语无法表达我对您的感谢,但愿在天上的您可以感受到我这份小小的感谢。 

愿您一路好走,您永远是我的恩师。无语良师,您从来不说话,但我们却获益良多。

 

Lim Choon Hong 林俊宏 (Monash_28295390)

人必有一死,或重於泰山,或輕于鴻毛。

敬佩您的勇氣,捐出了您的身軀,千刀萬剮仍無怨無悔;

感謝您的無私,您與我素昧平生,卻願與我分享您的所有。

蓋棺那天,您帶走的是親友的自豪、學生的敬仰;

留下的,是學生們腦海中的知識和對社會最後的大愛。

您身上的每一道傷疤,都是為醫學界奉獻的勳章。

教澤永懷、永念師恩,

感謝您,我們的無語良師!

 

Ahmad Anwaar B Muhammad Saifullah (USIM_1140001)

Upon finishing the 24th Silent Mentor Workshop, I felt as if I’ve been given a new insight on life. Charity and contribution can be done by everyone, either the living or those who have passed away. My Silent Mentor has taught me many things that the living never could, and I shall carry this knowledge with me, as well as the memory of my Silent Mentor, throughout my life.

 

Nour Hanan Daniah Binti Mohd Bakhit (USIM_1142034)

This is a wonderful program which combines love, medical knowledge, humanity and respect, all of which are essential at creating and shaping future doctors. From this, I am really grateful to be able to learn so much more about culture and religion differences. I know it’s not easy for the family members to donate the bodies for educational purpose but this sacrifice shall not be in vain and I will fully cherish and make full use of this. May they be blessed for their sacrifice in creating skillful and empathetic doctors for the future.

 

Amir Safwat Mohd Sapihie (Perdana_12925042)

Firstly, I would like to say thank you very much for accepting me to participate in this very heart and mind opening program. I will definitely not going to forget this very meaningful event in my life. And dear my beloved mentors, you have really turned a loss to a real gift. Thank you.

 

Nurul Faizah Binti Mohd Suhaimi (UniKL_59214114061)

I do learn a lot in Silent Mentor Program especially about empathy and the respect towards our mentor and their families. Without their contributions, this program will not be held. Instead of just learning through the bodies, we respect and care them, as they are still alive. Silent Mentor is an eye – opening program that taught me to respect, be selfless and learn to be a good doctor. As my Silent Mentor said ‘instead of being a famous doctor, we should learn to be a caring doctor’. Besides, the clinical skills that we learnt are very useful as the doctors observed us and corrected our mistakes. Thank you for this priceless opportunity. Thank you my Silent Mentor, Ms. Chan Li Lan.

23rd Silent Mentor Workshop 31/07-05/08/2018

Muhammad Nasuha Salim Bin Fuad Salim (MEM140067) 

One week of Silent Mentor program was very beneficial for me. We had several sessions with different tutors, to carry out different procedures. Even though some of the procedures I have seen in the ward, I don’ really know the exact steps and how the procedures were being done. Through this program, I have better overview as well as understand as we had both, theory and practical session with respective lecturers. The most interesting procedure for me is intubation. In real life, medical students are not allowed to carry out the procedure as it was quite complicated and requires experienced doctors to perform it.  In this programs, all students had the opportunity to perform the procedure and surprisingly, most of my group mate done it perfectly. Last but not least, I would like to thank my Silent Mentor, Madam Lim Puay Suan, for being a great educator for all of us. Words cannot express all that I wish to say. I hope the knowledge that we gained through this Silent Mentor program able to prepare us to become a good doctor in the future.

 

Nursyafiqah Ahmaddin (MEM140136)

To Mdm. Lim Poay Suan and Silent Mentor Administration

Thank you very much for making my wish come true through this Silent Mentor Program. Thank you very much for allowing me to appreciate every moment with my Silent Mentor. I believe that every student gained a lot through this program. I am confident that this program has equipped us with skills that we never learn.

However, as we live in the presence of passion, I always keep in mind that it is important to remember our Silent Mentor sacrifice. Her passion in teaching has molded us into who we are today. Thank you Mdm. Lim Poay Suan.

 

Mohd Safarali Bin Othman (MEM130096)

To Madam Lim,

Thank you for your contribution to be our mentor in this program. Your selflessness and passion to teach even at the end of your life had taught us lessons that we can’t get from class. The knowledge and experience that we gained from this program surely will be very useful for us in the future. For some people, volunteering is about giving, but for the likes of you, it’s a way of living.

 

Alif Arifin Bin Asrar (MEM140014)

Silent Mentor Program merupakan salah satu program yang telah memberikan impak yang sangat besar kepada saya. Banyak perkara yang telah saya pelajari melalui program ini. Bukan sahaja saya mempelajari perkara berkaitan dengan klinikal, malah saya juga dapat mengetahui lebih mendalam mengenai erti kehidupan.

Saya mempelajari erti pengorbanan seorang insan iaitu Silent Mentor saya, untuk memberikan segala kemampuan yang dia ada demi kebaikan pembelajaran kami. Pada waktu yang sama, ianya juga mengajar saya tentang erti penghargaan. Dalam program ini, banyak jasa yang telah Silent Mentor saya korbankan untuk saya walaupun jasa tersebut tidak diberikan secara langsung, saya amat menghargai pengorbanan yang dia berikan. Bagi saya, tiada apa yang dapat membalas pengorbanan tersebut kerana ianya sangat besar bagi saya.

Ianya juga mengajar saya untuk menjadi seorang yang lebih cekal dan berani pada masa akan datang. Pada mulanya, saya memerlukan masa untuk membiasakan diri untuk berhadapan dengan seorang yang tidak bernyawa tetapi setelah beberapa pertemuan dengan mayat tersebut, saya manjadi seorang yang lebih berani dan cekal.

Jika dari segi klinikal pula, program ini amat membantu saya untuk mempelajari pelbagai prosidur dengan lebih praktikal dan hands-on. Doktor-doktor yang mengajar saya ketika sesi klinikal amat membantu dan sangat baik. Mereka mengajar perlahan-lahan sehingga kami semua faham. Ianya amat membantu saya untuk lebih faham tentang teknik sesuatu prosidur.

Akhir sekali, saya berharap, program ini dapat diteruskan pada masa akan datang. Banyak input yang boleh dipelajari melalui program ini. Tidak rugi sama sekali untuk mereka yang diluar sana untuk menyertai program ini. Terima kasih kepada penganjur kerana telah berjaya menganjurkan program yang bermakna ini. Terima kasih juga kepada Silent Mentor saya atas jasa yang anda berikan.

 

Yee Jia Cin (MEM140117)

“For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.” – Khalil Gibran

For the past 1 week, I had the privilege of joining Silent Mentor program and being taught by our Silent Mentor, Madam Lim Poay Shuan. This program had taught me many lessons, lessons that would not be found in our daily routines and, more importantly, lessons that would serve as a valuable reminder for the rest of my life.

Lesson 1: Living a life of mission

I had learned from our Silent Mentor that we need to live with a mission in life. For her, it was “to serve”. Throughout her life as a teacher, she was always finding ways to serve others, especially helping those who were struggling in their studies. She even pledged her body for this program, realizing her final wish to continue to be a teacher even after her departure from this world. As a result, she had impacted many throughout her life and death. Only with a mission in life, we could then make a meaning out of it.

Lesson 2: Professionalism

Throughout the program, I had learned a lot on professionalism. We were expected to be at our best behaviour at all time, as if we were in the actual operating theatre. The doctors involved taught us with patience and dedication. We were also expected to treat our Silent Mentor as a real patient. For example, we were told not to expose unnecessarily and always be delicate when learning from her. Permission was also taken from doctors before we attempted any procedures. This showed that as a future healthcare practitioner, we are expected to be professional at all time.

Lesson 3: Respect to everyone

I had learned that we should always respect everyone around us. In this program, there were many ceremonies conducted for everyone to pay a final respect to our dear Silent Mentor. We were required to participate and facilitate the ceremony. We also had the opportunity to interact with the family members of our Silent Mentor. Here, we learned how to be respectful when talking to family members of the Silent Mentor. The committee for this program also respected all those who were involved by making sure everything runs smoothly, beautifully and conveniently. They also respected our time by not interfering in our daily schedules, accommodating us and by making sure everyone could make it for a wholesome learning experience. Last but not least, we also learned from our Silent Mentor that patient’s decision should be respected by physician attending her. In her final moments of her life, she told the doctor not to do anything to her body so that her student could get the best mentor for them. The doctor respected her decision and did not proceed to do any invasive interventions.

These are some of the valuable lessons, apart from medical procedures, knowledge and skills that my Silent Mentor taught me throughout this program. Thank you Silent Mentor Mdm. Lim. We will always strive to be the best and make you proud.

 

Chew Poh Yan 周宝延 (MEM140128)

林老师就这么静静地躺着,好像当初我们接收她的遗体一般,安祥平和。和当时不同的是,经过了为期四天的工作坊,此时的老师身上多了许多被密密缝合的伤疤。在合上棺盖的那瞬间,我竟有点不舍,好想再多看老师几眼,就算只是一眼也好。我们从未交谈过,甚至从我们相遇以来老师就不曾言语,但这几天的工作坊却让一股亲密之情自心底油然而生。学海无涯,林老师就像我们漫漫学海中的一阵清风,助我们抵达从未涉足的新领域,教会我们许多课本学不到的知识。

人们常说躯壳不过是一副臭皮囊,但又有多少人愿意像无语良师们在往生后捐献遗体,为医学研究作出贡献,为人类的福祉献上一份力。尽管过程疲惫,但我总是时时警惕自己打醒精神学习,因为这是林老师为她的学生准备的最后一堂课,万万不可辜负了她的一番苦心。医学路那么漫长,有些人会忘了初衷,有人会失去快乐,有人会放弃前进,无语良师的出现,让我忆起当时在填写志愿栏时,心里是怎么想的。谢谢您,林老师。

 

Chia Zhi Jien (MEM140021)

Being a final year medical student, I did not have a lot of opportunity to carry out certain procedures, such as chest tube, central venous line, endotracheal intubation, etc. due to worry of harming the patient due to inexperience. However, once we are working in the future, we are all expected to carry out all of these procedures. Thus, Silent Mentor Program has provided a great opportunity for the students to sharpen our skills and build up confidence before doing it on real patients. I would like to convey my gratitude to our Silent Mentors who were willing to sacrifice their body to contribute to the medical education.

During the workshops, the lecturers also guided us hand in hand to carry out the procedures, and made sure we all had the opportunity to learn. This was very good, as the workshop was carry out in a small group of 5. Doctors also explained and taught us very patiently whenever we ask questions.

After 1 week of Silent Mentor workshop, I am certain that this workshop has brought impact not only in terms of medical knowledge, but also in spirit and in character. Through this workshop, I realized that communication between doctors and patient’s family are also extremely important. My paradigm was shifted, and I learned to see things from different perspectives. The family needs supports when one passes away, and as a doctor, we are there to listen and accompany them, these are the more important things to be a good doctor.

 

Meryl Tong Hui Xin (MEM140054)

曾听闻各种描述爱的话语,但却不比此时更动人了。无语良师无私的大爱,让我们有幸参与这项意义非凡的活动。每个活动细节在我心里留下深深的感激与感悟。做家访时,家属娓娓道来老师的人生,双眼闪烁微笑的说着他的骄傲,哽咽的说着他的辛酸,完毕,说这是老师的心愿。老师心愿圆满的那一天,家属有的强忍着悲痛的泪水,有的悄然泪下,有的哗然哭成泪人。

这世上的爱那么珍贵,我们总害怕它何时会消逝。此时我发现告别后,爱仍以思念的形式存在。老师的无私奉献,无声教诲,远比任何课堂更刻骨铭心;家属忍痛割爱,只为他的一句话。

老师,您们教我们如何勿忘初心,成为悬壶济世的好医生。这份伟大的精神,我无以回报。您的教诲,我们铭记于心,这份难能可贵的体验,将伴随着我的人生烙印在我心底。

如果真有极乐世界,我由衷希望您在那个没病痛等俗事,只有幸福与快乐的地方永远开心。感恩您,无语良师们。

 

Ng Ee Xsien (MEM140073)

“A truly great mentor is hard to find, difficult to part with and impossible to forget.”

The past one month has been a whirlwind of emotion. From getting to know our Silent Mentor to finally reaching the week of workshop, words cannot describe my gratitude towards my Silent Mentor and the family. It was a tremendous act of selflessness, for the sake of our learning.

Thank you, my Silent Mentor, from the bottom of my heart. May your soul rest in peace.

 

Nur Aqilah Binti Abd Rahim (MEM140081)

I remembered that day when my friend shared his experience joining Silent Mentor Program. I was jealous to know skills that he learnt and regret for not registering myself to that program. In my subconscious memory, I was very sure that I did not register myself. But then, I was shocked to know my Silent Mentor team leader added me in a Whatsapp group. I had mixed feelings as far as I knew, my friend and I did not register ourselves to the program. Then I felt quandary to her as she herself did not register.

Long story short, at first, I was not expecting much on the program. I had few concerns as whether or not, I will use the knowledge I might gained from the program in my future career. Only then I realized not just I gained new skills, I also nurture my empathy towards the Silent Mentors’ family. I still remembered me crying during the sending off ceremony. I never thought I would have this hard feeling as I was quite afraid at first during the first session. I still had the memory that the procedures I did was on a dead body and somehow it scared me. But few days later, that feelings gone and when the program was about to end, I felt so sad both to the mentors and their families. I was blessed to the opportunities I had, and I am so thankful to the mentor who was the person that I did the procedures on to such as chest tube insertion and CVL insertion. I would definitely persuade my juniors to join the program so that they will not miss out the knowledge I gained.

 

Nurul Madihah Binti Md Jamaludin (MEM130131)

It started by seeing his family members with shed of tears and listening to their crumbled voice at Silent Mentor Centre. It started there where I myself felt the sadness when our loved one leaves us forever. It started there that I knew nothing will last forever. It started there when I realised that one day when the time comes, we will hopeless and helpless as we no longer alive. It started there when I knew you never own and live in your own body forever. It started there when I knew if you have will to make things right or better, you must do and give it.

To our Silent Mentor, Mr Cheong, with greatest gratitude from deep of my heart, I expressed millions of appreciations to your kindness towards us. I learnt not just for my medical knowledge and skills, but I learnt about true meaning of life from you. You’re no longer be here, but your presence will always be felt by all of us. Every cut and stich, every touch and feel, every wet and clean, that’s every single thing, I feel blessed with the chance given. Thank you, Lao Shi.

 

Yasmin Afifah Binti Aminnuddin (MEM130174)

Being chosen for Silent Mentor program after so long waiting for my turn was a great news to me after heard amazing stories from previous group that experienced Silent Mentor program. I was really looking forward for this program and this program really exceeded my expectations.

I really learned a lot especially on hands-on skills that I had never done before. I was so grateful by being in this program, I learned all of that.

Nevertheless, my deepest gratitude to my teacher, Mr. Cheong that taught us a lot and may you rest in peace, Lao Shi (Mandarin).

A really meaningful Mandarin song that we dedicated to you,

~nin she zui te bie de lao shi (You are special teacher)

wu yan wu yu (Without a word)

chuan shou sheng ming de ao mi (Teaching us the secret of life)

da she da yong (With bravery and sacrifice)

jin qing ran shao ren jian da ai de guang hui (Shining the light of love to mankind)~

Xiexie, Lao Shi.

 

Lim Kai Bin (MEM140047)

I consider myself lucky to have found passion in medicine, despite having yet to actually practice it. In less than a year I will hopefully bear the title ‘Dr.’ in front of my surname, yet from time to time, I still ponder upon what does it take to be a good doctor. Having the privilege to join the Silent Mentor program had provided me the reassurance that I am walking on the right path.

From the first time we received the body of our mentor, to have him cleansed before being kept frozen, till few months later when we thawed his frozen body for our workshops, till the very last time when we had a final look at him before his coffining, the entire experience had been immensely humbling, and in some sense, spiritually reassuring.    

In a world where war, violence and other negativities have become so endemic thus causing us to have pathetically become emotionally numbed, we were once again reminded, that every life is precious. At every incision or suture that we made on our Silent Mentor, we did not forget that the cold body that we were touching was someone else’s husband, father. Despite silent, we knew this body that was silently guiding us, was once an amazing man who had lived a beautiful and inspiring life.

Medicine has been generally regarded as a noble profession probably due to the nature of a doctor’s job, one with a brutal training process and long working hours. Without the right motivation, one can easily be emotionally drained and eventually collapse. It was our Silent Mentor who taught us how noble one can be, to an extend in which I could not have possibly imagined before this. It was the silent him who had taught me what it means to be truly selfless, and to make meaningful sacrifices.

Thank you, dear Mr. Nadarajah, for you had guided me through chest tube and central line insertion, and beyond that, thank you for playing a short yet impactful part of my medical school life, teaching me to stay kind and humble.

 

Azra Balqis Binti Basaruddin (MEM140016)

When I first joined the Silent Mentor Workshop, I thought it would be a very good opportunity for a medical student as we can learn first-hand a few basic procedures.

But throughout the workshop, I gained a lot more than just the technical skills and knowledge. Unlike our anatomy lessons in the pre-clinical years, we know the identity of the mentor. We know his name. He was someone’s husband and father. We got to know his family and their life stories.

My perception changed from merely appreciating this program to understanding the humanity and dignity this workshop creates for the Silent Mentors. I hope we have fulfilled our mentors’ wishes for us to learn. We can never repay the sacrifices our mentors have done.

All in all, this workshop is an experience every medical student should try to grab if the opportunity arises.

 

Nur Syuhaida Binti Mohd Noorazam (MEM140089)

Silent Mentor is one of the best way to learn about medical procedures as well as life. I got to do procedures that I only observed before. I am truly blessed to be given this opportunity as an undergraduate. Besides that, I got to know incredible people who dedicate their whole life to help people, not only from the Silent Mentors, but the organising committee as well. I was able to see the passion in volunteerism with my own eyes instead of just reading them. Silent Mentor program also cultivate sense of empathy from the beginning of the program right until the end. Overall, I am very impressed with this program and hopefully it will continue to grow so that the others can experience what we have experienced and help us to become a great doctor in the future.

 

Tan Say Ying (MEM140107)

Dear mentor,

Thank you for bearing our company in the last moments of your time in this world, even when what remained was your body and not your soul.

Thank you for letting us err and learn from your body, and showing us what did it mean to be brave, strong and selfless, even when the end of life was nearing.

Thank you for having faith in us, strangers that you never had the chance to be acquainted with; that from your sacrifices, we will make good beings and doctors.

Thank you for spreading goodness and nobility - before, during and after death.

Dear mentor, for you I promise, stronger and better, always will I be.

 

Ng Soh Chen (MEM140075)

任我千刀万剐,任您千疮百孔,却无怨无悔。

你我非亲非故,不曾萍水相逢,却甘之如饴。

俯首甘为孺子牛,感恩您,老师。

生的伟大,死的光荣。

 

Thesenrao A/L Samudra Raja (MEM140108)

Silent mentor program was a big eye opener for me. Initially I only got to know about the program from my friends. But when I have registered and went for the home visit, I knew I would forever remember the sacrifice my mentor made. I have learned a lot through my mentor. The past 1 week was tiring but each blade and suture I made on my mentor only made me feels more attached and responsible for him. Thank you dear mentor, for being a part of my journey in becoming a better doctor. Words can’t thank you enough, but my memory of you shall never fade. Thank you Silent Mentor.

 

Lim Wen Tzien 林雯倩 (MEM140050)

Throwing back to the first time I heard about Silent Mentor Workshop, it is from seniors as they sincerely invited us to the gratitude ceremony when I was still a first year medical student, still fresh in University Malaya and don’t quite know what is going on. After attending the gratitude ceremony, I get to know a little bit here and there what it was about. Something about human anatomy, practicing medical procedures were all in my mind. Until sometime in October 2017 where the application was open for us, I signed up as one of the participants.

Words simply cannot express the utmost gratitude and appreciation I would like to show towards Silent Mentor Program. When I received the message from Mr. Sia, it was the first night I’m meeting my Silent Mentor, Mr. Low You Wai. With minimum information about my Silent Mentor, we cleaned and washed his body for the first time until our first home visit. Not like what I always heard from others about their Silent Mentor, filial son/daughter, good family background, high educational level, professionals, loyal husband/wife, blessed with successful children. Mr. Low only received his education until standard 5, a loner, was a drug user, a drug dealer and even been into prison. To be honest, I was quite shocked when I get to know all these from his family. However, his turning point of his life when he was diagnosed with cancer truly touched my heart. His will to change over a new leaf, his courage to admit all his wrong doings in the past, his decision in signing up as our Silent Mentor as if the last thing he would do in his life. All these are more than enough for me to pay him the highest respect.

Silent Mentor Program is not just about the cadaver. It is a body, with a story. Every story behinds touches millions of hearts. Their selflessness in signing up as a Silent Mentor, the grief that their family members need to bear with due to the workshop schedule; all these sacrifices have taught me more than just medical knowledge in textbooks. It is about life messages.

Mr. Low, even with your silence, you have inspired me more than what other teachers do. You are not merely just any other person. To me, you are a hero. Thank you, Mr. Low. You will always be in my heart. May you rest in peace.

 

Haidhar Haziq Bin Jamaluddin (MEM140032)

It was not only about practicing medical procedures. Silent Mentor program gave me a bigger picture of what life really means. The willingness of my teacher to sacrifice his body in making sure that I can gain knowledge from it was beyond of all kindness. I learnt to appreciate. I learnt to be a passionate caregiver. I learnt what ‘sacrificial’ really means. This definitely changes my attitude toward my journey in becoming a good doctor to the people. Thank you for the opportunity given. It was priceless. See you in heaven, my teacher.

 

Muhammad Aiman Bin Lod (MEM140058)

The recent Silent Mentor program has been an eye opener for me. Frankly speaking, this was not my first time handling a dead person. I’ve learnt many things when I was in the program. Things that you cannot learn through textbooks.

I’ve learnt that people has their own way of letting themselves go. Some would want to continue teaching students, and some would want to do good. Fortunately, my mentor was a person who chose to do good for others. He had shown me the extent of a person willingness to change for the better. I’ve learnt that you should never judge a person from what he or she has done in the past but judge them by their current action.

I believe that this value is very important, not just as a future doctor, but as an individual. Thank you, Silent Mentor Centre for giving me a wonderful opportunity to learn about humanity during my years of a medical student. Medicine in my opinion is never a science subject, but more of an art. If we lose the “art” part of medicine, then we can’t really treat a human.

 

Nur Syafiah Husna Binti Elmi Azham Shah (MEM140086)

I had a great learning experience during one whole week of Silent Mentor Program. It was a new experience and an eye opener to me on how this program is conducted. I was a bit worried in the beginning as some of the previous participants told me about how tired they were during this program. Maybe because of I am currently in community posting, it was easier for me to give full commitment and I was not extremely tired by the end of the week. Aside from that, I have learnt a lot of new procedures such as suturing, chest tube insertion, central venous line insertion, intubation etc. I am very grateful for this golden opportunity to learn from Mr. Low, my Silent Mentor. I will definitely recommend this program to others as I have gain a lot of benefits from it.

 

Lim Wei Chun 林玮浚 (MEM140132)

Time flies, 7 days of Silent Mentor Program came to a wonderful ending eventually. I have to say this is an eye-opening, life-changing experience indeed. With the honorable contribution of my Silent Mentor, Mr. Low You Wai, we harvested so much meaningful lesson not merely on clinical skills but meticulous soft skill, empathy, caring and kindness which are indispensable in producing a responsible, competent yet a doctor with a golden heart. Thanks for the support and endless love of his family, for sure we would miss out such a great opportunity in gaining pearl of wisdom. Every stitch and cut from us are full of respect and enthusiasm indeed. This is such a meaningful program, I am therefore galvanizing public out there to shed away the superstitious thought and made a final noble act to the society which is so crucial in forging a good doctor.

 

Nisa Sahira binti Yahya (MEM140076)

Silent Mentor Program was an eye-opening experience for me. Being able to know about the Silent Mentors' life before their deaths had touched me. Through this, the important values to have as a doctor such as empathy and humility was instilled. I was also given the opportunity to perform some procedures which I would probably never be able to do so as a medical student. I am really grateful for being able to be a part of this program which did not only train us medical student on procedural skills but also humanity. 

 

Natasha Sara Ann Concisom (Monash_28239261)

Signing up for the Silent Mentor program, I was not aware of the impact the program would have on me. It was not merely a medical course which gave us, medical students the opportunity to carry out procedures but it left us with lessons that will make us better doctors in the future.  My Silent Mentor taught me selflessness, he did not know any of us but willingly allowed us to learn from him. Through the home visit, I got to know my mentor on a more personal level, the friend, father and grandfather he was. I will never have the right words to thank Mr. Cheong, my Silent Mentor for his contribution, but I hope we make him proud by selflessly helping others as doctors in the future.

 

Quah Hui Jing (Monash_28146719)     

When the coffin of my Silent Mentor rolled pass me in the hallway one final time before leaving the University of Malaya medical faculty for good, I found it hard to hold back the tears that threatened to spill from my eyes. It hit me all of a sudden - I had spent the last week cleaning and caring for my Silent Mentor’s body as if he was a patient.

I found myself hoping I had accomplished at least a fraction of what he had hoped for. It was impossible to ever repay his selfless act of kindness in whole. The act of donating one’s body for the teaching of medical science was too great and too vast a sacrifice to comprehend. I hoped I had helped his family members, however briefly, find their closure too after the long and painful period of grief they had to go through as they waited for the program to commence. 

Through the Silent Mentor program, I understood the value and importance of human connection. In everything we did, we were reminded of empathy, compassion and kindness. Our Silent Mentors too were people like any other, with their hopes, dreams and regrets. It was necessary to treat our Silent Mentors with dignity and respect, and to make each nick, cut and suture with intention. After all, the art and practice of medicine went beyond its science and was - at the heart of it - about the people.

The value of human connection continued to surface throughout my time interacting with the family members and when I worked in a team alongside other medical school students. These connections allowed me to meet and learn from these people who came from all walks of life, finding common ground in our Silent Mentors.

Besides that, the entire program has been nothing short of educational, especially the eye-opening undergraduate workshops. As a year two medical student, the procedures I witnessed were once things I could only read of in books and had dreamt about doing. To have them demonstrated to me live and also perform them under the experienced, guiding hand of the specialists has been an amazing experience. It is also one that would stick with me forever. 

Finally, I am deeply grateful to be given the opportunity to be a participant of the 23rd Silent Mentor Program. In the face of the stark reality of death and the inevitable role it plays in life, it has taught me to appreciate and treasure humanity better and has further inspired me to keep aiming to become a better person and future doctor. 

 

Tan Ying Yue (Monash_28543726)

Medical textbooks, atlases and university curriculum have continuously amazed me of how glorious our entire tangible body system is. Despite our body had been comprehensively studied, there is little available explanation that could answer a more abstract question- what is humanity all about? Through this Silent Mentor program, I gained a little more insight through the selfless act of our Silent Mentors.

The moment when the enclosing plastic was removed, I was stirred once again by the nakedness of Silent Mentor right in front of me. I pondered how much courage was needed to overcome the psychological barrier- loss of dignity- at the very first place of this sacrificial decision; I re-learnt the meaning of respect and its depth. I was reminded that all of us in human family share similar human traits and for that, everyone should be treated equally, with respect, regardless of gender, age and race. In addition, the daily morning and evening clean-up allowed me to practise paying respect and empathizing. Also, the religious ritual conducted during initiation ceremony testified that with respect, peace ensues.

The long-anticipated dissection and procedural workshops were indeed exciting and rewarding. It was a surreal and sensuous experience to touch the delicate lung, string-like vas deferens and to explore within the abdomen while standing its distinctive odour. From the textbooks and virtual models, I usually registered the description of anatomical parts in my brain and visualise the real structure in my mind’s eyes; in contrast, on the Silent Mentors, I could better appreciate the topographical anatomy- the colour contrast, size, shape, texture and relationships of different structures and organs. Furthermore, procedural workstations and suturing opportunities trained my dexterity with a whole new set of interesting tools, ranging from scalpel, laryngoscope, artery clamps to needle holder. I also learnt from my mistake of inserting endotracheal tube into the oesophagus instead of the airway, it was ridiculous yet embarrassing. I got to admit that it was challenging to coordinate everything to do it right.

While preparing for coffining ceremony, I could hardly take my eyes off the general appearance of my Silent Mentor- the contour changes due to thawing and fluid loss; the pools of oozing blood and patches of stained blood here and there; the countless discernible and hidden sutures and staples. It dawned on me that the body had been utilised markedly from head to toes, the pain suffered would be intolerable for a living person while the present appearance is horrid to glance at. Maybe, that was out of imagination for Silent Mentors prior to their black and white pen-off; nevertheless, these are the manifestation of how great their love is for the society.

To sum up, not only did this program nurture me medically, above all, it sowed invaluable spirit and attitude in me. I wish I could impart what I learnt in my daily life to synergistically change the world into a more humane place to inhabit. Last but not least, I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to the selfless Silent Mentors and their families, the organising teams as well as the volunteering teams for making this meaningful program a success.

 

Chuo Chung Ren 朱崇仁 (Monash_28787893)

无语良师工作坊在眨眼之间就已经告一段落了,我们敬爱的无语良师们也完成了第一、也是最后一份职务,平静地离开了我们……

回忆起家访的那一天,我依然记得家属与我们分享一切有关无语良师的事情:童年,初中,高中,恋爱,工作,婚姻和家庭。望着那沉甸甸的相簿,一页页地翻阅那些早已发黄的老照片,倾听着家属们的叙述,仿佛无语良师就在我们的身旁,一一地告诉我们他的故事……

一个月后,无语良师工作坊正式启用大体老师。每一针,都是无语良师的教诲;每一线,尽是无语良师的慈爱;每一刀,竟让我们明白无私和奉献!敬爱的老师,您透过您的大体,提醒了我们:莫忘学医的初心,更要以爱与卑微,成为良医,造就后辈,造福人群!

天上的繁星点点,总有消逝其光芒的时候;美丽的花儿,也有凋零的一天……人的生命也不过如此! 感谢无语良师!就算星星的光芒已逝去,可它那曾经的辉煌灿烂,已永远刻画在银河里;花儿虽然凋零,可它那曾经绽放的美好,早已深深烙印在大地母亲的怀里!无语良师的无私和大爱,就好比星星与花儿,永恒地在我们大家的心里划上了一道美丽的彩虹,永远遗爱人间……

无言无语的老师,您的教诲、您的意志、您的无私、您的大爱,我们将继承,并传承下去……谢谢您。

 

Brian Yeoh Li Qian 杨礼谦 (Monash_28407059)

亲爱的无语良师们

是您,让我们感受到了什么是一片无语中的无私及大爱。

是您,让我们感受到您那份为医学而牺牲自己的高尚及伟大。

是您,让我们享有了最难能可贵的学习机会。

在您身躯上划下的每一刀,缝过的每一针线,必定深深地烙印在我们的脑海里,刻画在我们的心头上,并时时刻刻提醒着我们莫忘学医的初心——那就是成为一名仁医。老师们今日在我们心中播撒下名为无私的爱的种子,我们会精心照料它,把爱的种子播撒在未来每一位病患的心里,把您无私的大爱继续传承下去。

您是我们最刻骨铭心,也是最为特别的老师。我们此生将铭记您为医学的奉献。感恩学医的道路上有您陪伴我们走过。您此生给予我们的恩惠,我们定将以对社会无私的付出来回馈您的恩典。愿您安详。

参与无语良师工作坊的每一幕都一直在脑海里徘徊。最让我难以忘却的是,在我们开始无语良师的课程之前,让家属瞻仰无语良师们遗容的环节。家属对他们最爱的亲人那最后轻声细语的道别,一行行在家属脸颊上滑下的泪水及他们心灵上所要承受的巨大疼痛,在我心中泛起了很深的涟漪,久久不能平息。愿每一位家属平安吉祥,身体安康。

 

Cindy Chong Chia Li (Monash_28463528)

The Sunday 5th of August, 2018 marks a beautiful ending to a meaningful week of the 23rd Silent Mentor workshop. I feel really blessed to be a participant in this workshop, to interact with my mentor’s family, to work in tandem with my wonderful team mates from different varsities and to learn from surgeons in various fields of expertise.

My initial perception of this event was that I could hone my medical skills and gain experience to be a better doctor in the future; but my perspective took a 180 degree turn after getting to know my mentor’s family from the home visit and throughout the preparation for the sending off ceremony. My mentor was a filial son, a loving husband and an amazing dad. He conveyed love through his actions and enlightened me without uttering a word. His life story taught me that to be a good physician is to never forgo humanity and always put myself in the shoes of my patients.

Our beloved mentors were born into the world with nothing, and yet in their departure, they left all of us with such valuable teachings on compassion and humility. The selfless acts of the mentors and the blessings from their families will remain forever engraved in my heart, to stoke my flames of passion in the face of adversities; reminding me to not only be a doctor that cures, but to serve as my patients’ strongest advocate, giving them hope and strength in their darkest moments.

Thank you / நன்றி (Nandri) / 谢谢 fellow mentors! Although you no longer walk amongst us, but your spirit and love will live on in our hearts. Gone but never forgotten~

Rebekah Rhema Gobinathan (Monash_28243161)

The experience I had throughout the Silent Mentor program is something I will hold dear to me for the rest of my life. My first experience coming face to face with a cadaver was somewhat surreal. I understood what I was getting myself into but I wasn’t prepared to make such an emotional bond with my mentor.

With every cut and suture we made on his cold body, I was constantly reminded that this once was a person, someone who had loved and was loved. I was constantly reminded of what it was to be a good doctor, to be kind, compassionate and have empathy. I learned many things from the procedures we did on Mr. Nadarajah’s body but more than that, I learned from the person he had been. I learned the impact that a father’s love has on his family, that actions speak louder than words, that loving our family means always giving them our best.

From washing his hair and cleaning his body in the early hours of the morning to dressing him for the last time and placing him in the coffin to singing one of his favourite songs for our gratitude performance, every part of this program touched me in ways I couldn’t have imagined.

I count myself extremely fortunate and blessed to have had the opportunity to learn from my mentor. I will always be in awe of his selfless sacrifice and I truly hope to one day become a doctor who will make him proud.

 

Ong Juwei (Monash_28841727)

The Silent Mentor Program has come to an end. It is hard to believe how time flies.

Thousands of words cannot express my gratitude towards our beloved mentor, Mr. Nadarajah. He has planted the seeds of knowledge and enthusiasm in me which inspire me to pursue my studies and become a good doctor in the future. I can never forget the moment when I first cut on his chest with my shaky hands and get a touch on his lung with my finger after passing through the layers of skin, tissue and muscles. Although we always have to travel from Monash University to UM after classes during the week, the workshop never fails to brighten me up with all the eye-opening procedures.

The Silent Mentor Program is more than gaining medical knowledge. I am impressed by the selfless decision made by all of the Silent Mentors to donate their bodies for us to practice our skills. On the other hand, the courage of the family members in giving support to the program and helping us to recall the stories of the mentor’s previous life despite the grief always reminds me to value and respect the sacrifice. In addition, it is great to have mentors from three different religions in the program this time, showing us altruism beyond boundaries.

I appreciate to become one of the participants in this program, meeting the colleagues from different institution who are very helpful in guiding us throughout the workshop. Lastly, thank you very much, mentors, for the enriching lessons about science and humanity. Rest in peace.

 

Jovy Wong Zheng Dao (Monash_28037111)

My seniors were often talking about their unforgettable experiences with their Silent Mentor program. Finally, I had a chance to participate in 23rd Silent Mentor program. During the program, I was given the chance to practice suturing and some surgical procedures such as chest tube insertion and tracheal intubation. I truly appreciate the difference between working on real human body and practicing on mannequin and anatomy models in school.

However, there was something I learnt far more important than the hands-on experience. Our beloved Silent Mentor, Madam Lim taught me the precious humanistic value. I was immensely touched when we were told that Madam Lim requested the doctor in the emergency department not to cut her body as she wanted to preserve the best for us. Her love for students is selfless and unconditional, even she did not know us personally, she contributed her lifelong body majestically to her students. She showed us what wisdom is and had given her own live everlasting meaning and value. I will always remind myself of Madam Lim’s life mission, “To Serve”.

Another important lesson I learnt is attitude, the way we treat others. Every morning before the workshop started, we would clean our mentor’s body and observe a minute of silence and prayer, and after the workshop ended at night, we would suture all the incision wounds. The way we cared for Madam Lim’s body showed our last respect to her. Respect and empathy are qualities that are lacking in many doctors nowadays especially after pursuing medicine for years.

Lastly, I would like to thank Madam Lim’s family members for their support. They had lost their loved one and suffered pains but granted Madam Lim’s last wish as a teacher. There is no more selfless act of worship than to help someone who can never repay you. I can never repay Madam Lim for what she had sacrificed but remember what she had taught me. I promise to serve others selflessly and treat them like our family members, with love and compassion. 

Thank you, Madam Lim, our Silent Mentor. Rest in peace.

 

Li Zhi Yung 李智荣 (Monash_28381882)

29.07.18 从冰柜领出您的那一刻,忐忑。

01.08.18 解冻后触碰到您的那一瞬,紧张。

02.08.18 净身时见到您慈祥的脸,肃然起敬。

03.08.18 看到您身上划过的每一刀,痛心。

04.08.18 为您换上寿衣封棺时,泪痕满面。

05.08.18 陪您走完人生最后一程,衷心感恩。

‘無语良师’无私奉献大体,默默承受着千刀万剐,培育医学璞玉,遗爱人间。在塑造仁医的同时,‘無语良师’也让医学生及其他医疗专才在其身上摸索,尽可能减少医疗失误。念了两年医学系,现场解剖的确让我大开眼界,瞬间连贯了零零散散的医学知识。虽然一些程序还未曾接触,但专科医生在旁指导下,我掌握了插管,输液,缝合伤口等技巧。無语良师工作坊让我获益匪浅,增长了不少智慧,也有幸与各大学的学长学姐们,慈济志工交流。

千言万语尽在不言中,感谢所有大体老师,您的教诲,我们一定铭记于心。

 

Goh Wern Sze (Monash_28297849)

I remember that moment when we first received Madam Lim at the Silent Mentor Centre.

I remember that moment when I prayed hard with my closed eyes and fists.

I realized then that I will learn as much as possible from our Silent Mentor.

“Learn as much as you can,” Mr Wong advised us before the workshop started. I believe that that message was conveyed on behalf of his late mother. Even days after the brief introduction session of our Silent Mentors, I couldn’t help but recall the moment when our hands shook, as he thanked the group for the presentation which had moved his heart. I realized then that it was not just a story telling during the home visit, but a flashback when Madam Lim’s children time-travelled back to bring us into the life of their beloved mother. I knew then that death is not easy; leaving memories to heal loved ones who were left behind to bravely accept death with support, strength and unconditional love.

Each time I took a glance at our Silent Mentor, I was reminded of her life mission “To Serve,” which coincidentally was also my school motto I have strived to uphold since. Selfless and loving, Madam Lim silently taught me the little things we can do to serve, impact and contribute not only to our family members, but also to the people whom we may not have had a chance to meet; our paths crossed, but I wish I have met her in life earlier. Not to mention, originating from the same island. Through this workshop, I must admit that though tears did not wet my cheeks, I was extremely touched by her noble act of giving and serving. I learnt to respect our Silent Mentor. I felt the motivation to learn in every session. Emotions ran wild in me. To empathize and to be there for others after understanding the hardships they encounter. That was the significant difference from learning with plastic models and diagrams in books.

Our Silent Mentor gave me the courage to ask and the confidence to perform. At that moment, I did not want to let her down. I will do my best now and in the future to be like you. Thank you teacher, Silent Mentor Madam Lim Poay Suan. My first Silent Mentor, my first sight and touch of internal organs and various medical procedures. You will forever be engraved in my heart.

I would also like to extend my heartfelt gratitude to the family members of Madam Lim for their support in realizing Madam Lim’s final wish. It is them who made the whole program a successful one.      

 

Lee Jo Ie (Monash_27032493)

Science, or medical studies in particular, is so intriguing that scientists spent their whole lifetime to study it while medical students spend almost half a million to understand it. However, when breath becomes just air eventually, we are mere mortals. Is it worth spending a lifetime just to study something that is not eternal?

The difference lies in humanity. Being medical students in the journey to be doctors is not just digesting medical knowledge and applying them in cases posed by lecturers in active sessions and definitely not just to get a “bright and prosperous” career. The true meaning lies beyond that, to leave a mark in somebody’s life and make a difference for the betterment of someone’s quality of life. We learn to be empathetic, compassionate and caring in the process of building up our professionalism and skills. This is something no textbooks or lecturers can teach us. Only through experience, such as the Silent Mentor Program, can we learn this unforgettable lesson.

The Silent Mentor Program has reminded me of why I started this career in the midst of busy schedules in medical school, loads of information for every system and high expectations from family and friends. Although it seems tired and exhausting, I keep telling myself that it is all worth it, as long as I have changed someone’s life for the better.

Besides, the Silent Mentor Program helped me realize my potentials that I never knew I could reach. Dealing with cadavers was never my thing and I was afraid that I might develop reactions after that. However, I was calm and steady when I dealt with my Silent Mentor. In fact, the experience sparked my interest in the field of human anatomy as learning from real human has a huge difference from learning through atlases and models. Moreover, emotionally fragile, I learnt to be strong especially with patient’s family members. If a doctor reacts emotionally to the patient’s condition, the family members might lose confidence towards him/her. Therefore, this experience helped me to suppress my emotions appropriately and not further affect the family members negatively.

Furthermore, I really admire and respect the contributions of the Silent Mentors. Silently, they allow us to learn from their bodies through anatomy and procedures. Although they physically left this world with cuts and sutures on their bodies, I believe they are satisfied and contented spiritually. We were mere strangers yet they become one of the most influential people of our lives in pursuing the medical career. It is my honor to be their student and I cannot do anything to thank them but to honor my pledge to be a good doctor in the future.

 

Tioh Wei Jie (Newcastle_160002979)

Being a 3rd year medical student, I came across this program through few of my seniors who have participated in the previous batches of Silent Mentor program, and positive feedbacks were being brought up.

To me, this is definitely an eye-opening experience, whereby we had the opportunity to see procedures which we might yet to learn in medical school, and those were demonstrated by enthusiastic and passionate surgeons. We even had hands-on experience to try and carry out the procedures. For your information, my campus is located at Johor Bahru. I do think that this workshop is worth the journey from Johor Bahru to Kuala Lumpur to attend this workshop. This program also serves its purpose to cultivate the sense of gratification. We should be grateful to all Silent Mentors for their contribution in donating their body for medical education purposes, as well as to the family members in supporting his/her decision into become a Silent Mentor. This sense of appreciation should also be incorporated into our daily lives for those who have helped us into becoming better healthcare providers in the future.

Last but not least, I would like to thank the organising committee for coming up with such a great event. ‘From my perspective, there haven’t been any regrets upon signing up for this Silent Mentor program.’  For those who are interested, do come and grab this ‘once in a lifetime’ opportunity. Once again, thank you. I wish all of you all the best.

 

Ioanna Sim Ting Yung 沈婷蓉 (IMU_ME0213033039)

Sherwin B. Nuland has stated that 'death with dignity is our, the society's, attempt to deal with reality of what is too frequently a series of destructive events that evolve by the very nature of the disintegration of the dying person's humanity’. Death with dignity is what humans has often wished for in order to lessen our own fear. Fear of death. Fear of being left alone.

I have been wondering if there is such thing as death with dignity? I believe, in chronic illness where we try to prolong life, we are peeling away our patient's dignity to the core of their vulnerability. Where is the patient's dignity when they are no longer independent?

My question has been answered by my Silent Mentor, Mr. Low You Wai. He has shown to me through his silence what is a dignified death. It is not the process of dying. It doesn't matter if he has shown to the world his weaknesses. It is his selfless love that defines him. His altruism has reminded me to have more faith in humanity.

I thought I would have fear in this program. I would have fear towards death, towards cadaver. What I have experienced is not what I have expected. I have all sorts of emotions except fear. Fear has never touched me. This program has left me with utmost respect and gratitude.

This program is not merely about practicing skills on cadavers. It is about knowing and understanding each Silent Mentors personally. Home visit let me understand my mentor who he was. Taking care of our mentor daily throughout the short few days is no longer just a duty. I wanted to do my best for my mentor as he has done for me. My respect for Mr. Low multiples each day, whenever I look at his ever increasing new wounds.

Thank you, Mr. Low. What you have taught me will always stay with me. You will always be my special teacher. 

 

Yong Zhi Lin 容梓林 (IMU_ME0213032848)

I am very grateful and thankful for having the opportunity to participate in this Silent Mentor program during the waiting period for my houseman-ship training. This is definitely a very valuable and memorable experience for each and every one of us. I have gained more than I expected from this program.

I believed that all students have learned and gained a lot of medical knowledge as well as performed procedural skills in this workshop. Although it is mandatory for all doctors to have good medical knowledge and practical skills however I believed being a good doctor must always be respectful towards all patients regardless of their races, religion and family background. Patient centred care is the most important aspect in healthcare profession.

Furthermore, I would like to thank all Silent Mentors whom made the great decision and sacrifices for us to have this learning opportunity. They had taught us to be a kind-hearted, loving and caring doctors in the future. A doctor with good moral values will definitely warmed patients’ heart and this brings great influence to all patients both physically and mentally.

Home visit had been the most important session for this program as we were able to have better understanding about our Silent Mentors by listening to their story from family members. I am very touched when we knew about their reasons of joining this program in their last moment of life. All Silent Mentors had inspired us in different ways. Thank you so much Mr. Low for being my Silent Mentor.

22nd Silent Mentor Workshop 17-22/04/2018

Steven Toh (IMU_22025)

Silent Mentor Program provides a golden opportunity for medical students to enhance their surgical skills by working with real human bodies. It allowed me to experience the spirit of total selflessness by our beloved Silent Mentors, which I would strive to embody in my career as a doctor in the future. I would recommend every aspiring medical student or practitioner to grab this opportunity and participate fully in the program.

 

William Lim Jia Hao (IMU_22179)

Words simply cannot express the gratitude for being given the opportunity to participate in the Silent Mentor program. This program truly shed light to the life of patients and allow medical students to understand the human side which is imperative to cultivate the sense of empathy and humility to doctor. This program have had enlightened me and broaden the horizon of my view on medicine. I was given the chance to watch and learn from doctor performing surgical procedure and to do suturing with guidance from the training doctors. I am grateful to the Silent Mentor and their sacrifice could never be repaid. Thank you very much Mr. Teh and family for imparting the greatest lesson of all which to treat other how you wanted to be treated which is with respect and dignity.

 

Fathimath Zaha Ikram (Monash_28610652)

I first heard about the Silent Mentor Program from one of my seniors. When she described the program, it felt like an amazing opportunity to learn. Little did I know that the connection that we would have with our Silent Mentors would be so strong. Getting to know our mentors through their family allowed us to be more empathetic, respectful and appreciate them through every procedure performed. During the first day of the workshop, it was hard to fathom the fact that my mentor had ever so selflessly donated his body to help us learn and visualize more than what we can from our books. Throughout the whole program, there were so many emotions that could not be expressed through words. We will never forget our mentors and feel truly grateful for our mentors and their families for giving us this incredible opportunity to practice our medical skills and teaching us to be empathetic and compassionate.

 

Nor Hazira Binti Hishamuddin (IMU_20360)

Silent Mentor program was one of the programs that I still get attached too emotionally even though the program was already over. It was an amazing memory for me. Get to know about my Silent Mentor, his family and making new friends from other universities. This program is entirely different from the traditional education whereby the students regain surgical skills by facing the cold anonymous cadaveric models with unmindful and un-empathetic manner or only through mannequins thus limit our experience with real life situation in the future as doctors. Through this program, I was not only acquired surgical skills but also included the caring and compassionate approach to the Silent Mentor by closing all the wounds carefully, dressing them with undivided dignity, paying my last respect to them and interact with the family members. If I am given an opportunity to join this program again, I’ll definitely up for it. I realise from this program, other than broaden my knowledge in medical and surgical skills, I definitely improved on my empathetic skills and this program did open my eyes to new events that I have never experience before.

 

Ravitha A/P Ravi (MEM130140)

The Silent Mentor Program has definitely taught me many new things that cannot be found in books. Throughout these 7 days of workshop, I learnt the value of selflessness, patience, empathy and most importantly love. Our Silent Mentors have never met us. Yet, they chose to donate their body for us to learn from them. The sacrifices they made somehow had influenced me to treat patient like my own family members and also contribute to the community in the future, just like our Silent Mentors did. Thank you my dearest Silent Mentors. May you find peace in the after-life. You will be always remembered.

 

Chua Chia Ean (MEM140026)

From the day when I first received our Silent Mentor’s body, I thought that Silent Mentor Workshop would just be like another anatomy dissection or autopsy class that I had gone through previously. Soon after that, we had the home visit session which we got to know our mentor’s life from the very beginning to the end. Then we had a one week workshop with our mentor. Every morning, we had to bath our mentor. We also had the opportunity to learn knowledge that we can never easily get in the textbook and practice some skills that we can rarely perform in the real patients. Among all, the most important lesson learned is the selfless love which is demonstrated by the mentor. It takes a lot of sacrifices for a Silent Mentor to donate his/her body after passing away for the medical students and doctors to learn and become more competent. 

Thank you our Silent Mentors for inspiring us to become a better doctor in the future and also for being the greatest teachers in our life!

 

Muhammad Fauzan Bin Redzuan (MEM140064)

A teacher is a person who can give hope, ignites imagination, and instil love on knowledge. But Mr. Teh is a mentor who instils passion in giving and helping others which is more crucial as a doctor. Apart from learning medical based knowledge, Mr. Teh silently giving a strong message for us to be more selfless and willingly to sacrifice for the benefit of others. I am truly touched on how he dedicated his life to help person who is in need without hoping for reward. This Silent Mentor program should be expand to nationwide to give opportunity to other medical students to gain and to feel the un-describable experience that I have gone through for the past one week. It was truly amazing! Lastly, I would like to thank to my Silent Mentor Mr. Teh and may you rest in peace.

 

Lim Wan Ting (MEM140049)

“有缘千里来相会”,虽然我与大体老师—郑金春老师之前并不相识,但缘分还是让我们相遇。虽然我无缘可以与他面对面交流,但从他的生平事迹中,我学到了不少正确的人生观和处事待人的道理。身为医者,他一直都是秉持着医者父母心,着重的落实医德。他一直都在为大众服务,提供义诊和赠医施药。他以身作则,用行动来教育我们这些医学生,期望我们可以成为有高尚医德,负责任的医生。 

“捧着一颗心来,不带半根草去”,表达了郑老师无私奉献的高尚精神。也因如此,我才可以学到许多课堂上学不到的知识和技能,让我受益不浅。他从不在乎我们的失误,而是默默地承受我们割的每一刀,缝的每一线。每当我看到他身上的伤痕,我都替他难过,并在心里想,他需要多大的勇气和无私奉献的精神才能将自己的身体捐献出来。 此外,我也很感恩他的家人一直非常支持这项计划。 当我看到他的家人在伤心地流泪时,我的心也在流泪。我感受到了他们的不舍,但他们还是愿意完成郑老师的遗愿,把他的身体捐献出来给我们学习。这也需要相当大的勇气和决心。 

在《无语良师》计划,我也学到了团队精神的重要性。我们大家来自不一样的国家,不一样的大学和学年,但是大家还是可以互相帮助,互相包容,互相学习。虽然我们在一起的时间很短暂,但我相信这段友情将会非常难忘。 

於此,我想向老师以及其家属致最高的敬意和谢意,并借此诗句赠于老师:                        

热心公益妙安排,

生前出力也施财,

往者之后捐大体,

人人称讚是如来。 

我也希望老师一路走好。他的家人可以更勇敢及积极乐观的态度地面对接下来的日子,也希望他们可以幸福美满。感恩!

 

Aina Salihah Binti Shahruniza (MEM140012)

At first I had my doubts before joining this program. I was only exposed to it once during my first year when a lecturer mentioned it. I eventually sign up after my senior said this is an opportunity I cannot miss. 

So I had my preconceptions. I wondered why we must do the home visits and the slides and all. Why do we have to do it? In the end, when the program ends, only did I understood. This program is designed as such that even though I have never met my mentor, I feel as if I had known him forever. I can remember his hobbies and his virtues and his life journey. When I finally send him off to his final journey, it feels as if I am sending off my own kin. 

All surgical experiences aside, the more valuable experience that I had gain is new found friendship. With the friends that I have made during this program with the family members. Even though I don't speak a single mandarin word and the family members don't really speak English, we can still communicate through the common language of love for Mr. Teh. I learn about the burial customs of different beliefs and how all of us face our final destination in the same yet different ways. 

I think the most important thing that I learn during this program is that life is temporary. When I die, what do I want to leave behind? I hope it's something great, just like our Silent Mentors.

 

Adrian Lee Yen Xian (MEM140124)

The Silent Mentor Programme was one in which participants learn and practice surgical skills on donors, who had donated their bodies upon passing for this exact purpose. It was with this I participated in the workshop, believing that I would be able to learn such skills. However, what I took away from the workshop was not just surgical skills, but a whole dimension and perspective to the life. 

It was understood, and in fact, stressed upon that the “patients” upon which we learn our skills are not merely “bodies” to cut up, but “people”. The mentors were not to be treated as a mannequin, but as though they were still alive. Initially, I had my doubts, but as the program progresses, starting with the home visit, I have gained an insight into the lives of the mentors. I learned their stories, not just of their medical conditions, but also of their lives. Their occupations, hobbies, personalities, even their outlook on life especially their approach to death. In the span of one hour, the mentor whom had arrived at the Silent Mentor Centre became more than a body. It had become an entire person. 

It was not just the lives of the mentors themselves into which I gained an insight, but also the family members. I have seen the pain in the eyes of the family members, at their loss, and especially when they have to bear the pain of the memories upon our questioning. They were unable to lay not just their loved ones at rest, but also the memories of their lives. Their remarkable strength and willingness to bear the pain for the benefit of medical research and learning touched me, and gave me a new found perspective into the concept of sacrifice. 

So in honour of the love demonstrated by the mentors in their willingness to donate their bodies, and in honour of the strength of spirit of the family members who endured much pain in the face of this sacrifice, I thank the Silent Mentors and especially their family members, for the sacrifice of their bodies, for the sacrifice of their pain.

 

Chong Kai Ning 张凯宁 (MEM140022)

有一份大爱,深沉、细腻、无语。

有一份无私,伟大、高尚、深远。 

早闻无语良师计划的意义深远,更深知若没有老师们的伟大牺牲,无我舍身,我们也不会有机会参与这项神圣的活动。参与了整项活动之后,只能说活动的每一个细节都在我的心里留下深深的感动和感激,心中的涟漪一直都在越扩越大,余波荡漾。 

无语良师给予我们的,远比学识上的渊博来得更刻苦铭心。他们教育我们,除了要努力从书本以及病人身上扩大学识之外,更为重要的,是时时刻刻不忘记保持一颗关怀怜爱的心,方能成为一位仁心仁术的好医生。 

一片静谧中,您们教会了我们如何成为悬壶济世的医生;一片无语中,您们让我们享有了最难能可贵的学习机会。千言万语都无法述尽我们对您们的感激,只能将这一份感动,连同对您们的记忆,小心翼翼地收进心底,反复回味。 

迄今,我由衷相信,在另一个世界里,您们正快乐地当着最美丽的天使,没有病痛折磨,没有俗事烦扰,只有真挚的平安喜乐,一切弥漫着原本就属于您们的银铃笑声。 

谢谢您们,我们亲爱的无语良师们。愿您们安息。

 

Hamizah Binti Hashim (MEM140033)

Generosity is the practical expression of love. Our beloved Silent Mentors have shown us their greatest love by giving us the opportunity to learn from them. Although we never meet them, they are very special because they can be our teachers without even speaking to us. I am touched by their generosity and sacrifice which I will never forget. Thank you Silent Mentors for your contribution to the learning process of future doctors. I hope there are more people like you so that our country can make not just skilful doctors, but also doctors with good and kind heart.

 

Hamsia Binti Mappiase (MEM140034)

When people asked me about Silent Mentor program, I paused and think how should I put it into words. To be honest, I don’t know what I should say. This program was beyond what words can describe. 

I was hesitant at first before enrolling to the program because of the hectic clinical schedule. It took a lot of thinking and deciding whether to join or not. However, after the program ended, I am the most grateful person on earth for my decision to be part of this program. 

Throughout this 1 week journey, I gained abundant knowledge about medical sciences and surgical skills. Not only that, the mentors had taught us on how to be a future doctor with empathy and patience toward the patients. 

My dear Teacher Mr Tee, even in your difficult time battling the disease that you had suffered from, you were still capable on making such a brave decision to be our teacher.  I know, this gratitude won’t be enough to express how blissful I am to have you as our teacher but I promise to you that one day, I will try my very best to become a good doctor, who understand my patients and treat them with compassion and love just as what you want us to be. 

And now, you may rest in peace.

 

Mohamad Ridwan Bin Abdul Manap (MEM130091)

"A teacher takes a hand, opens a mind and touches a heart". 

In every phase in my life, I always wanted something that make my soul breathing, challenges that make me grow up, or even people that can inspire me. 

Participated in Silent Mentor program, I got all of it, together. Our teachers (Silent Mentors) not only touch my heart, they teach me how to be a good person in future. They sacrifice themself without expecting, just only hope that we can be a doctor that treating patients with full of heart. 

Dear my beloved Silent Mentors, thank you for your part in my life journey.

 

Muhammad Iznul Haziq Bin Md Daud (MEM140065)

Selfless is defined by concerned more with the need of others than one's own. This definition entail definitely to this program as its main focus through the act of the mentors. Though they are silent, the things I learned from them were more than words can be put on paper alone. They taught me about selflessness, humility and courage. A man once said, "I have a theory that selflessness and bravery are not all that different". After the program, I truly understood the meaning behind these words. To one of the bravest man I did not have the chance to meet but is fortunate enough to learn from, I give you my deepest gratitude.

 

Saw Yean Ting 苏嫄婷 (Newcastle_140671955)

You are a human first, before you’re a doctor. I think that is the essence of this program - it is alright to form a healthy relationship and empathise with your patients (or in this case, our mentors and their family members); and that it is okay to feel bad when it’s really not okay. 

With our Silent Mentors, they provided us not just their bodies for us to practise our skills but also taught us what’s important in life. They might not have led the best life but they have chosen to contribute their bodies for greater use after their passing. 

Often, we meet people who describe their doctors as cold and aloof. Maybe it’s a defence or a coping mechanism by the doctors? It would have been difficult if they feel too attached to their patients. However, I do believe that we should learn to balance some emotional detachment with compassion, for we are only human. 

Family members of our mentors have enlightened us the power of love. As much as they might not agree with our mentors’ wishes to donate their bodies in the name of science, they eventually agreed to grant their loved ones’ last wish, because of the great love they have for their child or spouse. The pain of losing someone is never easy, what more agreeing to the idea of sending their bodies to be studied. 

Thank you, mentors, for reminding us to be compassionate, and to be human - to feel, to laugh, to cry, just like everybody else. I am grateful to have met your wonderful family, it is no wonder you have so much love to share with us and the rest of the world. All of you have a special place in our hearts and I will never forget the tiny tug at the heart when I first met you.

 

Alexis Wong Ching 黄清 (IMU_ME0213033018)

Words cannot express my utmost gratitude and honour to be able to join the Silent Mentor Program. Our Silent Mentor, Mr Tee Ten Chang’s selfless act not only imparted medical knowledge and skills to us, but most importantly taught us about love and humanity. The very essence of this program is the spirit of love and volunteerism. Home visit was a very useful way of getting to know our mentors and their families. It really gave us an insight about who these mentors were and how they were like. The learning process was profound throughout the program. I felt that it gave a very humanistic touch when we finally cleaned and clothed our mentors in fresh clothes for coffining. Emotions were stirred during the gratitude ceremony, as we heard touching speeches from a representative from the mentor’s family. I believe that friendships have been fostered, with new friends made and perhaps some came out of this program even stronger. Truly, I am very grateful to everyone involved. Everyone played a major role to make the one-week successful and smooth. I can only hope that the last wishes of the Silent Mentors have been fulfilled.

 

Wong Wei Xin 黄炜心 (IMU_17004)

I first heard of this program in 2010 when I was given a chance to join a two-weeks youth camp organized by the Tzu Chi University in Hualien, Taiwan. At that time, the program was not introduced in Malaysia but the program fascinated me deeply. I was elated and overjoyed to learn that the program was introduced in University Malaya in 2012 and hope that I would one day be able to join the program. 

When I got the phone call saying I got into the workshop, it was indeed a dream came true. I joined the workshop in hopes that I could gain more medical knowledge and sharpen my skills, it was my Silent Mentor’s selflessness act of humanity that moved me and inspired me the most to become an ethical doctor in the future. 

This workshop has changed and inspired me in many ways. Through home visits and meetings with the family, we got the chance to know him more as a person. I got to understand how hard it was for the family to have gone through all this, grieving while trying to fulfil my Silent Mentor’s last wish. We were very involved in the entire process, and eventually I got quite emotionally attached to my mentor. I learnt a lot of new skills throughout the medical workshop, and it was definitely a once in a lifetime experience for me. 

I will be forever grateful to be given the privilege to join this workshop, and to have met my Silent Mentor who had selflessly contributed his body for medical purposes after his passing. 

May you rest in eternal peace now, my dearest Silent Mentor.

 

Khoo Kay Jin 邱继仁 (MEM140044)

Something about our heart-felt conversations with the family members, something about getting to know who our mentors were, really drove home the point that what we were dealing with was more than just another cadaver in the anatomy lab. This cadaver had a life story, a loving family behind him, and a big heart. He was a filial son, a patient husband, and a loving father, whose life was cut short at such a young age when he was just bearing the fruits of his past efforts. The message he left behind was as sad and heart-breaking as it was inspiring. He had hoped that even though he has an incurable disease, he played a part in contributing to the advancement of medical sciences, so that the day would come when his disease cease to make another suffer as he did. They say the mediocre teacher tells, the good teacher explains, but the great teacher inspires. And silent as he was, he has inspired us like no other teacher has ever did. To the world you may be just another person, but to us you are a hero. Thank you, my mentor. And thank you Silent Mentor Program for opening our eyes to a world outside of textbooks and lectures. Students might forget what the books taught them, but they will never forget what their teachers said.

 

Chong Yueng Kent 张荣庆 (MEM140024)

我相信每个人在世上的存在都有任务得完成,而人们得以生存也是因为他人的任务有你。大体老师们在世时跨越极限造福人群,完成了神圣任务。因为心中有爱,他们将在世的终极任务交到了我们手里,然后往生极乐世界。 

这一次,我为往生或死亡加了一个定义--原来往生也可以充满着爱;从家访到工作室的最后一天,‘无私’这俩字频频出现在我们耳边。能真正做到无私,就是不求回报地让他人渡过难关,或过得更美好;人类本性自私,人不为己谁为己?灵魂走了,留下了肉体;虽然说是无用之物,但有多少人能够舍弃一堆的迷信,把自己的身体交给别人呢?但他们做到了,大体老师的这次奉献,为医学界的工作者增添了技术价值,更助医药界未来的发展登上更高一层楼。 

我为所得到的知识感到无比感激,但更感动的是老师们的无私奉献。爱,是世间最高尚的情感,老师的大爱毋庸置疑会影响即将成为医生的我们,巩固了我们医德的基础,让我们变得更加‘人类’。家属的忍痛割爱,及老师的伟大精神深深感化了我们,我们能回报的就是继续用老师教会我们的事,为社会带来改变,继续传承大爱。 

愿老师安详;愿家属们平安吉祥。合十 

 

Tan Hzu Shing (IMU_22849)

I am grateful to my Silent Mentor, Ms Phoon for her unconditional giving of herself. I am gratified to be able to witness the support system her family had, the way she coped with her disease and the way she lived her life. It saddened me that I had not known Ms Phoon before she passed on, who I later discovered to be beautiful on the inside and outside as well. Silent Mentor solidified my focus and perception about doctors that competency is one thing, empathizing is another. I was attracted to this program for the way they cared for the bodies of the mentors, because being able to handle death is a matter of importance to me, not to become immune to death, but to find appreciation for the living. The surgical and procedural workshops are a bonus to me, and I am thankful for the exposure and learning. 

Asma' Binti Mohd Hussin (MEM140015)

Silent Mentor is a journey albeit a brief one. Cruise it is not, I am ragged with emotions. For once as a youngster and a junior member of the medical fraternity, I saw the glimpse of a patient's life from her childhood, apprehended her rooted values through the visit to her family's house and handled her lifeless body upon her death, all the way until her burial service. Perhaps, what our Silent Mentors intended us to learn is beyond medical sciences and surgical skills. In their silence, they are teaching us the sense of humanity, the act of selflessness and their affectionate touch to the world.  

Throughout the program, I met with many people including the trainers, other participants and the volunteers. The hands-on training on many basic but life-saving bed-side procedures equipped me with the confidence for future practice. I am also glad that we had a workshop on surgical procedures in which we only had the chance to observe from a distance in the operational theatre. The entire workshop itself ran smoothly, efficiently and successfully. I admire the dedication and hard-work the organiser and the volunteers maintained. To notice that this program stands on public funding alone, I am further impressed by the amount of generosity this world is capable to give.  

Humbled by the experience, I am very grateful for the golden opportunity to be part of this esteemed program.

 

Wong Xiang Qing 王湘晴 (Monash_28289617)

无语良师短短几天的课程结束了,但脑海里还一直环绕着其中一位家属的嘱咐:学医不忘初心。 

无语良师课程其实只有短短三天,但令我心灵受益更多的是前后准备的过程。做家访时,我看见了悲恸的家属强忍着泪光,一点一滴地娓娓道来老师生前的美好。每提起老师,家属的嘴角都不禁微微往上扬,仿佛忆起某个天朗气清的午后老师温暖的笑靥。家属的点头让老师更能安然地闭上双眼去完成他们的心愿。然而从老师离世到课程开始的这期间,家人都要承受着无比巨大的痛,耐心等待老师心愿圆满的那天到来。那天家属抱着医生哭成泪人的那一幕,我听见了一颗无处安放的心慢慢地碎裂。也只有亲眼看了这些我才明白,医生能给家属们的慰藉是非常具有温度的。在黑暗中最脆弱最无助时刻的病人,手中唯一能抓到的救命稻草就只有医生的手。医生一个微不足道的关心,对于病人就是最强大的心灵后盾。 

我看见了无私。那是生命陨落以后,即使会落得遍体鳞伤依然愿意奉献身躯。我理解了无语。那是无声胜有声,用一泓清澈的泉水浇醒沉睡的人们。 

每一道割在她身上的刀痕,每一滴家属留下的眼泪,都会在我们心里埋下一根种子,待日后长出茂密枝叶,希望也能为他人遮荫。 

今天就在日记本里记下:勿忘初心。

 

Wan Muhammad Afnan B Wan Airol Anuar (MEM140113)

Silent Mentor Program has taught me a lot, not just improved my very minimal medical knowledge but also to be empathy and respect patient’s family members. We are not dealing with one person, instead the whole family. So, it is very important to give our best services to all patients! 

The best mentors are those who show where to look but don’t TELL what to see. That’s why Silent Mentor is the best teacher that I have ever had and will always be the best. All the skills that I have gained throughout this program will be used in my future career and it will definitely help thousands other patients. As saying goes, our mentor is like a candle, she consumes herself to light the way for us. I am so thankful and grateful to be part of this program, I learn to remove all the egos to serve others. 

As saying goes, it takes a big heart to shape little minds. I am impressed with our mentor effort to help us even at very last moment of her life. I can’t imagine how I could pay for all of this efforts, it is too much for me. But one thing that I can be sure, I promise to do as what you keep reminded us. “Put thousands of knives in me, its fine, put it wrongly in me, I will forgive you but don’t ever put a single wrong knife in real patient’.   

Before I end, I would like to thank from the bottom of my heart towards family members, all the Silent Mentor program staff and our volunteers that give hands along this program. Without this cooperation, we are nothing. Thank you again. I will keep this in my memories forever.

Natalie Lai Zi (MEM140070)

It's amazing - the supreme art of teaching without talking. How you demonstrated to us what selflessness, love and compassion are. Miss Phoon, I hope our paths have crossed earlier to get to know you better, but with the home visit all the way to Penang and chatting with your family, reminiscing about your life that was so well lived with your endless volunteering work in many countries. Your heart of gold is truly inspiring. What I have learnt from this program was too much to be written in a paragraph. Thank you Miss Phoon, Mr Teh, Mr Tee and Mr Sam, for your lives have touched many and until forever will you live in our hearts. Rest in peace.

Nurul Natasha Binte Amran (IMU_22457)

The Silent Mentor workshop was truly an eye-opening experience. This was my first ever experience on a real patient’s body. We were taught many surgical and clinical skills that I had never seen before. I have always wondered how doctors do such procedures in a real setting. This workshop has taught me and allowed me to experience my first ever clinical procedures. I will always remember the moments my Silent Mentor taught me. As medical students we not only learn many clinical and surgical skills but also essential virtues such as humility and compassion. Towards the end of the workshop, I could not thank my Silent Mentor enough for the skills that she has taught me. I wish I could have met her when she was still alive. She was truly inspirational through her selflessness and willingness to continue her legacy even after she has passed on, so that we, future doctors can learn and benefit from her body. I was inspired through every second of learning from her. This experience was a great one and one that I will never forget. Thank you my Silent Mentor, it was a great honour learning from you. God bless you and may you rest in peace.

Siti Mardhiyah Lee Binti Muhammad Hisyam Lee (MEM140102)

This is my first Silent Mentor that I've joined and I believe it's hard to get another opportunity. From 17 to 22/4/2018, it's a busy week for me on top of my clinical works during the day. Despite being physically tired, I'm so grateful to be part of Silent Mentor program. Being able to polish my hands on skills, learning new clinical and surgical skills from the experts were really a great experience for me. On top of that, I learnt how to empathise, understand, respect and be grateful as a doctor and of course as a human to human. This shows that our Silent Mentors were very selfless persons and always think about contributions to the society even at the very last breath. It's true that our mentor did not speak a single word but she taught us silently through every procedures, incisions and stitches that I made. This is really a useful and beneficial program and I'll make sure I promote and introduce this program to the outsiders. Thank you to my beloved and respected Silent Mentor, Ms Phoon Wan Khan, family members, lecturers, doctors, volunteers, staffs and my colleagues in making this program a successful one. 

Foong Wei Kei  (MEM140130)

Silent Mentor Program has been an amazing journey for me.  First of all, I would like to thank the Organization Committee for giving me this opportunity to be part of this program. I truly appreciate and value everything I have learned from my Silent Mentor, Ms Phoon. You have shown me the value of humanity, selflessness and courage by donating your body for medical education and research. The knowledge you have imparted upon me will be a great help throughout my medical career. Besides, I have learned to be more confident when it comes to performing surgical procedures. Words are powerless to express my gratitude.  

I always believe that success isn’t about what you accomplish in your life. It’s about what you inspire others to do. One day, I hope to inspire someone else as you’ve inspired me. You have reinforced the importance of giving back to the society and taught me how to be a better person. Thank you Ms Phoon, You are a blessing in my life and you will always be remembered. 

 

Pearly Quek Poh Sia (IMU_20468)

When I first applied for the Silent Mentor program, I saw it as how it would be to any medical student: an invaluable experience to learn from a cadaver procedure that would not normally be accessible to us. I never expected, however, to bond with my mentor as deeply as I did. This encounter gave me a chance to meet the side of a patient we don't intuitively realise: that they all have their own lives lived, hopes and dreams to fulfil, hardships and obstacles overcome and people they loved - or who loved them dearly. Knowing what our mentor was like before her demise gave us a gentler touch with which we cleaned her every day, spoke to her in our own way in awe and gratitude as we appreciated but the tip of the iceberg of her contribution to humanity. Her selflessness has touched the lives of many; not just us aspiring doctors, but specialists and doctors who have had the priceless opportunity to learn from the mentors. I hope that the students after us will treat the next mentors with the same respect and gratitude that we felt, and bond with their mentor like we did. All this would not have been possible without the noble sacrifices of our mentors.

 

Ong Zun Zheng (IMU_22723)

I am grateful that I was given the opportunity to participate in this workshop because I believe there is no other similar workshop in the South East Asia region. Some medical students even had to travel to Taiwan to take part in such event, therefore I felt thankful that I could join it here in Malaysia. 

The special part of this event was we were given the chance to know about the life of our Silent Mentors. We started our workshop with a home visit to our Silent Mentors' houses so that we could learn about the stories of our Silent Mentors. Through the interview, we got to know how our Silent Mentors grew up, their occupations, their personalities and their expectations from this workshop. This taught us to treat our Silent Mentors as our family members, and also to treat our future patients as such so that we could not only help them cure their illnesses, but also to support them emotionally. 

During the workshop, we cleaned our Silent Mentors every morning and night, just like taking care of our beloved ones. Even though our Silent Mentors did not speak to us, they taught us love as they decided to contribute to the advancement of medical field even after their passing. They sacrificed themselves so that all of us can learn something, hoping that we could one day become outstanding doctors. From this, I learned to be selfless, to be ready to help my patients without expecting any return. 

I was able to learn and perform some medical procedures and it was really an indelible experience. Practising procedures on plastic models would never be the same as on real bodies. Besides, going through this workshop made me a better person. Through this workshop, I learned to be altruistic, compassionate and empathetic to my patients. Thank you, Silent Mentors!

 

Sakinah Muhammad Firdaus Ooi (MEM140099)

I am deeply moved when I see my Silent Mentor Mr Sam Suit Fai silently being cut multiple times. 

His selflessness made a great impact on all of us. I am thankful for the opportunity participating in the program. I have learnt so much and gained confidence in doing some of the hands-on procedures such as suturing. This is also my first time attending other religions funeral and allow me to understand their culture. 

感恩您! 岑老师。

 

Sarveshwarry A/P Gangatharan (MEM130142)

Being a part of Silent Mentor program has impacted me in various ways. I learnt not to give up if encounter any failure because people out there are not giving up on us and they belief that we will be a great doctor one day. Besides, being a medical student, we often don’t get to involve in a lot of procedures that were done in hospital. By involving in Silent Mentor program I learned the technique of how to do the procedures hands on through our Silent Mentor. Lastly, I learn about unconditional love. It means loving them when they are unlovable, and in spite of their imperfections and mistakes.

 

Ting Yi Wen 张瑜纹 (MEM140110)

我曾想过世上真的有无私的爱么?人世间的爱有多种多样,但真正无私、只求奉献不求回报的爱到底有多少?这世上除了亲情,还有一种叫无语良师无私的大爱。这份无私的爱不是人人能够给予的,然而无语良师们让我们深深地体会人世间还是有无私的爱与奉献。 

鲜花感恩雨露,因为雨露滋润它成长。我感恩的是无语良师们,是您们奉献了身躯让我们在您们身上割下每一刀,好让我们索取在课本上所学不到的知识。是您们无畏及大爱的精神,教会了我们如何成为有同理心及不忘初衷的医护人员。是您们让我们这些普通的种子发芽,长成苍天大树。 

人不分高低贵贱,爱不分宗教种族。无语良师们不分你我,只为让医护人员们从中学习受益。感恩能够在我人生里遇见这样无私奉献的您,短短的一星期已足以让这一切永远烙印在我们心底。感恩,我的无语良师们。

 

Vanessa Chong Yu Ling (IMU_19519)

I am Vanessa Chong, a 3rd year medical student from International Medical University (IMU) and I was given the rare opportunity to take part in the Silent Mentor Program in April 2018.  During this program, medical students were able to learn and practise common and essential medical procedures, such as endotracheal intubation, insertion of central venous line and suturing on our Silent Mentors. I feel that this program is extremely helpful for us medical students as we are able to practise these procedures under actual conditions so as to ensure that we are able to give the best possible care to our future patients and not make any mistakes.  Moreover, this program has an additional focus on our Silent Mentors and their families. We are not practicing on faceless, nameless patients but on real people. We are taught to give our gratitude and show interest and empathy towards our Silent Mentors and their families through the home visits and gratitude ceremony which usually isn’t present in our normal medical training. This is an important aspect of this program as it teaches us that our future patients have a life story behind their diseases and it teaches us not to be desensitised to the human ailments we see in the wards daily.

 

Muhammad Azra Hafizi Bin Ahmad Azam (MEM140062)

I felt beyond grateful to be a part of this Silent Mentor program. It teaches me not only to be a good and competent doctor, but also an empathy and caring person above all. To my Silent Mentor, Mr. Sam, even you were silent, you have taught me a lot to improve my surgical skills. It was indeed an honour to be able to take care of you throughout this program. This program has also widened my medical networking, in which I was able to learn and to work with medical students from other medical schools. Together, we gain knowledge as one big family. I would highly treasure this experience, and return the contribution of our Silent Mentors to our society as a better medical practitioner.

 

Malini Sunitha Vivek (Monash_28294998)

The workshop was definitely not what I had expected. What I had in mind was that it would teach me the biomedical aspects of anatomy and surgery. But the workshop was far more.

The Silent Mentor workshop was able to bring ethics and empathy together with science. Being able to speak to the families and making the whole process as ethical as possible really shows us doctors-in-training how to be in the future. In a world where empathy and understanding are fading out, it is important for medical students to experience this.

The guidance from the doctors and surgeons was invaluable. Their expertise and patience created a healthy and open learning environment where we felt free to ask questions. It made the selfless act of our Silent Mentors worthwhile. Our Silent Mentors were the greatest teachers of all.

 

Tan Ling Han (MEM140106)

Throughout the years in medical school, I have met various different lecturers and tutors. There are those that were kind and caring, giving all their time and effort to teach us. We were grateful to them for teaching us amidst their busy clinical works and even sacrificing their personal time in the wee hours of the morning. However, I learned throughout this week that great teachers can come in many forms and life lessons can be learned from everyone. There are those who live a life driven by the selfless act of giving. Such a man is our Silent Mentor, Mr. Sam. He dedicated his life providing for his family and friends. He’s the kind of man who would drop everything and help his friends at the drop of a hat. His last act of selflessness was to donate his body for the benefit of medical research and training. He taught us a way of life, to add meaning and purpose to our finite years of living. No one can truly say how long a person can live but Mr. Sam can say he truly have lived a life of meaning. 

I am truly grateful for all the people involved in this program to make it a success. We will always remember our mentor Mr. Sam and his family members who showered us with kindness and love. Thank you! Mr. Sam.

 

Muhammad Amer Iskandar Bin Ahmad Mahmud (MEM140059)

As recommended by a fellow colleague, little did I know about this Silent Mentor workshop. After the 1-week duration of this workshop, I would say that I am glad that I made that decision to join. Apart from the practice of invasive procedures such as chest tube insertion, intubation and surgical incision, which the medical students rarely have the opportunity to do, values such as humbleness and respect are the backbone of this workshop as evidence by the daily cleaning of the Silent Mentors and also the silent prayers before each session. This aspect (humbleness and respect) is clearly an instrumental for the development of a good doctor, which we often overlook. As a conclusion, Silent Mentor is simply more than a workshop. It is an experience.

21st Silent Mentor Workshop 23-28/01/2018

Chuan Deik Roy 全德瑞 (MEM140027)

This is the second Silent Mentor Workshop I attended, 20th workshop was my first participation as a volunteer. Most of us may envy our seniors who attended the workshop for their opportunities on performing hands-on procedures, which drive us to enrol for this program. Fortunately, I was being selected for the 21st workshop. With the intention to improve my procedural skill, I tried to commit wholeheartedly from the beginning of workshop. However, throughout the event, I see there are more things to learn apart from procedures. Having the home visit, we practice our social skill and communicate with the family members of our assigned Silent Mentor, including speaking with Mr Lim's daughter via phone, as she was studying abroad. We learnt about our mentor's life story, and made a presentation for our workshop participants. Surely we appreciate the chances given to perform procedures. Far more important is that, we developed the empathy for Silent Mentors' family members. It's not easy for one to register as a Silent Mentor, also difficult for his/her family members to accept the fact that we are withholding the funeral until so late. The most important lesson learnt is that love doesn't need to be shouted out loudly, through action, we felt the love from our Silent Mentors. We love our Silent Mentors too, wish you all rest in peace.

 

Hoe Hong Xian 何鴻賢 (MEM140037)

会参与无语良师计划,是因为听闻学长学姐对此计划的好评,也因为深知纸上得来终觉浅,发挥及应用书上知识的机会并不多,再加上对此计划不甚了解,想借机会体验其中的过程。通过此计划,不仅医学知识有所提升,心灵也有所升华。无语良师伟大的爱和无私的奉献,家属口述中夹杂的哽咽及啜泣,皆触动心弦。希望不会辜负家属的期望,能成为一名有人性的医生。

 

Jane Ho 何采贞 (MEM140131)

I have gained so much from Silent Mentor Program that words cannot fully express how I felt. It has always puzzled me how can someone be so selfless even on their death bed, till this day I still cannot fully understand the idea but I know deep down in my heart that their selflessness has helped me grow so much from the very beginning of the program. Being in medical school has somehow killed the fiery spirit of mine in becoming a good doctor as we are more focused on passing our exams and just knowing diseases rather than people. Being in this program I was constantly being reminded to be compassionate because everyone we meet is someone’s parent, child, sibling, someone who is being loved dearly by others. We often forget that they could be our loved one and I was overwhelmed by the thought. Besides, our Silent Mentors have helped me gain new medical knowledge and made me feel more confident when it comes to performing surgical procedures. 

Personally, they have helped me answer my doubt of whether to pursue a career in surgery. No one is more selfless than our Silent Mentors and their family members, thus to repay their kindness I can only always remind myself to be a selfless doctor in the future and be kind to everyone. 

A truly great mentor is hard to find, difficult to part with and impossible to forget. 

Thank you dear Silent Mentors.

 

Yuvidelci Nilrat (MEM140119)

Thank you Silent Mentor Program for this great opportunity to go through this amazing yet meaningful program. In my opinion, it was an amazing program because I learned so much during these past 1 week. It is no just about polishing our medical skills and learning something new from the doctors, Silent Mentor Program had given me more than that, I learned to be empathic and had learned from my Silent Mentor himself on the sacrifice that he made for us. Thank you my Silent Mentor, Mr. Lim, the staff and doctors who were busy arranging and helping us for the past 1 week and of course to the new friends and colleagues that I have met, thank you so much. I will forever remember and cherish this memory.

 

Christal Asong Vinsien (MEM140025)

I first heard about the Silent Mentor Program back when I was just a budding first year medical student. I remembered a short introduction regarding Silent Mentor was held back in the lecture hall in 2014. It was my first time knowing about such a thing, a program where a dying patient willingly donates his/her body for medical study and research. I was instantly intrigued and interested to join because I knew I will not get this chance elsewhere. It was a good opportunity to acquire new skills by conducting the procedures on a real body, in lieu of on a dummy/mannequin, like what we did back in medical school.

And when the opportunity came for me to sign up for the program, I immediately grabbed the chance and I’m not afraid to say that it’s one of the best decisions that I’ve ever made.

The Silent Mentor Program has been an amazing journey for me. I’ve gained so much – new friends, new experiences, new knowledge and skills. I’ve met new friends from different universities, with the same passion and enthusiasm as me for medicine. We were all assigned to our respective Silent Mentor and I learnt about responsibility and teamwork – from interviewing our Silent Mentor’s family during the home visit, to caring and cleaning the body of our Silent Mentor before each procedure. I was honoured to be able to go on stage and introduce to everyone about our dear Silent Mentor. The whole process of the Silent Mentor Program was an enriching experience. It taught me about empathy and sacrifice. Everyone has a struggle and a story to tell, thus, we should always be kind and understanding. I felt very touched and emotional, especially during the ceremonies and rituals conducted, from the initiation ceremony to the sending – off for the cremation. 

It’s been a fruitful journey and a real privilege for me to be given this opportunity as a medical student to join this program. My hope is that this program will continue to reach out to the hearts of the community and reap benefit to all the other doctors and medical students everywhere, just as how it did to me. 

 

Banuvithiya A/P Selvamani (MEM140126)

Silent Mentor was one of the best thing that had happened to me so far in my journey as a medical student. Four people who were not from medical background donated their bodies, so that we medical students could practice procedures on them. They did not even know us personally. This is a very noble act and I could never thank them enough. Being able to perform procedures on real human body was a gift that I would cherish forever and I'm tremendously grateful for being a part of this program. Besides, this program has changed me emotionally as well. I had to deal with death within a close proximity and I grew very attached to my mentor within that one week and during his funeral.

Beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are, but how happy others can be because of you. A sacrifice without expectation. Thank you SILENT MENTOR.

 

Ashvirni Gilbeth (PERDANA_13922708)

The Silent Mentor Program changed me in many ways possible. I learnt the importance of life, the virtue of patience and the meaning of contributing to society. It changed me by enforcing empathy within myself in treating patient in the future. It moulded in becoming a better doctor in serving my community. It is the ultimate way to give back to the society, like my Silent Mentor did.

I believe the Silent Mentor Program is a great motivation to all of us and me especially. The Silent Mentor showed great courage and sacrifice by donating their bodies to facilitate research and learning and that is a sacrifice of intense magnitude. They never met any of us and yet they gave themselves willingly for us to learn from them.

Thank you Silent Mentors. You are the greatest of teachers, to teach me about life even in death. May you find peace and solace in the after-life. You will be dearly missed and always be remembered.

"No one is actually dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away".

Michelle Chia Pei Ling 谢沛玲 (Monash_27456161)

Humanity - are we doing it right? Have we done enough?

Those were the repeated questions that I’ve been asking myself throughout this one week. Of all the early days, late nights, gowning up and more fun things to be explored, what hit me the most was every chance that I get to look at our Silent Mentor quietly and peacefully whenever there are waiting time in between workshops.

Are we doing it right? Have we done enough? Do we still remember what humanity is? Have we respect lives enough and how? And it repeats as a cycle.

Ever realized how funny it is to be a human yet still need to bring out that humanity in us? We were no difference as a human. Our Silent Mentor once was an ordinary human being as well. There are times where I had no thoughts, totally blank in mind too while seeing him. I wondered why too, and was inspired that our life could be this simple and pure as a blank canvas. All we needed were mutual respect between each other.

It was really a great honour and pleasure to be able to join the 21st Silent Mentor Program. As my peers described ‘none of us came out from this program the same’. It was a lesson beyond life and death, but humanity and mutual respect between every living thing.

Humanity before remedy, with a heart that respect lives we can heal more wounds, and maybe if we are lucky enough, more broken souls too.

 

Tok Sin Lei 卓欣蕾 (Monash_27751864)

Being able to join the Silent Mentor Program is of my greatest honour and blessing. Through the learning journey with our mentors, what I have gained is beyond medical science that prepares me on becoming a doctor, but the value of humanity and selflessness, which equip me to become a better doctor. With their altruistic sacrifices, our mentors had turned themselves into a precious gift for us to serve a better future. Thank you, our Silent Mentors, you will always be remembered.

 

Wong Sui Weng 王綏榮 (MEM140115)

Silent Mentor, a phrase aptly describes all our teachers in this workshop. Though they lay silent, I’ve learned so much from them. Their selfless sacrifice for medical education and pursuance of surgical skills are admirable. Through them, I’ve gained much not just from a medical standpoint, but also learned the value of humanity, compassion and empathy. I could see the difficult decision that their families go through and their trust to medical students like myself have greatly touched me. It reminds me of our unique role in society as healer for the sick and the great responsibilities that come with it. I hope that the knowledge gained through this workshop would enable me to help my patients in the future. Thank you, Silent Mentors!

 

Chang Jo-Ven (MEM140018)

Feelings of emptiness, loneliness, silence. All these I feel after the Silent Mentor Program became overwhelming, just like a part of my life has faded away. I stepped into the Anatomy Hall, being required to clean the Silent Mentor’s body for the last time before his burial ceremony. The air seems heavier but not as heavy as my heart. I started recalling my life lessons for the past one week. I learned about true sacrifice. I understood how powerful selflessness can be, to influence someone to donate his or her body for the benefit of the many others without asking anything in return. I learned about humanity. Looking at how the Silent Mentors’ pupils bowing their heads for silent prayers, tears dropped when sending the mentors off, giving their very best and most sincere appreciation while learning. Every cut, every suture and every drop of blood loss from the Silent Mentors, it hurts me in the heart but it acts as the reminder that will constantly be driving me to become a responsible, approachable and trustworthy doctor in the future. Now, it has came to the end of the program. What's taking over is the heart pinching warmth and the compassion for the journey the Silent Mentors have helped to set forth. I will never forget all these heartfelt moments for the rest of my life. 

 

Deanna Marcella Amboi (MEM140028)

The meaningful knowledge and valuable memories I have gained throughout the Silent Mentor Program is hard for me to summarize in words.

Committing myself to the workshops, home visit and its preparations especially during the hectic weeks of my surgical-based posting has driven me to newfound levels of stress and sleep deprivation, nevertheless it taught me how to open my eyes to opportunities and blessings, how to be grateful, resilient, and gentle all at the same time. Our Silent Mentors have indirectly taught and inspired me that, despite the little that we have in this world, we can always give much, if we give wholeheartedly and with good intentions. I hope to share what I have learnt here and contribute to my society.

Thank you to all Silent Mentors!

 

Khairunnisak Mohd Nor Azman (MEM140043)

Through this Silent Mentor Program, I have learnt that a selfless act of humanity is the greatest and priceless gift one can ask for in this world, especially in the benefits of the medical field. I am so grateful as this program reminds me to be competent and more empathic in treating my future patients as a whole, not just the diseases. Last but not least, The mediocre teacher tells; the good teacher explains, the superior teacher demonstrates and the great teacher inspires. Thank you Mr. Phong Kuek Hen.

 

Lim Wai Chen 林慧倩 (MEM140048)

小时候的老师,循循善诱,喋喋不休。长大后的老师,身兼多职,医人医病。从未想过,世上还有一种安静不语的老师,称作无语良师。四个字,写是简单,讲是容易,做却往往让人闻之怯步。沉默不语的您,本应早日安详入土,却选择舍身奉献,给未来的医疗,和这群素未谋面且毫无临床经验的我们。您吩咐我们好好善用您的身体时候,可曾想过自己身体最后留下的是千疮百孔?我看着您的身体和您的容貌已不复从前,心中悲痛油然而生,心中不免感慨:到底是要有多大的爱和勇气,才能成为无语良师。

我真的很感恩,感谢您的付出,让我们终身受益。在您身上割的每一刀,缝的每一线,都会深深烙印在我的脑海里。当目睹其他老师们的亲友见他们最后一面,泪流满面嚎啕大哭时,我的心中也在流泪,因为我的老师身边只有我们这群医学生。我谢谢您,谢谢您给我们机会陪您走完人生的最后一程。生前的您潇洒走过了各片土地,愿您离去也能在另一个世界潇洒的生活着。您的骨灰和您的大爱,随风飘向大海,却永远流入我们十一位医学生的心里。 

感恩,我的无语良师们,愿您们安息。

 

Hung Wei Pin (MEM140038)

感恩老師的隨喜發願,十方的支持,促成我了悟般若和醫德最重要的一場對話裡。家屬認可的這項計畫裡,讓我醫研這門功課進展得很不平凡。

 

Mindy Ngui Chui Min (Monash_27728250)

“Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” This quote has always been inspiring me but I couldn’t have embraced the true meaning of it until I saw it from our Silent Mentor. Here’s to you who inspire me and don’t even know it. 

It has been the most emotional, inspiring and grateful period of time in my life and I believe no one walks out from the program the same. Every scar I saw on your body, my heart breaks a little and every time it allows me to grow a little. You have shown me your selflessness which can tolerate every incision we made on your body. No matter how much suture we did on your open wound, it could never mend the pain your family members have to suffer. I could never thank you enough for your contribution to the medical field as well as the support from the family members for willing to extend their grief in order to fulfill our Silent Mentor’s last wishes. 

No one is actually dead until the ripples they caused in the world fade away. There is always a place in my heart to keep every ripple you have made and every lesson you have given me. Words could never express how blessed I am to just be a negligible part of it. Thank you for brightening my world.

 

Wong Lin Ling (Monash_27323676) 

Death is not an end if one can live on in the next generation. This Silent Mentor Program truly inspired us that to what extent one can sacrifice for the sake of humanity, even after death. In this program, we witnessed the anatomy of a real human, practiced on suturing real skin and observed various operations on real bodies. Everything was so real that no pictures, books or any learning resources in the world could illustrate to us. We felt the Silent Mentors with our hands and heart. We had never met each other throughout our lives, yet they were willing to give us the opportunities to learn from their bodies, to practice our surgical skills and to make enormous contribution to future medical field. Every misconception we had and every mistake we made on the mentors has become our most valuable lessons to treat the patients better in the future. 

From cleaning up our mentor’s body every day until the last day of closing ceremony, we felt as if we were treating an alive patient till the last moment of his life. Never did I know that we learnt to be empathetic and compassionate from this meaningful program. The pain and sorrow that the family members went through to let go of the body of their loved ones was unbearable. I would like to express my sincere gratitude and apology to the Silent Mentors and their family for the sacrifice they all had made. The Silent Mentors had left behind incredible legacies and will live on in our hearts. Although their lives had come to a full stop, but the lessons we gained from them are immortal.

 

Goh Wei Pin (Newcastle_140671933)

I am eternally grateful for the privilege and opportunity to learn from our Silent Mentors, not only in term of medical knowledge but also the great value of being selfless they have instilled in us. The 21st Silent Mentor Program has been a meaningful journey that inspired me to become a doctor who treats every individual with gratitude, respect and love. My heartfelt gratitude towards my teachers for their selfless sacrifice, leading me to take a big step spiritually.

 

Celine Fong Mien Er (Newcastle_140671704) 

Before joining this program, I have never expected that I will have such a deep sense of gratitude towards my Silent Mentors. They have shown me what a true hero is. Even without knowing us, they did not hesitate a second to be Silent Mentors. These heroes gave me many powerful lessons that I will forever carry with me. They taught me knowledge no other medical books can. They gave me the confidence to do certain medical procedures on real life patients. They inspired me to be a good person and doctor. Most importantly, they showed me how a selfless act should be. Words can never describe how thankful I am to these teachers. Towards the end of the Silent Mentor Program week, I slowly began to feel a bond with the Silent Mentors. It is amazing how you can feel a strong connection with someone whom you have never met or spoke to. I owe them a debt of gratitude for all they have done for me. 

‘It takes a big heart to shape little minds’.

 

Ong Chon Sum 王俊森 (Newcastle_140673742)

爱能海沽石烂,爱能诚心坦然,爱能缓慢蹒跚,唯独无语良师的爱独一无二,无私也无价。这爱不需喧哗,也不需张扬,只需用心感受。

四周黯然无光,唯独前方不远处有盏明灯。明灯牵引着我,赐了我三大领悟。

第一悟,觉悟。世人往往被工作繁忙与生活压力所影响,遗忘了医者治人非治病的道理。或许简单的关心问候,才是病人最有效的解药。 

第二悟,悟心。世人总把这世界复杂化,往往忽略了爱的核心莫过于赤子之心。以真善美对人、对事、对物,对方必定感受得到,因为其实爱很简单。 

第三悟,悟人。世人总爱投诉埋怨,但其实人的心态决定一切。想放弃的那一刻,要回想自己选择医学的初衷。与其摒弃原则,不如屏住呼吸坚持到底,当一位人们尊敬爱戴的医生。

钢琴停奏了,音乐的旋律依然会在耳边回响;一样的,四位老师虽然离开了,他们的精神依然会与我们同在。谢谢老师们化为明灯,为我照明前路;谢谢老师们用心良苦,奉献自己以惠大众。 

我未来的路程不会冷清寂静,因为您们的教诲将随我走下去。愿您们安息。

 

Nydelene Llewellyn Tong Yiu Shyong (MEM140133)

Firstly, I am extremely grateful to be given this opportunity to join the Silent Mentor Program as well as being trusted with the role as a team leader. I never knew how crucial and beneficial this program was for me until I went through it. Above and beyond the knowledge and skills I gained from this workshop, this workshop changed my perception of medicine, of patients, of empathy and my life as a whole. I could never imagine this short one week lesson could make such a huge impact on my life, but like what Prof Si Lay said, the experience is unexplainable.

This experience sparked in me a new interest in surgery and renewed my passion to pursue medicine because my mentor was a patient unlike any other. I am truly grateful not just for my Silent Mentor but also to the family members who suffered a great deal throughout past few months. From not being able to bury their loved one after death, to having prolonged grief to suit the time of this workshop. I see the pain and I feel it, but I know I will never understand it. It is truly an enormous sacrifice for them.

On my part, I will thrive to become a good doctor that they have placed their hopes in, that way, their sacrifices will not be in vain. The time we took to clean our Silent Mentor every morning, may seem like a small and insignificant task, but it changed my point of view each morning. I learned to see my mentor as my own father or loved one. It takes 10 of us in a team to clean him, even then, we struggled to do so. I imagined my mentor’s wife and son caring for him every moment, every single day and with only a pair of hands or two; I believe it indeed takes great patience, strength, love and perseverance to be in their shoes. Every day, we see a new scar or suture on him, my heart aches thinking this upon my loved one. Who am I that he would trust me with his body? But that is how it is, for every patient that allows me to examine in the wards, they have trusted me to their bodies and life. I will never forget the moments I spent learning by his body, the first patient that I have done a chest tube on, intubated, taking time to suture on and etc.

I will always remember to treat every patient as though they were my family, because they too have a family who loves them, as I love mine. Thank you, to the Silent Mentor and family members, my professors, Mr. Sia for this once in a lifetime opportunity.

“The world doesn’t need more famous doctors (名医), it needs good one (良医).” said one of the Silent Mentor’s family member. By God’s grace, I will try my best to become a good, kind and compassionate doctor. I will always look back to this day and ponder upon the invaluable lessons I learned from my Silent Mentor, and keep the passion burning in my heart.

 

Rozita Binti Ishak (MEM140098)

I’m truly touched from deep down on my heart during the week of Silent Mentor Program. When I filled in the form to participate in this program, I know that I’ll benefit a lot of knowledge and clinical skills yet it is surpassed my expectation after this program ended. I’m not just learnt knowledge, clinical skills but also sense of empathy, humanity, selflessness, responsibility and teamwork. Thank you for letting me experienced all this. After the workshop, I gained confidence to do it to a real patient because I got the feel and being able to do it first time on the real human body was opportunistic. Surely, I gained a lot and thank you.

 

Sarah Aisyah Binti Anuar (MEM140100)

The Silent Mentor Program is such a meaningful event for both students, lecturers, volunteers, organisers as well as the family members. After meeting the family members of our Silent Mentor, their strength and selflessness really touched my heart, throughout their sadness of losing a loved one, my Silent Mentor's family remained positive and trusted us to take good care of our late Silent Mentor. Their trust is something that taught me a lot of the responsibilities of becoming a doctor and I hope that from this experience and the clinical skills that I gained I can contribute to my community. Thank you to my Silent Mentor and the family members.

 

Chong Ro Wan 張若婉 (MEM140023)

是您的无畏及大爱精神,才成就了我们这一场邂逅。

我们非亲亦非故,您却给我们留下了两份礼物: 一份名为知识,另一份叫做无私。

您包容了我们在您身上划下的每一刀缝下的每一线,我们知道,这是您对我们的鼓励及祝福。我们与您的相遇虽然短暂,却也已经足够让我们学会用尊重及同理心来对待他人。

请放心,您的学生,必将铭记从您身上所学,来日报答于人世间。漫漫行医路上,我们不忘您的教诲。

感恩,珍重!

 

Zaitul Ilham Bin Saadin (MEM140120)

A truly great mentor is hard to find, difficult to part with, and impossible to forget. I am very grateful to be able to join the 21st Silent Mentor Workshop. I am touched beyond words for the selfless sacrifice and great courage showed by our Silent Mentors. As the saying goes; a good teacher is like a candle, it consumes itself to light the way for others. I obtained a lot throughout this program. I acquired new medical knowledge and clinical skills. Besides that, the most important thing that I learned is to empathise, sympathise, appreciate and respect others. The Silent Mentors taught me the true meaning of selflessness. Thank you to our beloved Silent Mentors and their family members. Thank you, teachers, for inspiring us and making us what we are today. You will be forever remembered.

 

Khairunnisa Mohd Khalid (MEM130067)

A great teacher teaches without boundaries. I’m truly grateful to be part of Silent Mentor participants this year. This program benefits medical student in all aspect. It gives me courage and confident to apply and practice the procedures that I learnt for the last 7 days. I would like to thank to my Silent Mentor and his family for their kindness and generosity for giving me these unforgettable experiences.

Thank you, teacher.

 

Say Wei Xian (IMU_22098)

The Silent Mentor Program taught me that we can learn a lot about a person through his/her actions. We never got to know our mentors personally, all we have are stories told by their loved ones, but their decision to become a Silent Mentor spoke volumes of the great amount of love and selflessness that resided inside him. Even in death, they are still giving to the living.

No one stepped out of this program the same. It made me realize that medicine is truly a very scientific yet humane course. For me personally, Silent Mentor was a very emotionally conflicting experience for me. During the workshop, it amazes yet scares me how we are just able to turn off our emotions and focus at the task at hand- learning all the procedures. It was only after the workshop, during the coffining and the funeral that I felt more in tune with my emotions towards my mentor again.

It was hard to be confronted heads on and to work so closely with the concept of death for the past week. I would say that this will be the first glimpse for many medical students into the emotional aspects of being a doctor and how they feel when they lose a patient. I guess our Silent Mentors can be considered the first patients we lose, our first association with the death of a patient.

I feel extremely blessed to have the chance to be a tiny part of it- for really, without our teachers, our beloved Silent Mentors, there is no us today.

 

William Wong Lik Loong (Monash_27034550)

To many, death may be the end to one’s life, but to our Silent Mentors, they continue to contribute to the teaching of medical profession. A decision tough for our mentors and hard for their families to accept, yet our mentors have devoted themselves to teach their dear students. Truly a noble act of selflessness!

It is of great honour that we can be part of the program, learning alongside our mentors and their families, doctors, surgeons and our peers. Such program is pivotal for medical professions and students to learn and perfect our hands-on skills to better serve our patients in future, minimising potential risks and errors. As medical professions, we are guided upon the Hippocratic Oath, ‘first do no harm.’ ​Our mentors, allows us to correct and learn from our mistakes made and minimising harm to our future patients. In addition, as for medical students, we realise that textbooks are tools of our learning that do not reflect into real life. As for example, anatomy that we learn through illustrations from textbooks is just an abstract that we can hardly grasp. A doctor cannot learn solely from books, our mentors however, have taught and provided us with a realistic learning opportunity through our senses, further reinforcing our understanding. Our mentors have sparked the curiosity and enthusiasm towards learning in us!

Knowledge is just part of it, our mentors have inspired and taught us how to care and extend our empathy and compassion to others. An integral part in providing everyday care to patients and qualities that need to be instilled as early as medical students. In the beginning, having to clean and performing procedures on our mentors, we just aren’t used to with feeling of discomfort. However, as time passed, caring for our mentors have become a routine for us and we have built a sense of attachment with dear mentors. We learn how to respect, care and extend our empathy and compassion to our mentors as they are patients of us. We will carry such spirit and attitude through our lives ahead whether in our medical profession or everyday lives!

Dear mentors, you may not know us, yet you have acted selflessly to contribute yourselves for our learning. We really appreciate your sacrifices and we cherish the moments being student of yours. It is of such reluctant to bid farewell to our mentors at end of program with tears seen on faces of grief. You may have parted from us, but your everlasting memories are kept deep in our hearts.

What you have taught we will remember and share among peers to benefits more people. For families, the prolonged grief is a torment, but thank you for being supportive and allowing us to know more about our mentors. So much that our mentors and their families have done yet nothing much we can do in return. Feelings deep within, no words that can describe, all we want to say is thank you!

 

Chong Tze Lin (Monash_27345548)

Being a medical student who was exposed to dead body for the first time, I was not afraid or surprised instead I am extremely grateful for the sacrifice our respectful Silent Mentors have made. Their contribution to making great doctors in the future will never be forgotten. I am truly honoured to be given the opportunity to practice and sharpen essential skills to practise in emergency situations in addition to some surgical procedures. These are all made possible because of the selfless act by our Silent Mentors who were willing to donate their body for the medical professions. We are truly sorry for the prolonged grief which the family members have gone through and meanwhile we are thankful for the support and encouragement they gave to our Silent Mentors in granting their last wishes. Despite the fact that we were all strangers in the beginning, throughout the program, we have somehow bonded with our respective Silent Mentors and their family members. Tears were seen on the faces of almost everyone including professors, doctors, organisers and medical students while accompanying our Silent Mentors along their last journey. Emotions deep within my heart at that moment were beyond word description. While feeling sad for their lost, I was glad that they could finally rest in peace while leaving knowledge and passion to be remembered. Practising in real life is different from theories that we learn from thick medical books. Observing personally is also different from imagining in mind. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect. Doctors shall be compassionate and most importantly, do no harm to any patient. In order to do so, exposure and practice are the key to become a better doctor. This program gave us an insight into the real life setting. Once again, I would like to express my gratitude to the Silent Mentors, their family members, organizers and also medical professionals for their guidance.

 

Soh Wei Qi (Newcastle_140672000)

This Silent Mentor workshop had been a truly enlightening experience. It was not just any anatomy dissection class, but one that touches and humbles the soul as well. The family visit was the bridge to understanding and connecting with our Silent Mentors and their family, providing us a unique viewpoint to empathize and deeply appreciate their contribution. Through our Silent Mentors and their families, we’ve witnessed what it truly means to give and to understand, we’ve reinforced how it is to respect and to be empathic. Values I believe are pivotal in helping to shape us to be a better humane doctor in the future in addition to the clinical skills obtained through the workshop. The time and effort put into making this workshop run successfully by the organizing team, as well as the time the doctors and volunteers spared to teach and guide us late into the night was also deeply appreciated. Thank you for this precious opportunity.

 

Wong Xue Zheng (MEM140116)

It's been the most hectic life I had gone through in my medical student life, being assigned as a team leader for Silent Mentor Program and had 3 on-calls for my Obstetrics & Gynaecology posting held during Silent Mentor Program week. However, it was truly one of the best and unforgettable memories that I will cherish forever.

I had learned about Silent Mentor since my 1st year, by joining the closing ceremony of 14th Silent Mentor Program, it was truly an eye opening experience as there are people who are willing to donate their bodies to us, medical students and professionals to undergo teaching and research purpose on their precious body. Since then, I had decided to join the Silent Mentor Program, when I am eligible. Surprisingly, I was even being selected as one of the team leader to conduct my team's activities and programs.

From each activities and programs we were assigned to join, from receiving our mentor's body, home visit to Silent Mentor week, I was truly grateful to have the opportunity to understand our mentor, Ms Lee. From her personal history, medical history, her family background and her family members, these allow us to understand her more as a whole, even though she had passed away. Without this, I will not have all the hard feelings every morning, when I was washing our mentor's body, without all this understanding, I will not be that grateful, joining Silent Mentor Program.

Empathy and compassion towards patient are way more important than medical knowledge.  It pushes us forward to become not just good doctors, but great doctors. This is the lesson I had learned from this program. May our mentor, Ms Lee rest in peace.

一日为师,终身为师.

 

Varshaa A/P Manoharan (MEM130168)

The Silent Mentor Program has changed the way I see life and death. Seeing death from close made me realize the sacrifice my Silent Mentor did in order for us to learn. She is the greatest teacher I had who taught me sympathy and empathy. Thank you Silent Mentor for this beautiful learning experience.

 

Nur Syafira Binti Bilalluddin (MEM140087)

21st Silent Mentor Program had given me an eye opening experience. I believed I had done the right decision when I decided to sign up for this program. I never expected that I had the opportunity to try and practice a lot of procedural skills, which I had never done before during my previous years in medical school. Getting to participate to this program for free was a great chance that no one will get if we didn’t grab this opportunity. Like what Dr Akmal Miswan said, ‘I have to pay RM2000 to do all the procedures on goat, where here all medical students can do it for free’, really make me feel grateful and glad that I have joined this program. Thank you to all silent Mentors and their families for teaching all of us the meaning of love.

Nur Syafiqah Idris (MEM130125)

Silent Mentor taught a lot of things to me. From a perspective of a medical student and also as a human being myself.  Empathy, kindness, patience, relationship with family etc all of this built my character as a human and medical student. Thanks to all the Silent Mentors, I have the opportunity to learn a lot of basic to advance stuff. I experienced something that I might not even have the opportunity in the future. I am really glad that I chose to enrol in this workshop even though I was hesitant at first. Thank you for giving me this opportunity.

 

Song Zhi Liang 宋智亮 (MEM140104)

A million thanks to the organizing committee of Silent Mentor Program and everyone who are part of this journey. This journey of learning from our Silent Mentor has been a memorable one. It’s an exponential growth of intellect and empathy for me and I couldn’t have achieved this without this program. I am grateful enough to have a supportive group and extend their help whenever it’s needed. Thank you.

 

Muhammad Amin Bin Mohamed Usuf (MEM140060)

I think it's hard to go through this program and came out unchanged. In fact, this one week program has affected me on a personal level as a human being.

I've this great opportunity to learn medicine from a different angle, to receive a special experience and be taught so many things just because of the utmost act of selflessness and love by these Silent Mentors.

As medical students, in our “baby-years” in this journey of medical life, we are incredible excited to be able to perform procedures. In fact, it is such a milestone for us to be able to do it. But little do we know this Silent Mentor Program is also preparing us future-doctors, to experience real empathy and love, thus to put in our care of the Silent Mentor.

Waking up early everyday or sacrificing our weekends for the activities are not mere tentative and participation duties but also has showed to us and planted in us how hard we should be preparing ourselves in caring for our patients.

I'm undeniable touched by the life-story of my Silent Mentor, Ms Lee Yoke Chin. In her entire life with years dedicated to teaching, she still find herself wanting to do more for the society. Her contribution and aspiration for future doctors have not only moved our hearts but have also prepared us to become better doctors.

With much love and with grateful heart I’m only able to say much thanks to everyone who has made this program possible. Such a rare opportunity to have come and such a beautiful one for me, to have experience. Thank you.

Ong Siu Ching (Monash_27300382)

Prior to joining this program, my thoughts were mainly on how to hone my skills as a doctor and to constantly find opportunities to do so. One of these opportunities was the Silent Mentor Program. However, after joining it, I realised that it is not merely an opportunity to sharpen my skills, but to develop the qualities that most doctors lose after a long journey of pursuing medicine – kindness, compassion and empathy.

I too broke down when I saw the families mourning over their loved ones who had then became our Silent Mentors. It was then when I felt a sense of responsibility - I was now in charge of taking care of their loved ones together with my fellow colleagues. A whole week of program was tired yet fulfilling for me as I cared for my mentor, Ms Lee Yoke Chin.

At the end of the program, I felt a wave of sadness wash over me as I sent her off. It was as if I had connected with her even though she passed on. The amount of admiration that I have, for her willingness to sacrifice herself for education could not be put into words.

There’s a saying that goes, “We all die, the goal isn’t to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.” Yes, our Silent Mentors have passed on, but they created a batch of doctors that will not treat the patients as mere diseases, rather as individuals with each a unique story of their own to tell.

May our Silent Mentors rest in peace. Thank you for all you have done!

Edwin Foo Hsiang Win 符祥荣 (Monash_27232875)

At the start of the Silent Mentor Program, I thought the program was merely an opportunity for me to attain competency in surgical skills. However, what I did not expect to unearth is a precious lesson on self-sacrifice and a much needed emphasis on the importance for empathy. I would say that the persistent effort of the organizing committee to entrench the need for compassion has yielded its desired outcome, for I believe that I now see patients much differently from before.

The chronologically structured questions that had to be asked during the home visits enabled us to have a deeper understanding of the life story of our mentor. Listening to our mentor’s story from the family members’ point of view, it was as if we witnessed the moment of her birth until the instant she gasped her last breath, being aware of the events that shaped her future, the decisions that changed her life, as well as the regrets that never came to be fulfilled.

Although as medically irrelevant as it may seem, however, it was through these mundane and perhaps insignificant histories that it felt so alive, as if our mentor was someone whom I knew throughout her life. And as I went through her bio-data again and again in preparation for the presentation to come, subtly but unmistakably, an indescribable bond began to form.

Throughout the workshop, we were tasked with the responsibility of cleaning our mentors. The experience was a first for me, and the amount of care and delicateness shown for fear of damaging our mentors was tantamount to one we would have shown to any family member of our own. It became a constant reminder to me that our mentors were not just cadavers used for the sake of medical training; they too were good people that suffered before passing on and yet continue to suffer just for the sake of our education.

Furthermore, it is no easy feat for the family members as not only the raw grief experienced were denied of a swift closure, wounds that were beginning to heal were torn afresh with each encounter. With that, I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude towards all our Silent Mentors as well as their families.

And through our Silent Mentors and their families, I realized we are all capable of compassion, and that sometimes, what it takes to bring out empathy is simply to know that person a little more.

 

Khor Hui Yi (Monash_27280667)

无语良师给予我们的不仅仅是医学上的知识和接触,更多的是心灵上的提升与生命中的领悟。

他们的无私奉献,有多少人能理解,又有多少人能效仿?

每天早晚的净身梳洗、默哀、工作坊等等,这一切仿佛已融入了我们一星期里的生活,成为了我们很重视的一部分。十个人护着一个老师;四十个人秉着同一个使命。或许是这样的心灵相系,把我们牵在一起。

对于李老师,我无限感激。感谢她无私地奉献身躯,让医学者学习;感恩她的大爱,生前生后都对社会付出了不可磨灭的贡献;感谢有您,让我们理解人生的可贵。

李老师,我们会铭记您的嘱咐,成为心灵向上的医学者,不辜负您对我们的期望。

 

Daniel Wong Bang Lun (IMU_22076)

As a medical student from International Medical University, I feel privileged to have been given the opportunity to join the 21st Silent Mentor Program. I will briefly share my experience of joining Silent Mentor Program held in University of Malaya.

Technology has made studying and practising medicine easier with all the stimulations, but nothing can compare to real experience of learning from a unique and precious Silent Mentor.

This program mainly improves our surgical and procedure skills. Firstly, the condition of a Silent Mentor which resemble the living body without breathing, heartbeat and feeling is the best for surgical stimulation. First experience of doing procedures and surgeries on Silent Mentor is essential for junior doctors to gain confidence in doing surgeries and complicated procedures with high risk on a real patient. Next, it gives us a deeper understanding of the human’s anatomy. It helps me to remember better after seeing the real anatomy with my own eyes.

Spiritually, Silent Mentor has taught me the most important lesson which is we must treat every patient like our family and treat illnesses with compassion. Understanding their worries and needs is far more important than diagnosis. It molds us into a caring doctor and enables us to gain an insight into the feeling of family side. It is our responsibility to take care of the family members’ feeling as well and act in the best interest of everyone.

After the workshop, all the incision wounds made were sutured back and wrapped neatly before helping Silent Mentor to dress up. Thanksgiving ceremony and Sending off ceremony were held to show our respect towards the Silent Mentor. It refreshed our humanitarian knowledge. I hope I can live up to my Silent Mentor’s expectation, remember why I started this journey in the first place.

20th Silent Mentor Workshop 10-15/10/2017

Nur Ain Syahirah Binti Md Ansor (MEM130115) 

The Silent Mentor Program is a very beneficial and inspiring program for us, the medical students. To be given the opportunity to join this program and be able to learn from a mentor who selflessly donating his body just for the sake for our future, I am forever grateful for that. Listening to my mentor’s life journey from his family and how a great guy he was made me realized that this program was not only about learning the medical skills and procedure, it is beyond that. It teaches us about empathy, sacrifice and respect. From now on, every suture or procedures that I made to my patients in the future, I will always remember that I had learned these skills from my beloved Silent Mentor. Thank you to my Silent Mentor, Mr. Mooi Choong Kong and his family.

Lee Zhi Yang 李智揚 (MEM130078)

Silent Mentor was one of the program I was looking forward to. I never regretted joining it. It was more than what I have expected. I could not thank our Silent Mentors and respective family members enough. The sacrifices and commitments they made were extraordinary. Being a Silent Mentor was not an easy decision to be made because it involved huge understanding and tolerance from the people around them. What we gained was not merely knowledge and skills. More importantly, we learnt about empathy, humanity and respect. It was against the norms that we never introduced ourselves prior to learning from our patients. We did not meet nor speak to our Silent Mentors before but we learnt about them through their family members. This was what made them unique and I do really salute them. Thank you for organizing this meaningful event for us. It would be one of the best memories in my medical school life. I would bring along what I learnt with me in my future medical career.

 

Nurfathiah Amirah Bt Mohd Nordin (MEM130127)

When I first entered medical school, I saw Silent Mentor sending-off ceremony held at the Centre Point. At that time, I don't know what it was, only knew that it has something to do with the Silent Mentor Program. After being introduced to the program, I had made it my personal mission to get a place for myself among all the medical students. Lucky me, I was among the chosen one to be allowed to join. Silent Mentor Program was everything I imagined it would be and more. Starting with receiving of Silent Mentor at the Silent Mentor Center, getting to know our Silent Mentor through his/her family, throughout the one week course until the send-off ceremony, every step actually taught me a lot of things; not just surgical-related stuff but also life values. I learnt how to be empathetic, how to care for others, the importance of respect, how to be a team player, all in all how to be a good doctor. I'm very grateful to all the Silent Mentors for without their selfless gifts, we would not be able to learn, what we have learned and what we have experienced. I would also like to thank Silent Mentor committees for planning and conducting this program.

Nur Syafika Amalina Mohamad Razale (MEM130124)

It is a very meaningful, once in a lifetime opportunity for me to be part of this Silent Mentor Program. I leant a lot of things from this one week program not just about the basic things that we need to know as a medical student but I also leant about the other aspect of life that we often overlook which is about the value of life and to be kind and love to each other. I thought heroes only exist in the movies but now I have seen 4 of them during this Silent Mentor Program and I don't know if there is any suitable words to describe how grateful and how thankful I am for their selfless contribution for making this program happened. They were not just heroes but they also a great teacher that inspire us to become a passionate doctor in the future. A doctor that will takes care of our patients with the best care that they can receive. To my beloved Silent Mentor, Mr. Mooi Choong Kong, you had taught us that action speaks louder than words. You did not speak to us about anything yet you have taught us so many things. I can't thank you enough to your family and your selflessness for making this program happened. You were no doctor yet you taught us basic things that we need to know for our future practice and your sacrifice will always be remembered.

 

Khadijah ‘Izzati Binti Berhanuddin (MEM130065)

I had joined Silent Mentor because I want to gain experience doing procedures on human cadaver initially, and I thought that’s it. On the last day of the program, I had realized that the Silent Mentors not only taught me the experience of those procedures. It teaches us medicine is not just about practice, it involves people and thus involves emotions and interaction. There is a reason why the program had designed a home visit and cleaning the body every day. Even though the Silent Mentor was dead, we had learned how he lived his life and cleaning him every day is like building a rapport.  I was moved by the sincerity of the Silent Mentors, willing to donate their own body for the purpose of others. Their hope on medical practitioners who had learned from their body to be a good, caring and compassion doctor, I will try to fulfill with all my minds. Thank you and rest in peace Mr. Mooi.

 

Chai Yan Yu 蔡彦瑜 (MEM130018)

非常感恩有机会参与这次的无语良师工作坊。虽然事先有同学跟我分享他们在之前参与无语良师工作坊的心得与感受,可是毕竟听说与亲身体验是完全不同的。短短的一个星期里,这其中所体验是我这一辈子都不会忘记的。我不会忘记当我第一次见到您, 我的无语良师的那一晚, 强压下心里的震撼,专心地帮您净身。过了几个月后,再次见到您的身躯,再次为他净身,之后就是连续每天凌晨五六时,为您净身。一天天过去,我心情是越来越沉重,因为您身上充满了我们造成的伤口与刀痕。您是多么的伟大,从不曾和我们相遇,却愿意奉献自己的身体,让我们学习,我一直在想到底是什么让您有那样的勇气去做出这个决定。我也很感谢无语良师的家人,如果没有你们,无语良师的遗愿也没法达成。在送您最后一程的那天,我眼泪再也忍不住决堤了,泪中充满的是言语无法表达的感激与不舍。我知道我唯一能回报的是当个好医生,不辜负您对我的期望。世上就是有那么个人,无私的奉献,不求回报。希望我能够永久记得当时的那份感激与感动,在未来充满荆棘的医学路上戴着感恩的心,一路走下去。安息吧!我敬爱的无语良师梅重光老师。

 

Yong Voon Wei 熊温薇 (MEM130180)

致敬爱的无语良师:

虽然我们不曾相见,但命运让我们在这堂课里相聚;

虽然我们不曾对话,但您门教会我生命宝贵的一堂课;

那不仅仅是表皮上的一道一线,更重要的是~态度!

生命中确实有很多过路客,感谢这一站下车遇见了您们。

那份大爱,那份宽心,我学会了!感恩。

Teh Hui Xin 戴慧欣 (MEM130164)

感恩一切!秉持着这个信念,我完成了这个为期一个星期的无语良师工作坊。从中学习的知识经验不少,但所得到的人生启发更是源源不息。从第一次三更半夜为老师清洗身体,到老师家做探访,到最后的工作坊,继而送老师走上最后一程。这些回忆刻骨铭心,也带来一连串的思绪。这世界上真的有人那么无私地愿意奉献出自己的身体,让我们这些医学生们学习。您也许不知,这一切都对我们意义非凡。感谢您所付出的一切,感谢您那么的伟大无私,感谢您让我们学习良多。老师!一路好走。

 

Choo Xing Yan 朱興彥 (MEM130027)

During the first time when we met, I was grateful for having you as my mentor. It was not an easy decision for someone without a great love to donate his body just for a better future in medical science. Without the unconditional love from the mentors and the support

from the families, we wouldn't have make a success in the events. Again, to my mentor, you had left, however the knowledge that I gained from you will always be there. 

During the coffining session on the 2nd last day, I felt that you, my great mentor accomplished your mission and this was the time for you to go back to the place that belongs to you. 

May you rest in peace, my mentor, my family.

 

Ooh Jie Wen (MEM130134)

还记得我从学长姐口中得知“无语良师计划”的时候,我就已经深感兴趣。但真正参与其中,我才更了解何谓同理心,何谓医德。从家庭探访、清洗大体、开幕仪式、研讨练习、封棺仪式,至送殡仪式,我深深感受到大体老师对医学进步的迫切期许,也深刻体会到他们的亲朋戚友对我们的劝告叮咛,只为不辜负他们的牺牲,和好好对待他们亲人的大体。 

大体老师们的无私奉献,家人朋友的无限支持,造就了这个计划的成功,让医学生和专科医生能够从中学习到各种医学技巧。我更明白,这些决定并不容易,大体老师需要在几个月后才能入土为安,家人朋友也必须为了这个计划而奔波。为此,我想对大体老师们,以及他们的家人们,致上万二分的敬意和谢意。感谢你们。

 

Nur Suhana Binti Zakaria (MEM130123)

The commitment given towards our silent mentors throughout this program has taught me about sacrifice. The hours, sweat and energy that were channelled towards our mentors has truly given me a taste on the sacrifices that are to be made in my future; how are we going to care for our patients? The family members’ support has left a heavy responsibility for us to uphold. And with this weighing on our shoulders, we spend not only our time, but our soul to provide the utmost care. And our effort has worth it, as how I immensely hope the sacrifice that our mentors have made for us to be competent future doctors. Thanks to our teachers, Mr. Lee Kim Chong, Mr. Mooi Choong Kong, Mr. Wong Thiam Yoong and Madam Soo Kam Yip. 

 

Putri Jasmine Filza Binti Firdaus (MEM130138)

I feel so blessed and humbled to be given this opportunity to be part of this one-of-kind program. In this journey, we've learned so much more than clinical skills, we've learned the values of compassion, empathy and gratitude. These are some values which will not only make us better doctors but also better human beings. I cannot find words to express my gratitude towards our Silent Mentors as well as their families for the altruistic sacrifice. This has touched each and every one of us and will leave an everlasting impression. There is no doubt that letting go of a loved one is difficult and painful. I would like to thank the family of Mr. Lee Kim Chong for being supportive of his final wish and for welcoming us into your home and for being very helpful and cooperative throughout the whole program.

 

Monishak A/P Ramachandran (MEM130097)

I am so grateful for given an opportunity to join Silent Mentor Program. This program not only helps the medical professionals to improve their clinical skills and gain knowledge but also shapes us into a better and humane one. I really feel like I am part of my Silent Mentor’s family throughout this program. When I went for home visit, I got to know about my Silent Mentor. I was amazed of his life story. More than that, I was impressed when I heard his last wish before he passed away. He wished that medical professionals can make full use of his body to make advances to find cure for cancer so that no one will suffer from pain in the future. Not everyone in this world willing to donate their body for a useful purpose after their death. Although I learnt a lot and had the chance to be hands-on during the workshop held during the Silent Mentor Program, it really wrecked my heart to see the number of wounds and fractures on my Silent Mentor’s body. These made me want to salute him and his family member’s for a great sacrifice for medical field. Despite being exhausted throughout this Silent Mentor Program, I am happy as it went uneventful and able to send him off peacefully. From the bottom of my heart, I would like to thank everyone for giving me the chance to be part of this program. I also would encourage my juniors to join this program as it will benefit them.

 

Lee Jing Yih (MEM130076)

With their unconditional love, our Silent Mentors have shown us the virtue of contribution to the medical field and they inspired us about the beauty of humanity. Millions thanks to our heroes of life and their beloved family members. It was certainly a meaningful program in my medical life. 

无语良师那崇高舍身惠众的菩萨精神让我们感动万分。通过这项计划,我不但学习了医学上的知识,也深切的领悟了大爱的精髓。感恩您们的付出,成就我们的未来。

 

Lai Yuen Sin 賴悠欣 (MEM130073)

死亡,並不是生命的終點;死亡,也可以是生命的轉捩點。這種精神於無語良師身上充分地展現出來。“落紅不是無情物,化作春泥更護花”,他們無私地將大體捐獻出來,化無用為大用,雖然生命已凋零,但愛卻遺留在人間。以慈悲無我的大捨精神,透過奉獻生命,而完成自己的使命,以見得之深義。雖然人生無常,但我們有權利活出自己,讓自己的生命發揮更大的意義。感謝您,無語良師。

 

Ong Wee Meng (MEM130133)

I wouldn’t boast of how much surgical skills I have learnt from the Silent Mentor workshop because it was never the main purpose of this workshop. To me, the workshop is to instil 2 main principles of life, the first one being volunteerism and the second one is selfless love. But again these 2 principles are intertwined and can’t be untangled. We volunteered for the workshop, spending our time and effort, preparing and cleansing our mentor. Our mentor portrayed to us, selfless love, love that ignores the boundaries of time and space, sacrificing her body to give us a lesson in life though she never meets us in person. She already passed me the torch, it’s now my duty to continue her life purpose of volunteering and spreading love. Thank you.

 

Sharifah Azura Bt Shafie (MEM120169)

I learned about Silent Mentor Program through my friends. They always talked about this program in a way that it helped a lot in their study. So that’s why I gave it a try. Throughout this program, it was not only focused on the medicine, but it was about teamwork, care and love of the family. I'm grateful of having a new family as they were supportive and already assumed me as their "real family". They also were thanking us of taking care of our teacher, in which we were the one supposed to thank them and bow to them. Real speaking, I've never met family as them. I will never forget about them and promise to stay in contact with them. Nevertheless, what sadden and touch my heart is that "may you make twenty mistakes on my body, but never make mistake on real patient's body". Thank you for giving me the opportunity to join Silent Mentor Program.

 

Haida Izzaty Izyan Bt Yahoda (MEM120044)

This Silent Mentor Program, flawed as it is in certain part, it's also perfect in a way that it unifies us all. It's okay to be of different religions but still show respect to our Silent Mentor. (Let's have a moment of silence, whatever religions you are to pray for the Silent Mentors, every single time) To actually see such concept to actually come true, that we were capable of such things, is very touching. (This is something you rarely see these days). We've learnt so much from our mentors. Your sacrifices will never be forgotten. You'll always be in our hearts, always.

 

Muzamil Bin Mohd Moussa (MEM120111)

I would reminisce one day, knowing how pivotal this experience has been in my life, academically and personally. The Silent Mentor Program has provided a much-needed injection of inspiration and motivation to my waning pupil spirit. 

The pleasure of working in a well-functioning team, practising medical procedures and learning the innards of the human anatomy on a body untainted by preservatives and embalming fluid is indeed an unparalleled acquaintance, especially for a student. 

As a person, these Silent Mentors have given me a glimpse of what it means to be selfless, a keystone value of a quintessential doctor. I hope to mortally perpetuate the lessons I have learned and make good of the sacrifices that these mentors have gifted in the name of education.

 

Chai Jia Xuan 蔡佳璇 (MEM130017)

感谢无语良师们无私的奉献,让我们从中获益不少。他们人生的最后一刀,是我们的第一刀。 

让医学系学生第一次就可以拥有这样的学习经验,非常可贵难得。无语良师不只是给学生一个示范,也给我们一个很棒的启发。 

人,生前可以为社会奉献,死后也陆续可以为社会奉献。这样神圣的善终,让人不禁升起崇高的敬意,也让无语良师的家属们在哀伤当中,多了一份荣耀感。 

捐献大体并不是一个容易的决定,尤其需要家属的支持。但愿我们都不辜负无语良师的期望,未来成为良医,并让一颗颗爱的种子,遍布希望在各个角落萌芽茁壮,绿成浓荫。

 

Tan Yan Jing 陈妍静 (MEM130160)

鲜花感恩雨露,因为雨露滋润它成长;苍鹰感恩长空,因为长空让它飞翔;高山感恩大地,因为大地让它高耸。 

我感恩您,虽然我们素未谋面,但是您那无私的爱,却穿越时空,让我们有机会向您学习。 

人固有一死,或重于泰山,或轻于鸿毛。谢谢您让我体验人性的善良与美好。您不单让我在医学知识上巩固了,也让我学着感恩心对待身边的人。谢谢无语良师,愿你们安息。

 

Puteri Nurul Syifa Binti Othman (MEM120195)

To meet someone who lives for the service of others, even death can’t stop her from contributing to others is impossible, but I met one while participating in this program. I never met my mentor before, but I was touched by her kindness and love for others. It’s an honour to meet someone like my mentor. Thank you so much for giving me the chance to learn, to help others. I hope I can be as kind as my mentor in the future. 

 

Mohamad Zulhaqim Bin Abd Karim (MEM120088)

Silent Mentor is a great workshop especially for medical students to learn from live demonstrations and get some hands-on in surgical components of the undergraduate program. Students are able to appreciate that a patient is always someone’s family member. Aside from that, students are also able to appreciate friendships both intra and inter universities.

 

Sii Hoe Leong (MEM130145)

After our Silent Mentors passed away, they have to be frozen for a couple of months before the workshop to preserve their bodies. Families and relatives have to wait for the funeral after the workshop as well. Through this Silent Mentor workshop, I see the selfless love expressed by all Silent Mentors even after their passing to let all the doctors, specialty trainees and medical students to practice skills and technique on their bodies. At the end of the workshop, there were so many cuts and sutures on each of our Silent Mentors and I believe these have had benefited many doctors and medical students in their journey as a healthcare provider. Their sacrifices also give me constant reminder from Hippocratic Oath which is ‘first, do no harm’ to my future patients. Thank you, Silent Mentors Mr. Wong Thiam Yoong, Mr. Lee Kim Chong, Madam Soo Kam Yip and Mr. Mooi Choong Kong.

 

Leuk Kheng Soon (MEM120075)

Joining the Silent Mentor workshop is preparing me to be a more responsible and caring doctor. Throughout the program, I gained a lot. I acquired a new set of clinical skills. I learned sympathy and empathy. I learned the sorrow and frustration that the family experienced when they lost their loved one. These all helped me to become a better person. I'm glad I joined this workshop. Thanks.

 

Siti Nor Syafiqah Bt Shaari (MEM120176)

This Silent Mentor Program has taught us a lot either in academic section or humanity. It is different to practice any procedure in mannequin than in real human body. It helps us to practice about sympathy and empathy. It is very important elements to become a productive doctor. I am grateful with this opportunity. The real teacher is our four mentors who are willing to sacrifice themselves for the academic purpose in present and in the future. I am thankful to the lecturers who spent their time to guide us to become a better student. I am grateful for one week of Silent Mentor Program.

 

Andrew Long Chay Zhien (MEM130009)

I was not too sure about the Silent Mentor Program at first. I had initially thought that it was a ‘clinical based workshop’. Only later after joining the workshop did I realize how it is also about the fundamental meaning of empathy and humanity in the medical field. I would like to thank all the Silent Mentors and their family for giving us this opportunity to learn from them. Thank you.

 

Fatin Syahirah bt Mustaffa (MEM130046)

Silent Mentor Program helped me understand how big the sacrifices of the mentors in helping medical students and doctors. A few procedures and anatomy were taught during the program and it helped me in refreshing my knowledge. Besides, I learnt how to handle our mentors properly during preparation and sending off as our appreciation for their generosity. My gratitude towards our mentors would not be enough to be expressed in words. May our mentors rest in peace.

Nurshahanum bt Mohd Nahrorawi (MEM120144)

I have learnt a lot from this Silent Mentor Program. This program provides us a good exposure especially in surgery. We were also being taught on how to do suturing and some important procedures which were very useful for us in the future. During my first time seeing my Silent Mentor, I felt very sad as he is willing to sacrifice his body for the sake of us to learn. But, as time goes, I felt thankful to him as I can learn various procedures through him. I also felt grateful because I have met a supportive family like my Silent Mentor's family. For me, he was a gift not only to us, medical student but to all patients that we will meet and treat in the future. Thank you to my selfless teacher, Mr. Wong Thiam Yoong.

 

Lau Jia Ru (MEM130074)

六月尾的凌晨十二點半,隊長透過一封簡訊通知我和其他同學,我們的無語良師剛剛過世,要我們在兩個小時後集合準備到馬大醫院迎接並替大體老師潔身準備急速冷凍。還記得當時的心情是複雜的。難過的是,一個寶貴生命已逝去。興奮的是,這是參與無語良師工作坊的第一步。 

很慶幸,家訪讓我更了解我的無語良師 — 添勇老師。最意想不到的收穫是看到添勇老師的家人那堅強與無私的精神。尤其是老師的雙親,雖然要忍受白髮人送黑髮人之痛,他們卻願意接受添勇老師的遺願,那就是捐獻大體。他們忍痛割愛,無法立即為至親舉辦喪禮做最後的悼別,只能等到數月後的工作坊方能再次見到無語良師最後一面。他們願意打破傳統,為醫療教育貢獻,是非常值得人們敬佩的。 

添勇老師!我們不曾相識,但您靜靜的教會了我如何當個好醫生。五天的工作坊就這樣來到了尾聲。我非常珍惜這難能可貴的學習機會。從您的身上,我不只學到了醫學的知識與基本的手術技術,我學到了更重要的是要有同理心,有道德和給予病人与家属更多的關懷。未来在对待每一个病人,我都会记得曾经躺在模拟手术台上的无语良师给我上的课。 

生命很脆弱也很短暂,我们都无法避免终究会结束的生命。添勇老师将他的大体奉献给医疗界,将爱散播给所有参与的人员。他已离开了人世但他最后选择了把爱留在这个世界上。添勇老师!您将永远活在我们的心中。

 

Annabel Chong Su Lin (Monash_27295826)

The Silent Mentor Program has truly been a great inspiration to all of us. I strongly believe no one walks away from this program the same. There is so much to write about - the sacrifice of our mentors, the strength of their families, the skills of the trainers and the team spirits of the participants. 

The Silent Mentors showed great courage and sacrifice to have chosen to donate their bodies to teach medical students and professional new skills. They never knew anyone of us, yet they freely gave their bodies for us to learn. They taught me selflessness and that we had to love others just as selflessly as they had. 

Nothing prepares you for death. I watched as the families of the Silent Mentors grieved during closing ceremony and my heart ached for them. I cannot imagine what the families of our Silent Mentors went through. There is no true closure until burial, they said. The immense strength to have lived through the past few months before the actual burial is unbelievable. My heart goes out to the families and I pray that they find the peace and closure they need. 

I feel extremely blessed to have just been a tiny part of it - for really, without our teachers, our beloved Silent Mentors, there is no us today.

Agnes Lau Wei Yin 劉維穎 (Monash_27261425)

Good teacher explains, but great teacher inspires. It is truly a blessing for me to be able to join the 20th Silent Mentor Workshop. Through this program, I deeply felt the spirit of sacrifice one can make solely for humanity. They were not medical professions but they still made a choice to donate their bodies for medical research and learning. Death is the end of one’s life but Silent Mentors left their love and legacy behind. I will truly appreciate whatever I had learnt from this program, not only the medical knowledge or procedure, but also the spirit of sacrifice and love for humanity. Thank you teachers. You will be forever remembered.

 

Loh Hoi Yan (Monash)

若人生不曾相遇,我仍是那个我,依然沉浸在自己的世界,无法了解在世界另个角落的您、无法了解世界另一端的美丽。一位伟大的您、可敬的您、无私的您,带着坚韧的心始终没枯萎,绽放着艳丽的花。这几天里,您默默地伴着我们走在无止尽的学习路程,一路前行。忧伤却又感激的心情交织在一起、化作串串的泪水与汗水,再带上千言万语都无法表达我对您的感恩。您在生命的最后一刻,不畏惧地奉献自己的大体。这个勇敢不是任何人具有的。而我,却除了感激,还是感激。我想告诉您,春蚕生不言良之言,其吐出之银即量身价之尺,如同您,不炫耀那无私的爱。感恩!

Mark Yii Chi Song 余自松 (Monash_26380218)

The Silent Mentor Workshop has inspired me in many ways. I had learnt that life is not about how much you earn or receive, but how much you give to other people and the community. The Silent Mentors had shown great love and sacrifice to humankind by giving out their body for education purposes. Their sacrifices had turned into blessings to the doctors and indirectly to the patients. 

The workshop had taught me, as the future healthcare providers, to be kind and caring to patients. There was a famous saying by the previous Silent Mentor, that is they rather have wrong cuts being done on their body than the patient’s body. They had taught us to always treat our patients kindly. 

I had also learnt to be grateful on things given to us. During the workshop, the participants showed their gratitude towards the Silent Mentors through different methods such as drawing cards, buying gifts, presenting speech and performances. We should not only show our gratitude orally, but also though our actions. 

Most importantly, I had learnt to treasure every now and then. This is because life is uncertain, and one could not foresee what lies ahead. Therefore, we should number our days and be glad in it because each day of living itself is a blessing.

 

Tan Li Yin (Monash)

As the saying goes, “for life and death are one even as the river and the sea are one”. Before entering this Silent Mentor Program, my understanding of the program was relatively superficial. Little did I know that I was about to be changed completely by it. 

On the first day of the home visit, a group of us medical students came together and carpooled to our mentor’s home. Upon reaching our destination, we were immediately welcomed with open arms into their home and they were so glad to share with us about their deceased family member, Madam Soo Kam Yip. Although I have never met Madam Soo previously, I was deeply touched by her contribution to everyone around her while she was still alive. Her assistance did not meet its end and even extended to anyone in need of help without expecting anything in return, be it simple donation to charity homes to going on site to help the disaster victims. Many of her family members, including her closest relative, her daughter only realised Madam Soo’s true intention after her passing. Not only that, they were also only aware of Madam Soo’s health condition after it was being told by Madam Soo herself and everyone knew at that time there was nothing more they could do but to support and care for her till her last breath. Listening to their story has allowed me an insight into the importance of empathy and understanding about a person’s situation, so that we as the future doctors would learn to care for a patient holistically without any discrimination. 

After the home visit, it was time for us to proceed with the preparation session. We cleaned the body every day and it surprised me how different Madam Soo looked from the pictures. There were changes in her appearance and the remnant from her past surgeries remains on her body. Looking at her from afar made me realise the value of life and spur me to be a good doctor in the future so that I may save more lives that are currently in Madam Soo’s position as well. When the workshop session approaches, I was initially anxious as to how it was going to be and whether I could face someone of such great reputation to be dissected in front of me. Fortunately, the support from my peers helped me in overcoming that fear and it was through that whole process of learning that built our teamwork together. 

All in all, it was truly an amazing journey in the Silent Mentor Program. We often do not realise the true value of a moment until it has become a memory. I have witnessed, understood and learnt tremendously, not just about how to become a doctor, but also how to become a better person. My sincere gratitude goes out to all for this opportunity given to us. Last but not least, I would like to just convey a message to our Silent Mentor’s family, ‘those who we truly love will never leave us”. With that, I thank you. 

19th Silent Mentor Workshop 18-23/07/2017

Dahlia Munchar Binti Elias (MEM130031)

“Our fingerprints don’t fade from the lives we touched” – Judy Blume. If that holds true, then the legacy made by all the Silent Mentors will truly be eternal. In my opinion, the Silent Mentor Program is one of the noblest ways to contribute to the society. I’m sure I speak for many students when I say that their actions move us deeply. After living a full life, on with joy and strife, the mentors chose to forgo traditional memorials to donate to the advancement of medical knowledge. What we learnt from them will be used in our practice to help others and be passed down to future students as well.

My mentor’s family once asked, ‘Why isn’t this program part of the faculty’s curriculum?”. To them, they wanted all students to be able to learn from my mentor. My answer then was that, “I think, the exclusivity of Silent Mentor makes the whole experience more valuable to the participants”. I feel truly grateful and blessed to have been given the opportunity to join this program and learn from my mentor. God willing, I hope that all participants, including myself, will cherish this opportunity to learn from our mentors and not take them for granted.

 

Joyce Teo Wei Ting 张玮婷 (MEM130061)

不知不觉中,一个星期的无语良师工作坊就这样画下了完美的句点。能与这位 “最特别的老师”–王添益老师邂逅,我的心里充满着万分感激,也深信这一切是缘分巧妙的安排。透过这个具有意义的无语良师计划,老师们也成功地圆满了心中的大愿---遗爱在人间,无私地奉献自己的大体让医学生们学习。这份舍己为人的精神,让我深刻地明白了付出的真谛。老师,您早已在我们的心中播下满是爱心的种子,感动着每一个人,每一个生命。在您身上所缝的一针一线,也不断地再提醒着我,要用心和耐心地对待每一位病人,如同我对待您一样。最后,我也在心中为自己立下了小小誓愿,那就是唯有不断地努力学习,才不会辜负您的期望。感恩您,王老师,让我在医学生涯中上了宝贵的一课。

 

Alina Binti Mohamad (MEM130006)

I heard about this program from my seniors and friends. They said it is a beneficial program that I should join it. So I signed up for this program a few months ago. I thought I just can learn about clinical skill from this Silent Mentor, but I was wrong. I learnt more than that, including empathy, love, sacrifices, and more. I am glad and thankful that this program was planned and conducted smoothly so that we can fully benefit from it. Thank you.

 

Teong Chee Sin 张芷馨 (MEM130166)

细雨朦胧,微风拂脸。站在人海中,凝望着老师的灵柩。忆起数月前,您我只是人生过客。然而一份心意,一股勇气,一场牺牲,造就了一次美丽的邂逅。二零一七年三月二十九日是终点,也是起点。哀悼、净身、解剖、缝合、入殓,这看似轻描淡写的过程,却参杂着五味杂陈的心思。我因领悟老师传递的知识,而雀跃不已。 又因感叹生命的凋零,泪水夺眶而出。心中充满了无限的不舍与感恩。感谢您的无私奉献,愿您随海风安然离去。


Elicia Chieng Tze Zhing 詹智晴 (MEM130036)

This Silent Mentor Workshop has taught me invaluable lessons of love and selflessness on top of the very necessary clinical skills. I am truly grateful for the mentors' selfless contribution to allow us to practice on their bodies so that we may become better doctors in the future.


Nur Nazifah Binti Mazlan (MEM130122)

I am glad that I was introduced and was able to participate in the Silent Mentor Program. I never knew that someone that I have never met before would leave such a huge impact on my life. With each and every day of the program, I had learned something new and met someone new. Aside from clinical skills, I have learned to give love and care to others and to respect other people’s culture and beliefs. Most importantly, I have a family here and I will always remember and cherish every moment of this Silent Mentor Program.


Cheryl Chia Hau Yee 謝巧兒 (MEM130021)

當初決意參加第十九屆無語良師工作坊僅僅是因為想要學習及掌握手術技巧,並沒有意識到,技術上的收穫只是冰山一角--此工作坊讓我對生死離別有了新的看法;從王老師過世的那一天起,我們就開始給老師淨身,到他家中拜訪並了解他生前的事跡。到工作坊的那個星期,我們每天都得給他淨身以確保老師以最好的狀態開始及結束一天的课程。一路上雖然疲憊,可我竟在不知不覺中也漸漸地成為了他的家人。王老師不僅是一個在我們的生命裡一個來去匆匆的病人,他是一個有血有肉,有故事的一位『家人』。他過了一生的跌宕起伏、聚散浮生,走到了人生的盡頭後就由我們來接手,這是一件多麼有意義的事情,老師的遺願就交給我們去圓满了。感恩老師的妻子王太太一路上的支持,她教會了我們如何冷靜地看待生死離別,其實死亡並沒有那麼悲觀。最重要是感恩老師博愛的精神,才能讓我們有機會學習,當一位更好的醫生。往後只要有我們救急扶傷、援貧濟世的地方都總會有老師的精神存在。感恩。

 

Nazhatulnadia Binti Hashim (MEM130105)

I feel very thankful and grateful for being given an opportunity to be involved in this beneficial program. From this program, I learnt to be more compassionate and respect to all our patients. It taught me more than just being a skill oriented doctor. Silent Mentor Program has been a great experience to me and it taught me a lesson that no book can provide to me. From the home visit and interview session, it allowed us to know our mentor and their family members thoroughly. It also made us more empathetic towards family members and trained us to always put ourselves in patient shoes. Through this program, I learnt a lesson that we need to treat a patient as a whole and not just treating the disease. Thank you my beloved Silent Mentor Mr. Ong, his family members, Mr. Sia and other committees for making this program a success.


Saw Li Sean 苏丽仙 (MEM130143)

生命从来都不是一个易懂的课题。随着年龄的增长,人逐渐变得自私。我们似乎忘了那份纯洁,无私奉献的精神。但当生命到了最后一刻,我们的无语良师们义无反顾的把他们最爱的自己奉献给医学研究,把爱延续在他人身上。在这一个星期,我深刻地感觉到了他们的爱,他们无私的精神。捐赠大体从不是一个容易的决定,就算是对于身为医学生的我们。即不论在生时,他们的生活如何,但在他们离去的那一刻,他们是受人尊敬,爱戴的。他们值得我们的鞠躬感谢。

 

Sim Su San 沈淑钐 (MEM130146)

老师,您辛苦了。我在这无语良师计划中获益良多,不仅仅是在学术上,心态也改变了。我深深感受到您的伟大及大爱。感恩您无私的奉献。大爱无言,感恩老师。

Fatin Nur Shaheera (MEM130045)

I have heard great things about the Silent Mentor Workshop and I am glad that I have decided to join this workshop. I have not only learned and experienced numerous hands-on surgical skills through this one week program, but also empathy and the meaning of sacrifice. The family members of our beloved Silent Mentors should receive an amount of respect as highly as our Silent Mentors as their sacrifices to support their loved one’s decision while having to go through the tough moments of grief were unimaginable. I have developed a sense of respect and affection to my respectful Silent Mentor, Mr. Tang Nam who was known to be a great husband, a loving father and a caring friend through my times helping to preparing his body every day. He was indeed a great man with a big heart, I would always keep him close to my heart, as my motivation to be the best doctor I can be, to be as kind and generous, as he was. To him, who had inspired us all, my deepest gratitude, Mr. Tang Nam.

Asyikin Mohamad (MEM130014)

It is a very great opportunity, a lifetime experience to be part of this Silent Mentor Program. I gained a lot of things that I am sure that won’t get in any textbooks or lectures.

At first, I thought by joining this program, it will be just the same as learning anatomy using the cadavers in Anatomy Lab. However, my thought changed day by day, when I involved directly in knowing my Silent Mentor’s background, family members as well as his dedication in donating his body for medical education. I am very touched for his sacrifices, that I am sure we could not afford to pay financially or physically.

Throughout this program, the most important aspect that I learnt is not the medical knowledge, but the power of love and passion showed by my Silent Mentor. He was a very nice person, loved by his family, relatives and friends. Almost every day, my friends and I took good care of our Silent Mentor, by cleaning and suturing the body, to ensure that they are always in the best condition. It instilled the value of responsibility, love and passion to our hearts. I am sure this is best to be applied to our real patients in future.

Thank you my dearest Silent Mentor Mr. Tang Nam, for your selfless sacrifices to contribute to medical education. Even though you are silent, you spoke voices that communicated with us emotionally. It is our honour to learn from you. You will always be remembered & loved.

Last but not least, A Great Doctor is inspired by a Great Mentor. Thank you, our beloved Silent Mentors.

 

Fong Mee Ing 冯美瑛 (MEM130048)

这一路走来真的不容易,但您却教会了我不管再怎么辛苦都要坚持自己喜欢和爱惜的东西,不到最后一刻都不轻易放弃。

在您身上划下无数刀,缝了又开,开了又再补,我看了都觉得心疼,这不是每个人都能做到的,但您,无私的奉献了自己成就了我们这群医学生,化无用为大用。参加了这一次的无语良师工作坊也让我对死亡有了另一种看法和态度,离世带给家人的是一种痛彻心扉的哀伤,更多的是舍不得,但透过捐献大体于医学界却给医学生们带来的是无数的正能量去学习,同时也揣摩人生是多么的奇妙。我们非亲非故,您却无言无语的舍身成就学生,传授生命的奥秘,遗爱在人间。

谢谢您,老师,一路好走!

Kok Piao Yee (MEM130069)

I have learnt a lot from this Silent Mentor workshop. Honestly, this is one of the best workshops I have ever participated so far. I am truly grateful to have chance to join this meaningful workshop. Although tiring, I truly enjoyed this workshop and also the time spent together with Mr. Tang Nam's family. Here, I would like to thank Prof Saw Aik and Mr. Sia for their great efforts and guidance in making this workshop successful. Thank you, we really appreciate it!

Nong Sofea Ku (MEM130106)

I feel thankful that I have got the chance to involve myself in this Silent Mentor Program. I have learnt a lot of things that I will never get from anywhere else. It is all about clinical and humanity combined at the same time. I am glad that important clinical procedures mentioned above were able to be performed under the guidance of experienced lecturers and doctors, but more importantly essential medical humanistic values and approaches were successfully inculcated in us in our daily practices as future doctors. The sacrifices that our Silent Mentors made as well as the willingness of their family members to let us learn from their loved ones have taught us the true meaning of selflessness. Our Silent Mentors have also redefined death; it is not the end, rather it signifies the beginning of a great purpose after their passing. With this knowledge, they faced death with courage and pride. These lessons have been firmly ingrained in each and every one of us who attended this program, for which we would not be able to learn elsewhere. My only regret is that I was unable to wish all the Silent Mentors, especially Mr. Tang Nam, my sincerest gratitude when they were alive. Finally, thank you and rest in peace. You will always be remembered.

Ang Yuin Ging (MEM130011)

"你们可以在我身上割错无数刀,但不要日后在病人身上割错一刀!"。这句话,不是一般人都能够说得出口的,可鄧南老师您却毫不畏惧地说了这话。为了医学的进步,为未来的病人能少受点苦,您化无用为大用,捐赠大体成就伟大医学教育。静静躺着的您,承受了无数刀,日夜切割缝补,您不动声色,我却心疼不已。您的无言无语,无私的奉献,不仅传授了生命的奥秘,也让我明白最尊贵的爱,无需言语。鄧南老师以及无语良师们,您们犹如菩萨。感恩您们的舍身,感恩您们的遗爱人间。您们的大德将铭记于心。感恩!

Leroy Lim Wui Hon (MEM130081)

It’s been a difficult week, physically and emotionally.

Physically, the times were demanding. We need to wake up at 5.30am and 6.30am. While everyone is having their beauty sleep, our alarms were the only one that rang before the sun rose up. We got back late too. Workshops ended about 8.30pm but cleaning up will take time. Some members even got back at 11pm without having their dinner. Emotionally, I was drained as well. Having listened to each mentor’s life stories, sometimes you think, man.. these people did not deserve to die yet. They’ve got so much more to achieve, so much more time to spend with their loved ones, so much more stories to tell. But life is life, and death accompanies it. I couldn’t help but to feel sad every time I look down on my mentor in the hall, knowing how great of a man he was (and still is!), and now he is just lying down there. May God bless his soul.

Having said all this (hope I don’t scare you), in the end, all the morning calls, the late nights, the long hours, it was all worth it. I am not asking the organizers to change the times or the hours. I am asking the students to embrace it. Trust me, spend the time. Take the extra courage to wake up early. Take good care of your mentor. Learn as much as you can from the workshop. And know that you mentor will be smiling down on you from the heavens.

My last sharing is, I know as doctors, we are not supposed to be so attached to patients and their families. It will affect our decision-making. However, I must say that I am happy to be able to meet and got to know Mr. Tang Nam’s family better, since there are also no decision makings in this event. The family, especially Mr. Patrick (son) and Ms Pui Kwan (daughter), had shown so much kindness and love for our team. The family had been through so much. Even the burial had to be postponed by months because of the program. It must have been hard for the family, that they could not lay Mr. Tang Nam’s earthly body to rest yet. The least I could do is to help wheelchair the elderly relatives around, showed Mr. Patrick some hidden parking spots, walked them to their cars, etc. Mr. Patrick even offered to keep in touch even after the event has ended. We truly appreciate the sacrifices made by our mentor and his family. We love you. Thank you. God bless.

 

Nur Farahin Binti Ismail  (MEM130118)

I am very grateful for being chosen as one of the participants in this great program. I started this program without having any single idea about how this program being conducted other than knowing that I could learn something especially in term of skills. So, I just thought this program as one of our clinical skill programs which will enhance our skill and technique. After going through this program for about a week, I realised that I gained more than the knowledge itself. I learnt about respect, sacrifices and empathy. I could see that how hard the organiser and volunteers tried their best to remind us about respecting our mentor by having one minute of silent prayer before every session and everyday introduction of our Silent Mentor to the postgraduate team. They also reminded us to handle our mentor very softly and try not to make more harm to the body especially when cleaning. We also learnt about sacrifices by our mentors and their family members in allowing us to get the best learning point in this program. “It is okay to make a thousand cuts on a dead body but don’t make mistake on living person”, the last word from my mentor that I cherish the most. 

 

Chuah Su Ying 蔡淑颖 (MEM130030)

能够参与第十九届马来亚大学无语良师工作坊真的很感恩,这不仅增进了我临床的学习经验,教会我更多的是无私大爱的精神和人生的价值观。我会把这次所学习的经验铭记在心,还有无语良师家属给予我们的四个字:用心生活。谢谢成就这次工作坊的所有人,感恩缘分让我们聚在一起。

 

Aimi Amirah Binti Yusof (MEM130004)

Silent Mentor Program is a good learning opportunity as I learned a lot of things from it. The basic surgical skill and other common procedures were not the only things I’ve learned but equally important skills I gained from the program are teamwork, empathy, communication skill and the culture of other ethnics.

 

Tan Keh Ling 陈柯鲮 (MEM130157)

人世间,沧海桑田,群山有崩塌的时候,大海有干涸的时候,生灵有灭绝的时候,可唯有施恩,超然于一切事物之上,那么地铭记于心。老师,您无言的教诲如春风,无语的师恩深似海。我答应您,让世界有爱,似如您在。

 

Tang Weng Kin 陈永健 (MEM130162)

我不是一位多愁善感的人,我不是一位懂得表达自己的人。然而,面对老师,一直以来,我只能以尊敬来对待,以认真学习来报答。一切都好像是这样的,直到最后一天,我看着那四张老师棺木的照片,忽然觉得老师们从此就在人间消失时,我心里很难受。我觉得老师们真的很伟大。通过家访,我们基本上就了解老师的一生,撇开老师的一生,每个人的一生肯定都不容易,而老师更是受了很多苦难,但是他却没有怨天怨地,他选择努力生活,他选择了最大爱的方式来造福我们。这种善举真的不是普通人能够做到的,那种无私的奉献,可以说是无我的境界,这种大爱的精神真的很难得。我那一刻真的很感动,我想我真的该向老师们学习如何做个更好的人。谢谢您老师!祝福您一路好走,安息。最后,我要感谢Mr.Sia与所有志工们的帮助,有了你们,我们才有这个机会参与这项计划。谢谢你们的善行,感恩。    

 

Kwong Kar Ying 关嘉莹 (MEM130072)

言语已无法表达我对这个活动的想法。因为一些私人因素,我没法参与第一次帮大体老师清洗以及冷冻的过程。一直到家访,才第一次接触及认识老师。那五天的工作坊确实很累人,可真的让我学习到很多在医院常见但不能动手的程序。同样的,也让我见识到老师一天比一天多的伤口。心里那莫名的痛也不知该怎么去诠释。真的很感谢,感恩老师无私的奉献。希望参与这工作坊的每个人,能牢牢记住他们所学的知识,造福人群.

 

Wai Suetyen 韦雪燕 (MEM130170)

“生命不在乎长短,最重要是生命的深度,用心生活”- 这句话,深深地烙印在我的脑海里。感谢各位大体老师无私的奉献,特别是我的大体老师许宇明老师,在这短短的一个星期,我获益不浅,不只是医学上的知识,还有我对人生的观念。老师伟大的付出,以及我学到的经验和感受是无价的。每一天早上为老师清理身体的时候,每当我看到老师的身体又多了一把刀痕的时候,都会默默地在心里与老师对话,我心想,捐大体到底需要多大的勇气?这堂课,虽然老师无言无语,只有心灵上的沟通,但是这堂课,是课本上学不到的,也是我人生中最宝贵的一堂课。当然也不忘家属们对无语良师的支持,是他们的大舍,愿意舍弃着一份不舍,好让老师们完成心愿,让医学品质更上一层楼。许老师,虽然您已经离开了这个世界,但其实,您不曾离开过,因为真正的爱不会因为生命的流逝而止息,您将永远铭记在我的心中,您是我最特别的老师,愿老师一路好走。安息吧!感恩。

 

Chong Jia Jie 張嘉傑 (MEM130024)

勿忘初衷,一直是陪伴著在就讀醫學的我的座右銘。但還是會無時無刻迷失方向。感恩有此因緣參與'無語良師'工作坊,讓我在其中學習到了平日學不到的人生價值。在此工作坊,從家訪开始,到每天早晨清理老師,在老師身上做些手術,直到在工作坊結束把傷口縫上,一直提醒我凡事得細心,得謙虛地學習。不但如此,在老師身上割錯的那一刀,縫錯的那一線,會一直烙印在我腦裡。感恩無語良師。

 

Siti Aminah Binti Muhammad (MEM130147)

I learnt a lot throughout the Silent Mentor Program for the past one week. Firstly, I gained first hand experience through the workshops held in which I would not get in any clinical sessions throughout the medical school years.  It was a golden opportunity and a blessing to be able to learn from the Silent Mentors in the clinical aspect of medicine as well as values to uphold in being a better doctor in future and a better person as a whole. These precious experiences also encourage me to study and work harder to be able to convey and share the knowledge that all the Silent Mentors have taught us. 

 

Wan Nur Solehah Binti Wan Abdullah Zubir (MEM130172)

It has been an enlightening experience joining the Silent Mentor Program. 

I learnt and did so many new things that would otherwise only been seen in textbooks or heard from lectures. I am also amazed and humbled by the generous hearts of the Silent Mentors who donated their bodies for the advancement of the medical field. Not one single day passes by without me thinking on how they were able to do so. How did one accept having multiple procedures done on one's body after death, even knowing that it would help future medical professionals?

Truly, the courage they had when making the decision to be a Silent Mentor was not little. 

 

Tan Chung Wei 陈俊威 (MEM130155)

对于老师们的奉献,我无法用言语来表达我的谢意。在这无语良师工作坊,我对老师们产生了某种形容不了的感情。偶尔,还会不时的想起老师们,有种时时刻刻叮咛着我的感觉,天天为他们净身与照料,没有压力、放胆地向他们学习,该做怎样的人,该做怎样的医生,实在受益良多。感谢老师们给我这个机会。愿您们安息。在此,也感谢家人们的支持,以及无语良师工作坊全体人员的付出,深感谢意。感恩!

 

Chin Xin Wei 陈欣薇 (MEM130023)

很感谢能够参与第十九届无语良师工作坊。经过了一星期的活动,真的让我受益不浅。通过此工作坊,我在大体老师身上插入了我人生中第一个中心静脉导管(central venous line)与胸管(chest tube)。这些都是医学生永远都没有机会实行的程序,但唯有获得大体老师的无私奉献,才得以让我们实现学习的梦想。春蚕到死丝方尽,蜡炬成灰泪始干,但大体老师的奉献却是永无止尽的。我非常感谢各位大体老师的无私付出,也很感激为这工作坊日夜劳动的工作人员,以及自愿者们。这将是我永生难忘的美好经验与回忆。感恩!

 

Lee Sin Ying 李芯荧 (MEM130077)

Through Silent Mentor Program, I got to know my Silent Mentor, Mdm. Tam and her family members. Donating her body for the use of medical education was really an act of love and kindness, especially when our mentor did not even know the person who is going to carry out procedures on her. By putting trust on us, she just surrendered her body. Silent Mentor Program is like a silent movie, messages conveyed without spoken dialogue. You have taught us humanity, love and courage. Thank you, Mdm. Tam. You will always be remembered.

 

Jacklyn Hong Chew Ting 熊秋婷 (MEM130060)

From the first day of cleaning your body while I felt like you were just another patient who passed away, until the last day when I cleaned your body as if you were one of my family members, you had shown to all of us that love can be simple, courageous, selfless and of no boundaries. You had left, but you left us thoughts to be pondered upon late in the night; you were gone, but nothing can carry your greatest kindness away. You were silent but you spoke volumes. You were a gift not only to us medical students, but to all the patients we are going to meet and treat in the future. Thank you.

 

Nor Azuwa Binti Said (MEM130109)

I first heard about Silent Mentor Program when I was a first year medical student. Years passed, and now, I felt so grateful to be able to participate in this program. Silent Mentor Program had taught me more than just clinical stuffs. It had a lot of “first time” for me. My first incision made on real human being, able to feel the pleural space and lung, intubation, endless suturing and many more to mention. I won’t be able to forget the adrenaline rush at that time. However, I learnt more than that. The four Silent Mentors taught me about love, kindness and courage regardless of race, religion and culture. They were not just cadavers on operation table. They were once a caring father, a hardworking person and a loving husband yet they still thought about others who are not related to them. They all had one similar idea which was to return back the good deeds to society. I wish they will rest in peace and may their family members and friends live their life to the fullest. Thank you to all Silent Mentor Program committees especially Mr. Sia, volunteers, group-mates and of course our beloved Silent Mentors for one week of precious memories and priceless knowledge.

 

Woo Wing Jun 胡永缙 (MEM130173)

“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.” – Henry Adams.

A million thanks to Madam Tam and all other Silent Mentors. I felt extremely grateful to be able to join this program as I was able to learn all the clinical skills to the fullest as I could practise as many times as possible. Nevertheless, the most valuable lesson I have learnt was the art of medicine which included empathy, selflessness and compassion. Your sacrifice and selfless contribution will definitely be remembered and carried forward along the journey in my medical career. From a stranger to a special teacher, you spoke no words, but the volume of your action has given us the most special experience during medical school.

 

Syahirah Binti Mohd Radzi (MEM130154)

I initially decided to join Silent Mentor Program with the intention of learning clinical procedures and skills from the Silent Mentors as I have heard so many good comments from students who have joined this program before. And as expected, this program was an excellent workshop that focused on delivering medical humanity, which could not otherwise be obtained from books or observation alone. It allows us to practice a lot of important procedures on real human bodies, which prepared us in the future when we become doctors. However, after going through it, I was pleasantly surprised that what I actually learnt was so much more than just that. Our Silent Mentors’ selfless act of donating their bodies for the benefit of others have taught us how love and kindness transcend boundaries, no matter what race you are or what religion you practice. Even at the face of death, our Silent Mentors have shown us how a kind heart can move other people’s hearts and change their lives. They have taught us the values of love, compassion and respect and we are beyond thankful for that. I would also like to thank the family members of our Silent Mentors especially to Mr. Stanley Wong and his two daughters for allowing us to have this valuable experience. The journey of losing their loved ones must have not been easy, as the grieving process have taken longer than usual because of the workshop. We could never repay the sacrifice and kindness that you have extended to us throughout this program. Thank you to all the committee members and lecturers that have taught us during this workshop and making this the best learning experience for all of us. And lastly, to my dear Silent Mentors, Madam Tam Guek Chee, Mr. Steven Ong, Mr. Tang Nam and Mr. Khor Jee Ming, your sacrifice have changed so many of our lives and have made us better people. We know that a simple thank you would never be enough to pay for your great act of love. You have given us the honour and privilege to learn so much from you and we feel so blessed and thankful to be at the receiving end of your love. We promise to be good doctors in the future and to always be kind to others. Finally, rest well, my dear Silent Mentors.

 

Nur Nadira Binti Mohammad Aris (MEM130121)

I am very grateful to be given the opportunity to join Silent Mentor Program especially to my mentor, Madam Tam who was willingly to donate her body for the medical education, so the medical professionals and students can improve their clinical skills. This program also taught me about empathy, compassion and respect. From the home visit to the initiation ceremony, her husband gave us a lot of motivation. Her daughter also supported this program by reminding us to make full use of her mother for learning purpose. I could see the love and proud from their eyes to Madam Tam during the Initiation Ceremony. I would like to say thank you to her family for everything.

Looking at the sutures that scattered all over the bodies of Silent Mentors had taught me the unconditional love they have given is priceless. I would like to pay my greatest respect to all the mentors for their selfless sacrifices to contribute to the medical education. I am forever grateful to all mentors. In our hearts, all of you will always be remembered.

Hafizatul Nasuha Abd Rahman (MEM130054)

Every journey must come to an end. For me, the past one week is the most memorable experience I ever had in medical school. The Silent Mentor Program not only helped me in my clinical skills but also taught me the meaning of life, love and compassion. In my opinion, this program is very unique as there’s a lot to learn from the Silent Mentors without the need for words. By the end of the program, I felt that I am now a part of the family and I am very grateful to our Silent Mentor for the irreplaceable experience. 感恩!特别的老师.

 

Carla Cai Zi (Monash University 27031101)

Silent Mentor Program was a tremendous and inspiring program. When I was given a chance to participate in this program, I was extremely grateful thinking that this must be a platform for me to enhance my surgical skills before stepping into clinical years. However, after the home visit session, I realized that I was wrong as it wasn’t just a research and training session, but a selfless contribution and huge courage made by our mentors for the advancement of medicine. Going for the home visit, I felt the responsibility of participating. Getting to know our mentor’s life story especially the pain she suffered due to her illness made me realized the importance of respecting human anatomy and the dignity of the donor. The home visit session had built a strong bonding between us and our mentor which is always reminded us to handle the body with utmost respect and gentleness during the workshop but not just seeing it as a cold cadaver.

The workshop went by where every morning we have to clean our mentor. When I touched her cold hands while cleaning, I will always think about the sacrifices she had made for us, medical students. Looking at increasing number of sutures and procedures that have been performed on her from the first day till the last day of the workshop, I felt as if I could also feel the pain. I will never forget the fact that she was my first ‘patient’. Without uttering a single word, my mentor not only taught me the medical knowledge but also the value of selflessness and love which I promised to pass down to my future patients.

The measure of life is not its duration, but its donation. All in all, I would like to thank our mentor Madam Tam Guek Chee for her contribution. To the world she may be an ordinary person, but to us she will always be our greatest mentor. I appreciated your contribution from the bottom of my heart.  Thanks for introducing me a different pathway to the world of medicine where there’s full love, empathy and respect.

 

Teh Wen Xin (Monash)

Silent Mentor Program has given me a chance to explore and discover the other side of medicine and humanity that I have never been exposed to up till my second year of medical school. When I first joined this program, I wasn’t as emotionally attached to my Silent Mentor as I am now after the workshop. My first home visit to my Silent Mentor’s house made me realised that this was not just a stranger’s body that I will learn from, but a good father that was selfless enough to donate his body for the sake of medical education. While listening to my Silent Mentor’s life story from his children, it fascinated me how much I could be involved in my Silent Mentor’s life as his children walked me through their father past experience and personality.

Throughout the workshop, every morning I had to clean up his body and prepare him for the hands-on workshop later in the evening, I became more and more emotionally attached and grateful towards my Silent Mentor. I had learnt so much of clinical procedures that I thought I wouldn’t be exposed to at this stage of my study. When the program came to an end and sending off ceremony was held, it appeared to me that my Silent Mentor had given all that he could to teach me. All that I could do was properly prepared him to send him off to the ‘other world’. That was the moment where all kinds of emotions set in – sad, grateful, compassion, thankful.

18th Silent Mentor Workshop 18-23/04/2017

Khoo Wei Joo 邱玮茹 (MEM130068)

落紅不是无情物,化做春泥更护花。虽然生命的花朵已凋谢,虽然已经无法再灿烂,但我们的大体老师们都不愿就此暗淡离开,是将落花变成肥沃的泥土,用來滋养我们这些即将绽放的花兒。我很庆幸自己有机会参与这次的计划,从家访、行谊简介、工作坊到送行,我深深领悟到,无语良师计划提供的不仅仅是医学的教育,更是人文和生死的教育。即使面对大体老师冰冷的躯体,我不时也提醒自己,大体老师也曾是有血有泪有思想的生命。因此,每天早晨的一抹一擦,每天晚上的一针一线,我都会认认真真地完成,丝毫不敢马虎。从中我学会了,未来面对每一位病人,我们不能只看到病,更要看到人; 不能只治疗病,更要以同理心去感受他们的经历,以减少他们那些无形的疼痛。感谢无语良师计划,也感恩方耀泉老师和所有大体老师们的奉献,让我们在未来成为更好的医生。

Lim Lee Hui (MEM130082)

一个人需要多大的勇气才能把自己的大体捐赠出来?是一时还是一世?您们的付出是非笔墨所能比喻,我们答应您们未来必定做一位好医生,相信这是对您们最好的报答。您们很安静,但从您们安详的大体总能感觉到您们的嘱咐,嘱咐我们对待每一位病人要像对待您们一样细心耐心。您们很冰冷,但您的奉献却感化人心,这就是所谓的人间温情吧。感恩!感恩每一位无语良师的无私让我们在整个工作坊不管是课业上或是心灵上都获益不浅。感恩每一位无语良师的伟大付出,在我们的医学道路上画下美丽的一笔。感恩每一位无语良师的奉献让这一切变得格外有意义。谢谢您们~独特也是唯一的老师们。

 

Tay Swee Woon (MEM130163)

Silent Mentor Program is a recognized charity event whereby any individual can willingly donate their body after death solely for medical research, and Silent Mentor Workshop enables us medical students to get an opportunity to have hands-on experience under the guidance of learned doctors and specialist, objectively speaking. However, at times it can be overwhelming for a student as there was so many things going on behind the scene, so much emotions and feelings, and definitely, so much love and affection spread throughout the event.

My Silent Mentor, Mr. Hong Yu Chuan, selflessly devoted his body to be under our care, to somebody whom he may or may not have known or met during his lifetime, all for the sake of giving somebody else a chance to be a better person. I will always remember his wise words, “you can make hundreds and thousands of mistakes on me, but never do even a single mistake on other people when using the blade”.

As for the workshop, it was one of the workshops I gained the most from albeit the time and effort spent on this. Opportunity for valuable hands-on experience was given to us to hone our surgical skills as well as to better understand certain procedures. It will definitely be a memorable one for me and I urge other medical students to actively participate in this program.

I thank Mr. Hong’s family, Mrs. Liew and her three children for the patience and strength to go through this event with us, and to fulfill Mr. Hong’s last wish. Words of gratitude alone can never be enough, thus I promise I shall do my best in every aspect of life, and to be a better man. Thank you.

 

Siti Nazihah Binti Abdullah (MEM130149)

I could not say more of how fond I am to my Silent Mentor Mr. Hong Yu Chuan. One hectic week is definitely not enough to understand his bravery and willingness to join this program, but rather the rich emotional experiences that I had with him. When you thought you only capable to let us learn medical and clinical aspects, I gained beyond that. I learnt cultural, religious, and volunteerism aspects as well and this made you truly a special teacher. Besides that, this program provides a platform for me to sharpen my practical skills, especially suturing techniques. God knows the difficulties I had as a left-handed person. Mr. Hong dedicates his body to a person like me, someone who has not much skill and deemed to make mistakes so that we are able to do it better and gracefully with minimal mistake to the real patient. Not to forget, I would like to extend my special thanks to Dr. Warren Erwin who really sit down with me and attempt left hand suturing so that I could understand the steps better. My respect and gratitude to the noble Mr. Hong Yu Chuan as well as the rest of the Silent Mentors for dedicating your bodies for us to learn with the hope of better future although you were not in this world anymore. All of you have enlightened us with this exceptional sacred contribution. May all of you rest in peace.

 

Mohamad Zulfadhli Bin Abdullah (MEM130092)

When I was in 1st year of medical study, I started to wonder what this Silent Mentor is all about. We got a simple briefing on what is it, since that, I already put my heart to this program that I will join it when I am able to do so.

Silent Mentor Program is a great platform for us medical students to get to know so many things from our Silent Mentors. Not only the medical skills such as suturing, intubation & chest tubes, but we also get to learn on how to handle the Silent Mentor carefully, to put everything into our hearts, go deeply into the emotions of the Silent Mentor’s family and taught us to be empathy to our Silent Mentors. Couldn’t count for how many times I burst into tears when joining this program, but for me, this is such a program of its own, no program would be the same as this. In addition, the Silent Mentor brought us new experiences that they taught all of us on appendectomy, releasing the carpal tunnel syndrome and many more. It did help us to gain more knowledge than what we see in real life in the operation theater. I am grateful for being given an opportunity to participate in the Silent Mentor Program.

 

Sumitra Ropini A/P Karuthan (MEM130151)

It is said that teachers are great, in that they burn themselves out to give light to others. However, our six Silent Mentors took it one step further, by giving light to others even when their own were extinguished.

The Silent Mentor Program is unlike any other. In the past one week, I learnt about the human body and various skills needed to be a good doctor. More than that, I remembered the importance of being a humane, empathetic doctor. I was overwhelmed at the selflessness of our Silent Mentors who were willing to donate their bodies for the sake of research and to teach medical professionals and students. The lessons and values we learnt from them are some that I will carry with me for the rest of my medical career.

 

Yong See Yen (MEM130179)

为时一周的无语良师工作坊画上了圆满的句点。过去的一周,是疲惫的一周,是伤感的一周,是感动的一周,亦是重生的一周。

进入大学医学系第四年的我,自认为已看透生死,日复一日的机械式问答,年复一年的考试重压,我已逐渐把当初对医学的热忱抛诸脑后。反之冷漠逐渐占据了我的心,渐渐地我已忘了初衷,开始对现在和未来的人生路感到迷茫。

当初要参与无语良师工作坊无非只是认为这是个很好的机会提升自己的外科技术,获取经验以后好增加个人的竞争力而已,直到接触了无语良师的家人,了解了老师的背景,一颗温暖的种子不知不觉在心中开始萌生。

老师与我素未谋面,但他却无私地把大体捐献给我们,不要求一分一毫。更伟大的是老师的家人,在老师离去后,伤心难过之余,还要一次又一次地被提醒那段痛苦的心路历程,耐心地接受我们的采访。

在大体启用之际,犹记得我们被要求清晨六时为老师净身。所有参与的学员未发出一声怨言,全带着尊重的心,悉心地擦拭着,深怕不小心弄疼了老师。在看到老师身上的伤痕,心痛之情不禁由心生起,就连自认“铁石心肠”的我也湿了目眶。

这一个星期的工作坊,的确教了我许多医学上的知识,但更重要的是,它从新燃起了我那冷漠的心,唤起了我的初衷。谢谢您~方耀泉老师,我不会忘记您的教诲,我会把我在您身上所学的,好好地用在我的病人身上,让更多人受益。

 

Choo Lai Yee (MEM130026)

Mr. Hong Yu Chuan vividly reminded to always appreciate the time I have with my family and friends. Three months of involvement in this program, I had learnt more than what I learnt in the hospital. He had taught me to be selfless. From a stranger turned to be a teacher of my entire life. It is kind a rare but it happened. I am blessed that family members of Mr. Hong gave me their trust to handle the ups and downs of this program. Silent Mentor had made my mind clear on where should I move to on the next step. Thank you.

 

Gan Chai Woon (MEM130049) 

透过无语良师计划,我充分地了解了各位捐赠者伟大的心境。逝世之后,比起一般人直接入土,他们得在冰库过上几个月,然后经过工作坊,最后以火葬的方式得以安息。我学会了用爱与尊敬,去温柔地对待我的大体老师~卜凤娇老师。虽然不曾在她在世时认识她,可是透过家访以及她往生后慈祥的笑容,可以了解她是一个多么善良的人。老师会永远烙印在我心里,让我记得学习生涯中, 曾经有这么一位无私的无语良师。我也感谢卜老师的家属们,没有他们的支持,就没有这一次的工作坊,换做是我,我未必会如此地从容面对。感恩!

 

Christine Koay Swee Zhu (MEM130029) 

能够参与这次的无语良师工作坊就像是上天给予的恩赐。过程中我们不但学习到了医学学术上的知识,更难能可贵的是,学习到了大体老师们那无私奉献的精神。透过与大体老师家人们的交流,我们也学习到了怎么聆听病患的家属及这个社会的心声与期望。各位医学系的同僚们,让我们大家携手努力,通过各自的独特方式把这份爱传播开来,在未来当个有医德的医生,当个咱们大家的大体老师们所期盼的良医!

 

Tan Fang Chin 陈方敬 (MEM130156)

捐献大体是一个决定,也是一个过程。一个充满喜怒哀乐,一个用爱来抗衡伤痛的过程。我感恩,能有这个机会去见证这个过程。爱是一个圆、爱是一个缘。 感恩!

 

Tan Qing Hang (MEM130158)

记得在无语良师活动的最后一天,在医学系学生代表分享感言的那天,有一位学生问了一个问题,那就是:我都准备好了,你们都准备好了吗?听了这句,大家纷纷都流泪了,而我的脑海里一片空白,只是不断地反思那道问题。答案虽然只是好或没好,但是做出这个决定,是需要很大的勇气和牺牲,会让你疼爱的家人和朋友承受反反复复的离别,不断地把刚抚平的心情重新起伏起来。

老实说,身为其中一位医学系学生,我还真得不懂怎样回答这个问题。我觉得我还不能真正得说出我准备好了,所以我对我的无语良师的敬佩与感恩是非墨笔所能形容的。感谢卜凤娇老师对我们无私的爱,捐出大体让我们学习,我将会铭记于心。

 

Siti Munirah Binti Mohamad Ismail (MEM130148) 

The Silent Mentor Program has given me an experience like no other. I have never dealt with death so closely in my life. The Silent Mentor Program has given me the chance to learn medical skills, teamwork and most importantly, medical humanity. I was blessed with getting to know these beautiful souls, though after their death. This program has affected me deeply and I am forever grateful to our Silent Mentors for their selflessness and willingness to let us learn from them. I am also very grateful to their families for accepting us into their homes, introducing the Silent Mentors to us through their stories and family photos, and for entrusting us to take care of their loved ones throughout the program. Lastly, I would like to thank the amazing doctors who taught us throughout the program, the Silent Mentor Program coordinators and also my fellow colleagues who have made the program a success. Thank you. 

 

Muhammad Fikri Bin Mohammad Rosli (MEM130099)

I feel very honoured and privileged to be one of the participants in this Silent Mentor Program. This program did not only teach us about certain clinical skills that are important in our future career, but also emphasize on the humanity, respect and empathy. For me, empathy is one of the most important values to be equipped by us as a medical student because as future doctors, we will not only treating the disease but we are taking care of the patient as a whole. These values will not be learnt from any of medical textbook. I would like to express my utmost gratitude to my Silent Mentor, the late Madam Pok Lam Kiow for her selfless contribution by donating her body for us to learn, and not to forget her family members for their cooperation throughout this program. May blessing will always be upon you and your family.

 

Kathy Anne Nunis (MEM130063)

With utmost gratitude, respect and love, we bid our selfless teacher goodbye on April 23rd, 2017. To my Silent Mentor, thank you for not only giving me the opportunity to learn medical skills but also to be humble and compassionate healthcare providers. Your inspirational life story acted as an encouragement as I pursue to be a good doctor. Rest in peace Madam Pok Lam Kiow. 

 

Adlina Athilah Binti Abdullah (MEM130001)

Being part of the program was a unique experience. My utmost gratitude to the organising committee, lecturers, staffs, and our Silent Mentors, for whom without, the program would not be possible, and my deepest condolences to the family and friends of our Silent Mentors. I truly appreciate the effort and time spent for us medical students to get the extra hands-on and procedural skills sessions. Thank you.

 

Iskandar Afiq Bin Abd Nasir (MEM130058) 

I am very grateful to be given the opportunity to join Silent Mentor Program. I feel so blessed to get a teacher who was willingly to donate her body just for the sake of our future. This program not only taught me about medical skills and procedures, it is far more than that. It is about empathy, sacrifice and love. Every time I cleaned up my teacher, I would clean it up as clean as possible. Every time I did suture on her, I would make it as perfect as possible. The unconditional love she has given is priceless. The toughest time was to say goodbye to our Silent Mentors. She did not only teach us to become a better future doctor, but better human being as a whole. I would like to say thank you to my Silent Mentor, Madam Pok Lam Kiow and her family for everything. Not to forget Mr. Sia and other committees for making this program a success. Thank you.

 

Kong Chen Xi 江晨曦 (MEM120063)

一切从一个心意开始:"希望学员们好好地学医,以后造福人群"。这是我的无语良师留给我的一段话,希望藉着我们好好地学,完成了老师最后的心愿,也给家属一个安慰。

感谢家属努力争取让爸爸成为无语良师,让我们有机会学习。也感谢家属把爸爸交给我们,没有限制和压力;让我们能轻松又自由地学习。

我在无语良师身上学的每一刀、每一线都会伴随我毕生的医科生涯。以后,不管我学得多高,走得多远,我的一针一线里都会有王老师的足迹,也有老师家属对我的祝福。

失去总让人悲痛,但我不会忘记,在那静默阳光的午后,您走了,却在我心里留下了您自己。感恩您!王福星老师。

 

Lee Chun Haw (MEM120068)

Thank you Mr. Ong Hock Seng & the family members. I am grateful for this great opportunity to learn from you. It is not just about the medical skills and knowledge, but also humanity which we are required in order for us to pursue in this journey of medicine, journey of life. You had done a great part in educating important values that we will not be able to learn from the textbooks. Indeed you are a great Silent Mentor of ours. May god bless you and your family.

 

Ler Xin Yi (MEM120074)

The Silent Mentor Program is truly an eye-opener for me. I certainly obtained a lot of first- hand knowledge by performing the procedures on our Silent Mentor. These valuable lessons would certainly come in handy during our real medical practice. For the body donors, it was not easy to make the decision to donate their bodies. They must truly understand the meaning and purpose behind the body donation program with no fear or regret. For that, I truly felt grateful and privileged to be part of this beneficial program.

To my dear special teacher, we owe you a great depth of gratitude for all that you have done for us.

 

Nuralyya Binti Zulkifli (MEM130126)

I think Silent Mentor is a very inspiring and beneficial program. It does not only improve my clinical skills but also teach me compassion and respect. Apart from that, it also shows us that there is no border in humanity. It unites us no matter what race or religious we are in. I am forever grateful to all the teachers.

 

Chong Chee Min 张志敏 (MEM120033)

王福星老师~一位和我素不相识的人,去世后因缘聚会通过无语良师计划而成为了我的老师。他不曾和我说过一句话,却教了我宝贵的医术和高尚的品德。这种舍己为人的大爱精神,不是人人都能理解,更是少数人才能做到,但他却真正的做到了。我敬重的王老师,您教会我的人生价值,我会好好的记住,不负您所望,将来造福人群。

 

Ong Lay Sim 王丽心 (MEM120158)

我很感恩能参加这一届的无语良师工作坊。很感激六位老师,让我有机会学到一些医疗和外科手术的技巧,也让我深深的领悟到老师们无私付出和回馈社会的精神。我会永远的记得您们的恩惠。愿我能以所学的知识帮助他人,把您们的爱延续,回报社会。感恩!

 

Low Qiong Cong (MEM120080) 

非常感恩有机会参加第十八届无语良师工作坊。在这个星期的活动中,让我学习了不少平日在课业中找不到的知识,并深深体会了人与人之间的那份温情与信任。我也体会到了医护人员与病人之间不单单只是责任,最重要的是双方之间那份真挚的信任与关怀。我们应视病人为亲人。非常感恩各位无语良师在医学上的奉献,无语良师们的付出,无非是要让更多生病的人得到最好的治疗。

我们真的接收到了老师的恩典,我们会用真心、良心去对待并医治每一位病人。这具有深藏意义的计划让我毕生难忘。相信在未来的日子里,在医学道路上感到迷茫、遇到挫折时,必定会想起无语良师们的恩惠,继续坚持着当初最真挚的初发心,勇敢地往前走。这计划让我深深感受到了病人对医生的期望与寄托,我期许自己将来给予大众最贴心的服务。

 

NorAsmira Binti Samsuri (MEM130108)

Silent Mentor Program is a great program. Not only it taught me about medical knowledge, it also taught me to care about my Silent Mentor and future patients. 

In terms of medical knowledge, I have learnt different types of suture and new suturing techniques that are very beneficial. Before this I only know about simple interrupted suture but after this program I have learned a few more sutures. Before this I only able to perform intubation on a mannequin but thanks to the Silent Mentor, now I am able to perform it on a human being. It was not as easy as doing it on a mannequin because human and mannequin are different. Besides, it is good to learn something new like chest tube insertion and central line catheter. It was a good exposure because one day I might be the one that needed to do it on a real patient. All of these procedures will help me in my medical life and also my career in the future.  

In term of spiritual gain, I have learnt to care for my Silent Mentor. There is no other way for me to express my gratitude to my mentor other than to care for him throughout this program. I will never be able to pay back my Silent Mentor for his willingness to contribute his body for this program.

This program went on so well. All of this cannot be done without the help from all of the committees. The lectures have been really helpful. The family members also gave their contributions to make this program a success. Without their help, we might not be able to know about our Silent Mentor life story. Overall, this program is a great success.

 

See Toh Yiling 司徒依翎 (MEM120168)

马六甲海峡,水波荡漾。一个风和日丽的早晨,回绕着的却是静悄悄的悲伤。乘着小轮船来到了海中央,孩子们任由那安慰人的微风将王福星老师的骨灰吹散,钻石般闪亮的骨灰缓缓沉入大海。他~是一位大体老师、一个为医学教育奉献身体的无语良师。

“无语良师”是由台湾慈济基金会发起的一项计划,为的是厘清大众对大体捐献的认知,且推广大体捐献以作医学研究用途,借此提升医学素质。

当初的我,参与的初衷也只为了让自己有更多的机会学习各方面的医学技能,例如学习缝合伤口、进行小手术、插管、胸腔导管等等。当然,现在的科技允许各种人体模型的发明,但却没有一具人体模型可以媲美真实人体的奥妙结构。

参与无语良师工作坊,学习的不单单只是医学技能,我们也同时被给予机会去认识这名捐献者,这名医学生们的导师。

我的导师是王福星老师。一个七旬的老人家,在二零一七年二月的一场车祸意外离世了,却早在五年前为这一天准备好了他的后事~签下了大体捐献同意书。万万没想到,大体捐献条件之一是大体不能被解剖。为完成父亲的心愿,孩子们放弃了验尸,也因此无法知道父亲的死因,更放弃了追求法律上的责任。

三月的某个周末,我们的团队来到了王老师马六甲的老家,迎接我们的是王老师的兄弟与孩子们。院子正中间摆了两张方形桌子,简单了自我介绍,家人们便娓娓道来王老师的生平事迹。间中参杂的是安静的抽泣和偶尔陈旧记忆里的不禁一笑。一个炙热的中午,泪水与汗水为王老师的身体交织了一个完美的灵魂,就像是刚认识了一位充满使命的老先生,由始至终为孩子的教育、为助养儿童的教育到为医学生的教育而付出。

为期一个星期的工作坊,从最初的为大体解冻、清洗大体、启用仪式到为期三天的医学生工作坊,每一个程序都不敢怠慢。逝世两个月后的那一天,终于见到王老师最后一面的家人们,再次承受了情绪的翻腾,但他们终究坚信,这是王老师所要成就的遗愿。三天里,每一天都学习了不一样的医学技能,也在老师身上造成了几个伤疤,然后一针一线,再把伤口缝合。

这一次的告别式,不是至亲,而是敬重的王老师。满身的伤疤是我们在他身上所学习的印记,也是老师对医学界最真切的祝福。为他穿上寿衣、盖上棺木、感恩仪式后送行。无语良师所给于的不单单是他的躯体,更是老师对每一个学生体贴的爱,包容每一个在他身上所割错的疤痕,只因他明白,医者应有的不只是医术,更是医德和医心。而教导爱,必须由爱衍生出去。

或许哪一天在学医的路上跌倒了,我知道,曾经有那么一位老师,是如此温柔地鼓励,坚信未来的某一天,那个娃娃女子会成为为世界带来改变的良医,哪怕只是一丁点儿。

感恩!珍重。

 

Lei Chen Shin (MEM130079)

Life is easier to say than done. Every decision we made affected by religion, culture and belief. Our teachers came from different religion, culture and belief yet they all made the decision and had done it with no hesitation to donate their bodies for the medical benefits. Their selfless act had warm my heart and made me believed that we should always be kind and generous towards other people.

At first we do not know our teacher, however through the home visit we get to know the story of our teacher and we become more understanding of what kind of person our teacher was. This made me often think of our teacher personality every day during the cleaning session thus I felt more and more grateful and respect towards our teacher throughout the event. It is my honour to be part of this program as it taught not only skills but the value of life that does not end at death.

 

Edwin Khoo Yi Way (MEM130035)

Death comes surely and at times silently. It did not stop my Silent Mentor, Madam Lee Leng Kee from constantly reminding her two daughters to fulfil her last wish, which was to become a Silent Mentor. I cannot find words to describe the selflessness and bravery that she had. She might have lost her life to her illness, but she left a great legacy to all of us who have participated in the program. I am sincerely grateful for her generosity and sacrifice, and not forgetting her family members, for fulfilling her wishes.

The Silent Mentor Program has allowed us to get hands-on experiences, but most importantly, the values of care, love, empathy and respect were observed throughout the program. It reminded us, as future healthcare providers, that we shall not be treating diseases, but patients, as human beings. For that, I would like to offer my deepest gratitude to all Silent Mentors and their family members, the organisers and volunteers of the program for this invaluable experience.

 

Dayang Farah Afiqah Binti Awang Husslan (MEM130034)

Being one of the participants in this Silent Mentor Program has been one of the highlights in my life. I had never imagined myself involving in this kind of learning process before. I would like to thank our Silent Mentors and their family members for giving this golden opportunity to medical students to gain some knowledge and to practice our skills. It was a very meaningful experience which ended beautifully. The Silent Mentors may be silent but they speak volume. Thank you so much and may you rest in peace.

 

Tang Siew Wei 郑晓薇 (MEM130161)

I felt so privileged to join the 18th Silent Mentor Workshop. This program not only sharpened our clinical skills, but also taught us about respect, love and care about our Silent Mentors and our patients in the future. In this program, what I could not forget was the Silent Mentor body cleaning early in the morning. I was responsible to wash and comb my Silent Mentor's hair. This had reminded me of my late grandmother. I asked myself, when she was alive, did I help her to wash or comb her hair as well at least once in her lifetime? Besides, I was impressed by the decision made by all the Silent Mentors to donate their bodies to this program and the supports from their family members, just in hope that we can become a better doctor who cares and has empathy for our patients and I promised I will. I would like to say thank you to all the Silent Mentors for their selflessness and all the committee members for making this workshop successful.

 

Nor Anis Suraya Binti Mohamad Nor (MEM130107)

I really learnt a lot from the Silent Mentor Program, not only the medical knowledge but a lot more on humanity. Although it may sound cliche, I was really touched when the family members came to us and said thank you for taking care of the deceased Silent Mentor when actually it should be we who expressed that gratitude to them. I cannot imagine how big your heart has to be to be able to donate your body to someone you barely know for the sake of knowledge. From the bottom of my heart, I am truly thankful and I hope I could return the deed by becoming a good doctor someday. Honestly, Silent Mentor Program had taught me to be compassionate, empathetic and big-hearted. I could not possibly learn this from just reading books or lectures.

 

P’ng Chun Keat (MEM130135)

I am so honoured to be able to be part of the Silent Mentor Program this time around. I am really grateful to have so many selfless mentors, donating their bodies for the program. Along the workshop, we had home visits, interactions with the family members, which brought us closer to our mentors, understand their personal life and expectations. It has touched each and every one of us so deep that mere words are unable to express our sincere thanks. They served as a teacher to us without saying a word, yet we felt the connection, the hope and expectation towards us. Some people may ask, how can we participant be so emotional during the course of this workshop since we did not know the mentors personally, nor were we able to communicate with them verbally. However when we were given this opportunity to spend so much time with our mentors, taking care of them from the very beginning till the end, a bond so strong would inevitably be formed. I am hereby giving my greatest respect to them for their courage, kindness and selflessness. I will forever be grateful for their sacrifices solely for the purpose of teaching us, for our medical profession. Thank you so much.

 

Kasturiy D/O Chandran (MEM130062)

First and foremost, I would like to thank my Silent Mentor, Madam Lee Leng Kee and her family members. The Silent Mentor Workshop was a program which I came to know about it during my first year as a medical student in University of Malaya. At first, I did not really understand regarding the purpose of the program. When I entered fourth year, I was keen to participate in this program to get to know about it. It was a one week program which first started with introduction to our Silent Mentor, visiting the family members, cleaning the body of our Silent Mentor followed by teaching and learning session of several procedures with the doctors. On the last day of the program, we had a formal ceremony as a way to appreciate the sacrifice of all six Silent Mentors. The program was an eye opener for me which enabled me to learn many things that cannot be explained by words. Hope the program continues and will have more students to volunteer and willing to learn.

 

Ang Bin Ting 洪斌庭 (MEM130010)

Enrolling into the Silent Mentor Program, here I was thinking it would just be a walk in the park, a good practical session to hone our skills. After registering, it was a whole different ball game. It was a normal day when we received the message of “Your teacher has just passed away, please gather at 5pm”. Right after class, we went straight to the mortuary and received our mentor’s body. It was then we felt the gravity of the situation. While cleaning the body, I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders - the responsibility that comes with it. I do find it insulting the way some of my peers were joking and laughing during the session.

Going for the home visit, it was the time where we felt the overwhelming pressure of the responsibility of participating. I cannot begin to imagine the pain the family has to go through telling us her life story, her history, likes and dislikes. I am sure that it would bring up so many memories, and I can feel that we are opening old wounds. When we left, these words were carved right into my mind, “From now on, my mother is in your hands”. That struck a blow harder than anything. It was then I started to notice that it was not just a practical, but the dying wish of a person to benefit the world, to make the world a better place. And so the journey begins.

The program went by, cleaning the bodies every morning. The Initiation Ceremony was especially heart breaking. It was my mentor but the moment a child ran over to see his grandmother and then noticing that grandma wasn’t waking up. The horror on the child’s face & tears from the family members. So much emotions and I can’t help but having tears trickle down non-stop. The workshop was useful and I believe that I have learnt a lot. During the Sending-off Ceremony, I had the privileged to be by the coffin and send-off my mentor. The amount of gratitude is undescribable and words would fail me as it was an unforgettable experience. From now on, every cut, every suture, every procedure I do on my patients, I shall always remember the skills that my mentor has taught me. 

 

Chew Ai Wie 爱薇 (MEM120029)

第十八届无语良师工作坊终於来到了尾声。从这长达一周的过程当中,让我看到了人间最微妙的一面。世人并不是个个都是自私的,就有如我们的老师们,他们都怀有着一颗无私的心灵及奉献的心,就只为了让我们这一班医学生们从中获益。老师们虽然对我们完全不相识,但他们对我们的信任,让我感激不尽。

在这段期间,从家访、启用仪式、清洗以及亲身体验医学生工作坊,让我对老师们建立了深厚的感情;尤其是对上了我最挚爱的老师—黄秀英老师。秀英老师背后的故事教会了我凡事都得坚持到底,不管遇上了多大的风雨;只要坚信着自己的理念,必定会有成功的一天。

秀英老师!感谢您。因为您,我不但学会了课业上找不到的人生大道理,甚至还让我有机会看到医学里最细腻的一面。秀英老师!辛苦您了。您的大爱、您的奉献,我一定会谨记於心。您对我们的期待,我会尽我所能的去做,坚守当初选择医学系的初衷 。

在此,我—爱薇,向您及其他大体老师们至上万二分的谢意。谢谢您们!感恩。

 

Chuah Chun Wooi 蔡俊伟 (MEM120034)

黄秀英老师~辛苦您了!俗话说“滴水之恩,当涌泉相报“。您的付出远远比山高、比海深。感谢您的大爱与奉献。

 

Liew Hun Nee 柳邗妮 (MEM120076)

再多的笔迹也无法表达大体老师们的伟大奉献,好多回都不停地问自己我可以那么的无私,把跟随自己一生的大体奉献给无语良师工作坊吗?我相信这不是个简单的决定,但老师您们都证明了世间的伟大,给了我们这班医学生们上了一堂人生中宝贵的一堂课。您们的用心良苦我们一定会好好珍惜,在未来的日子里,我们也许会碰上好多的挫折,但因你们的牺牲,我都会咬紧牙关撑下去。就有如我的大体老师~黄秀英老师一样,在对抗病魔当儿,也不忘持这开朗和永不放弃的精神走下去。您做到了,我们也可以。

在此,向您及其它的大体老师们至上万二分的谢意。感谢您们!感恩。

 

Ng Yun Hui 黄韵惠 (MEM120120)

“宁愿在我身上割错千刀万刀,也不要在病人身上割错一刀”。

不知何时,这句话已深深地烙印在我的脑海里。这句话反映了每一位大体老师的内心,以及他们的崇高思想与品德。

在参与了这次的无语良师计划后,身为一个医学生的我,更加笃定了这项计划对于手术病人的重要性。试问,有哪一个病人希望自己是医生的试验品,而在没有尸体买卖的国度—马来西亚,大体的捐赠更是难能可贵,极其稀有。

感恩在这短短的一个星期,有幸参加这次的无语良师工作坊,希望这份爱能永远传承下去。

 

Nabilah Binti Abdul Razak (MEM120112)

Silent Mentor Program is really a beneficial program. I learnt a lot from different perspective, not only the medical knowledge but also far way greater than that. Great thanks to our teacher who is willing to donate their body for this program, it takes pure, noble and loving heart to make such decision. You are really passionate teacher who is willing to contribute for the sake of medical learning and advancement even after your last breath ~ Madam Wong Huang Sio Eng. I will always remember you in my heart. Lastly, thanks to all family members, doctors, organizers and volunteers who really put a lot of effort to make this program successful. I hope this program will continue so that more students will benefit from this program.

 

Nurul Najihah Binti Hassan (MEM130132)

The Silent Mentor Program gave me a lifetime experience that I will never forget. The teachers' selfless contributions inspired me to do one greater good at least once in my life. I can never forget how kind and touching their acts were, to sincerely donate their bodies to medical students, whom they don't even know, for the sake of better medical knowledge and research. How I wish I could meet all the teachers when they are still alive, especially my teacher, Madam Wong Huang Sio Eng. Four days of learning from her made me repeatedly say thank you in my heart. I wish her the best for the afterlife and thank you again. Madam Wong Huang Sio Eng, your act has deeply moved my heart. Thank you to all the families involved as well for supporting their decisions. May god bless your soul always.

 

Tee Wei Jie (MEM120192)

Traditionally, learning medicine is through viewing pictures in text books akin to learning culinary skills by looking at recipes. No matter how many times one memorizes the recipe, without physically touching the ingredients a cook can never satisfy customers' palate. In medicine, a lack of practice in a real person would not just end with a disappointed customer but lead to failure to save someone's life.

The Silent Mentor Program has lead to a paradigm shift in our medical curriculum. We are deeply privileged to have the unprecedented chance to learn invasive procedures in a real person which in the near future could potentially help save lives.

Besides, traditionally physician only enquires about a patients' disease or condition. Rarely, a physician will get to know a patient very well, unless a few patients whose unique condition requires repeated visits and long term follow-ups. Through this program, we get to know about our mentor and their family members deeply and thoroughly through home visits and interview. This has made us more empathetic to the loss suffered by the family as well as training us to be a more caring doctor. We have learnt the essence of "treating the patient not the disease" in a way.

All in all, the Silent Mentor Program has been a remarkable experience for all the students that were fortunate enough to participate in it. It has taught us lessons no book can provide. I hope that in the near future, more students are allowed to participate and in doing so cherish it's essence.

 

Yeap Jen Sheng 叶征鑫 (MEM130175)  

感恩我能参与第18届无语良师工作坊,这是第一次参与此项活动。在参与这工作坊前,我印象中的无语良师工作坊,是让学生能在老师的身上学习各种技能如缝针、插管等等,却忽略了,其实重要的还是所谓的人性。这是书本里学不到的,也是我们久而久之会无意间“遗失”的部分。虽然整个工作坊为期一个星期,可是却让我受益不浅。此时此刻,工作坊也告一段落,心情也是时候收拾了。此工作坊给予我很多的感触,可是却非笔墨所能形容。老师那无私奉献自己的身躯让互不相识的学生们在他的身上动上千刀万刀,从他身上学习各种临床技能,好让我们以后能成为一个好医生,不让未来的病人痛苦,这无私的奉献,真的很令人钦佩。老师们捐献自己身躯的决定,其实一点都不容易,那可是需要多么大的勇气与智慧。

此工作坊需要多方面的配合才能进行得如此顺畅。这要感谢各位教授医生们,所有幕后的工作人员、自愿者,当然少不了老师们的家属。老师们的家属必须忍受着失去亲人的痛,以完成他们的心愿。家人会在工作坊的第一天,看老师们最后一面,那时的场景历历在目,家人们都忍不住落泪了,眼看心爱的亲人,躺在那动也不动的,冷冰冰的躺着。感谢家属们忍痛让我们从老师身上学习。

在那一个星期,我们每天早上都会在工作坊前帮老师清理身体。到了晚上,我们也在工作坊后帮忙清理。每天的清理过程中,都会在老师身上找到新的痕迹,那种心情是无法形容。我可以感觉到痛,然而老师却无一怨言,他要我们认真的学习。只想说:老师们,我一定不会辜负您!感恩有您们!无论我们多么的感激,我们唯一能回报老师的就是认真学习,以便将来成为一名良医。

参与了此工作坊后,我尝试问自己,若其中一位老师是自己的亲人,感觉会是如何?若我是其中一名老师,到时在天之灵的我感觉又会是如何的呢?我是否愿意成为一名无语良师呢?这些看似简单的问题,其实背后隐藏了很多要考量的因素。所以还是要说老师们真的很伟大,很有智慧,感恩您愿意把自己捐献出来,成就医学教育。

 

Esther Yeow Kar Mun 邱嘉敏 (MEM130037)

老师犹如蜡烛,燃烧生命以照亮他人。我们的无语良师们虽然已经走完了他们的人生路程,但他们还在做最后的奉献,把大体捐赠给我们,把爱遗留在人间。能够参加此次工作坊,我很感恩。透过工作坊学到的不仅仅是医学上的知识,更多的其实是感恩、尊重、爱和同理心。人与人之间的互动是奇妙的,虽然和老师们不曾相识,但他们却以无私的爱,把大体交托给我们做医学研究和教育,只因为他们对我们有所期望;虽然和老师的亲属们无血缘关系,但他们却舍得把他们的至亲至爱托付给我们,嘱咐我们好好学习,只为了完成老师们的遗愿。刘金駩老师曾说过,他宁可我们在他身上切错千刀万刀,也不要在活人身上切错一刀。老师希望我们不只会成为名医,更会成为良医。我们会牢牢记着老师们的教诲、期望,并将把我们在此次工作坊过程中所有学到的,成为我们在医学路上的动力。我们更会秉持“医者父母心”的精神,善待每一个病人。感恩!

 

Tan Shi Qi (MEM130159)

无语良师~感谢您们无私的奉献,在生命的尽头愿意无条件将您们的大体交给一群不认识的医学生。您们所做的牺牲真的好伟大也很感人。感谢您们的善良,勇敢与无私,给予我们此次学习的机会。您的奉献,我们将永记心头。感恩!

 

Kok Suet Hwa 郭雪桦 (MEM130070)

参与这一届的无语良师计划让我受益不浅,是我最忙碌也是我最开心的一个星期。开始参与这项计划时,我还不清楚整个无语良师计划的活动。我的心情是忐忑不安但又有一些期待。在这个星期的无语良师工作坊,我学到了不少医学知识,也实践我的医学知识在大体老师身上。我的大体老师说过:“情愿在他的身上割错千刀万刀,也不愿我们在活人身上割错一刀”。大体老师让我学习到人间的大爱,无私的爱,原来在四周的人们不只是为了自己,他们为了别人也可以牺牲,如此伟大! 我们是一个那么小的人物,大体老师和家人却对我们有如此高的期待,把大体老师委托给了我们,坚信我们可以学习,可以在以后的行医路上帮助更多的病人。我会好好的当一个医者父母心的好医生来报答您们对我的信任。感恩无语良师工作坊的每一个人。

 

Brian Tay Cheong Yang (MEM130015)

The Silent Mentor Program has been a great journey for me. It taught me more than just being a skill oriented doctor, but to also be compassionate to all our patients. Although hands-on remains the mainstay in saving lives but nothing beats the importance of getting to know your patients and building a good rapport with them. With this, we are able to gain patients' trust. I got to learn these two core knowledge, empathy and sympathy through this Silent Mentor Program. I have never regretted joining this program and I would like to express my utmost gratitude to my Silent Mentor Mr. Lau Kum Sing and his family members for willingly contributing to our learning experience. It takes more than just courage alone to pledge as a Silent Mentor. Hopefully with this effort of yours, it will help us, healthcare providers to treat the person rather than just the disease alone. Thank you, my Silent Mentor.

 

Beh Ming Jian 马铭剑 (MEM110015)

真的很感恩,在机缘巧合之下有机会参与第18届无语良师工作坊。在这忙碌的一周里,真的让我获益良多。不管是知识上的还是精神上的。要一个人捐献器官已经是件很不容易的事了,更何况是捐献大体呢?这六位老师勇于奉献,大爱的精神真的好让我钦佩,尤其是我的大体老师刘金駩老师。没有老师的付出,不会有这次的因缘让我参与无语良师工作坊。

虽然不能在老师在世时认识您,但我还是很感恩能做您的学生。从家访和老师的家人口中,老师在世时真的是位很好的人,乐于付出。从老师的身上,学到的不仅仅是缝针、插管等等的知识,而是如何成为一位更好的人。学会感恩、付出,更要用心地对待每位病人,学会同理心。

致每位大体老师的家属,真的很感恩您们。没有您们也不可能造就此次的无语良师工作坊。致大体老师们,感恩您们遗爱人间,让这世界更加温暖。您们的奉献与付出,我会铭记在心。最后,感谢无语良师计划,让我有机会参与那么有意义的工作坊。感恩。

 

Dayana Binti Dunian (MEM130033)

To be a part of Silent Mentor Program, it is a true blessing for me and all of my friends. Before joining Silent Mentor Program, I did not have any clue of who he was. But today, Mr. Lau Kum Sing is one of my greatest teachers in my life. To the world, he may be just a teacher but to us, he was a HERO. He had a passion for the students that shined brightly and made you want to be the best student you could ever be, not only for the sake of ourselves, but for the sake of our future generations. I still remember the day when he pledged to be one of the Silent Mentors, his intention was so pure and he just wanted to contribute to the society even when he is no longer alive. I believed he already achieved his life goal by now. His selfless contribution had really taught me on how to become better in the future. He was not only taught me on how to be kind to one another, but he also planted the seeds of knowledge that would last a lifetime, as long as we live.

To my Silent Mentor Mr. Lau Kum Sing, thank you for taking us through this experience of a lifetime. May you rest in peace and may your family find comfort in knowing that you are home now. God bless you. Thank you.

 

Darcy Jamih (MEM130032)

I remember the first time I joined the Silent Mentor Program. It was back when I was a first year medical student where I served as a volunteer. I had no idea what was it truly about but I still joined the Sending-off Ceremony. Even though I knew nothing about it, there was a sense of sadness and solemn in my heart upon the sending-off.

And this time, I am a fourth-year medical student. I joined the whole process of the program, from meeting up the family, to transferring the body of our Silent Mentor and finally to the Sending-off Ceremony. STILL, I had the same sense of sadness and solemn. But this time it was different because I got to know the background of my Silent Mentor, I met the family and put myself in their shoes and I know, I already fulfilled my Silent Mentor’s wishes.

For me, this Silent Mentor Program is not just a platform for students to learn and discover new knowledge and skill, it is also all about humanity and to treat patients as well as their family as human beings. I learned that it is not easy to donate body for the benefits of others; and I learned it is not easy to let go someone you love to be dissected, sutured and kept for a while before they are buried or cremated.

All the sacrifices, both from the Silent Mentors and family members, as well as the committee ignited the sense of humanity and love in me, to treat patients and their family with dignity and empathy. I quote one of the sentences in the speech of a family member during the closing ceremony: “Before you can become a good doctor, you need to become a good human first” and I couldn’t agree more. I believe this simple message given by one of the family members has a deep meaning and I will hold on to it for the whole journey of me as a medical student or as a doctor in the future.

To my Silent Mentor Mr. Lau Kum Sing, thank you for taking one step further from the norm. It was a great honor to have you as a Silent Mentor and I feel so privileged to stitch the very last suture on your body which has a great meaning for me. And as I am sharing this, my thought also goes to your family members, who never at once felt hesitated to share about you to us. Rest in peace Mr. Lau Kum Sing.

 

Fathin Aina Binti Abdul Hadi (MEM130043)

Being a part of Silent Mentor Program, it really teaches me a lot. I became more responsible and disciplined towards life and works. I entered this program with zero knowledge of what this program is truly all about and decided to join it for the sake of study and improve my skills. Little that I know of, it was far beyond that. I got to know my mentor, Mr. Lau Kum Sing through the home visit and also from his daughters. Only then I realized that this program teaches me more than just clinical skills. I learnt to be responsible. For Mr. Lau to become a Silent Mentor was a true sacrifice from him. He voluntarily entered this program for me and the students to get benefit from his body. His selflessness did contribute a lot to our society and in fact more to the students who joined this program.

To my late Silent Mentor, Mr. Lau, thank you for being a teacher for me. Even though it was a short experience but it was an experience for the rest of my lifetime. Thank you.

 

Roshan Arjun Ananda (Monash University Malaysia)

First of all, I am very grateful and thankful that three medical students from Monash University Malaysia Campus were invited to participate in the Silent Mentor Program.

The structure of the program was very organized and it had benefited me. Home visit prior to the program had enlightened me about the life of my Silent Mentor before he passed away. During the conversation with his family members, I got to know him in greater depth although he had passed away. His family members were very friendly and aided us in the history taking. I admired the decision of my Silent Mentor to donate his body. It is never an easy decision. His expression about the Silent Mentor Program made me feel touched. Although his educational background was not high, his dedication and contribution towards the society is huge. I learnt that I have to contribute to the society and help others regardless of educational and financial abilities as there is always channel to do so. The core problem faced by most people which in turn deter them from participating in this program is belief. According to my Silent Mentor, he urged people to put down their belief and donate their bodies for medical studies. I understand that it is a very tough decision as it requires a lot of courage.

During the workshop, I was taught the skills to perform medical procedures including chest tube insertion and suturing. I appreciated that the lecturers spared their time after work to educate and assist medical students to perform the medical procedures. It was indeed a great learning experience as hands-on clinical skills are limited in medical school.

During the last sharing session with the family members before the funeral, we learnt about the feeling of the family members on their expectation for the participants. One of the family members expressed that it was very upset to wait for four months for her mother’s funeral. From this aspect, it is visible that the family members were still grieving and in pain although they supported the Silent Mentor’s decision.

In conclusion, I feel that this program is crucial in shaping me to become a better doctor with empathy and emphasize in the patients’ emotion in the future. Tackling the patients’ emotion is a crucial step in treating a patient as it will build a good rapport between the doctor and the patients as well as increase compliance towards treatments that are prescribed to them.

 

Beh Yuan Fei (Monash University Malaysia)

From the Initiation Ceremony to the Sending-off Ceremony, Silent Mentor is an impressive program which does not only focus on delivering medical teaching for undergraduates, but also instilling excellent humanity and ethics among healthcare professionals.

As a Year 2 medical student, it was a great opportunity for me to have an early exposure to some clinical procedures and minor surgeries. All procedures (suturing skills, endotracheal intubation, central venous line insertion and chest tube insertion) were performed on the Silent Mentors which allowed us to practise on real human beings. This practical workshop not only fine tunes our clinical skills, but also acts as a platform to prepare the medical students in handling emotion and stress properly in facing death.

Looking at the cuts and sutures that scattered all over the bodies of Silent Mentors whilst cleaning their bodies every day before and after each workshop, I was greatly moved by their acts of love to humanity. Every prayer being made before the workshop is never enough to repay the gift the Silent Mentors have bestowed to us.

In short, the Silent Mentor Workshop is a reminder of empathy to every future doctor for the greatest benefit of the patient. I would like to pay my greatest respect to the beloved Silent Mentor - Madam Lee Leng Kee for her selfless sacrifices to contribute to the medical education. Thank you for teaching us the values of compassion and empathy. In our hearts, you will always be remembered and loved.

 

Ting Xuan Ning (Monash University Malaysia)

The Silent Mentor Workshop was a total eye-opener. In fact, it was the starting point where I view medicine from another perspective.

Although we have plastinated specimens coupled with the advanced technology in aiding our learning of anatomy, I realized that nothing beats the first-hand experience of observing a dissection. I was awe-inspired by the intricacies of human anatomy, and in fact, this was the first time I could truly appreciate the significance of learning anatomy and correlate it with different medical conditions. The surgeons demonstrated and explained to us the procedures of laparotomy, appendectomy, pfannenstiel incision, carpal tunnel release and incision & drainage. Understanding our needs, the surgeons even showed us layers and layers of muscles during fasciotomy and demonstrated the actions of each muscle group.

Apart from the clinical skills and surgical skills, I believe I have learnt the most important lesson of life, a lesson that I should advocate to my friends. My most respectful teachers - the Silent Mentors showed me the values of humanity and the importance of empathy. Knowing their life stories beforehand made me felt as if I were to know them personally, as if they were someone who are of significant relevance to me. Their life stories kept reminding me that they were a caring father, a loving mother or a dedicated teacher. In fact, all these indirectly teach me to become a doctor who does not only treats disease, but always treats patient as a whole.

Probably due to the strong attachment, I felt so sorry to the Silent Mentors’ each time when I performed procedures on them. Although they had never complained, I felt as if I could also feel the pain with each procedure, be it suturing, chest tube placement or central venous line insertion. As such, I always tried to be as gentle as possible. I believe that when I perform procedures on real patients in the future, I will keep reminding myself that I should be gentle and caring, and to incur the least pain.

To my Silent Mentors, I am a total stranger. They have never met me. What they only knew was that they were going to donate their bodies to medical students and healthcare professionals for the sake of medical education; what I potentially learn will not even benefit them. The very fact that they are willing to put aside their traditions and cultures of dying in a piece demonstrated their courage and determination in educating the future generation. What they chose was a different method of contributing to the society; they chose to leave legacies behind for humanity, for science and for life.

At the last day of the program, I was so despair when I could no longer recognise my Silent Mentors’ faces after all the procedures that they went through. I tried to reconcile their faces with the ones on photos but to no avail. Besides appreciation, the only thing that I could do was to promise myself that I will be a good doctor, for I had such great teachers. No matter what challenges I am going to face in my medical journey, I know that I will not give up easily as my Silent Mentors had made such huge sacrifices just to educate me.

Without uttering a word, they taught me the importance of humanity, showed me the value of selflessness and showered me with the gift of love. Armed with their love, I promised myself that I would pass down their love and generosity to my future patients. Once again, I reminded myself that I will become a compassionate doctor, a doctor who cares always.

17th Silent Mentor Workshop 06-11/12/2016

Leong Sih Yoong (MEM120073)

很多人都混淆,以为言行是一致的。可是往往很多人都只会纸上谈兵,当社会或是他人需要到他们的时候,他们就临阵退缩。签上器官捐献和大体捐献其实是很容易的一件事,可是真正做到了,那就是我的大体老师吕清溪老师。吕老师不但让我们以他的身体领悟了课本上所学到的知识,也让我们了解到一个人的一生,只要你有那颗想帮助他人的心,无论你觉得那只是微不足道的小事,可是对其他人而言,他们都会铭记在心。感谢无语良师计划,让我有机会领悟人生,反省自我,珍惜当下。

 

Tan Hsien Jon (MEM120187)

I am very grateful to be able to participate in the Silent Mentors Program. This program taught me that it only takes an ordinary man to make an extraordinary contribution to the society. Empathy is an important value to be taught because as a future doctor, we are not treating the disease but we are treating the patient as a whole. And I believed that this program managed to instill this value deeply in our heart. 

I would like to offer my utmost gratitude to the total strangers who contributed their bodies for the sake of us, medical students to learn more and improve our clinical skills. No words would able to show how noble they are. 

 

Ooi Chieh Yin 黃潔吟 (MEM120159)

在还没踏入马大医学院的时候,远远就传来了慈济大体老师这项计划。到了第一年,荣幸成为了志工。那时候的自己,多么希望自己能够有这机会参与这活动。到了第五年,一瞬间,无语良师计划结束了。从家访到最后送老师一程,短短的一个星期,心里参杂了不一样的心情。从第一天的家访,心里想的是能够完成和得到该有的资料,深怕遗漏了什么。第一二天早起,是因为责任,必须为老师清洗身体,一直到最后的几天,却是因为想帮老师清洗,而不再是责任了。一天一天,看着老师们身体的变化,心里多希望能为您做点什么。我们做的每一步,医生开的每一刀,希望在天上的您会为您的贡献感到自豪与安慰。在此,我真诚感谢老师,家属,无语良师计划的每一位,谢谢您们。致吕清溪老师,谢谢您,我们伟大的老师! 这些知识,将永远铭记于心。老师,安息吧!

 

Kelvin Khoo Wei Shen (MEM120059)

To be honest when I first registered, I didn't have much expectation. For one I knew, it would be beneficial for my skills and medical education and nothing more. But towards the end of the program, voluntarily or not, I had learned many values and qualities a doctor should have. To name a few, compassion, selflessness and empathy. It took me by such surprise that I was overwhelmed with emotions on the last day. The Silent Mentors are truly one of the greatest educators, not because of the knowledge or skills they passed on but because they taught us using their very own bodies. Though they have long passed, but listening to their stories and seeing their family members, it was alike they were right there with us which of course they are, in body. But having that feeling and perception made me as careful and attentive as I was when I am dealing with a living person. Through this program, I wasn't just taught on how to be a better doctor, I was taught on how to be a son, a brother and so forth. Not an understatement when I say one of the most meaningful lessons in life.

Ernest Kwok Zheng Hong (MEM120040)

It's been a meaningful and memorable event. Mr. Loo Thean Khoy - I can't thank you enough. I've learnt a lot, from medical and ethical aspects. Thanks to you Mr. Loo and the organizing committee of this program. I'm proud to say that I am confident that the objective of this program has been achieved seeing that I've learnt skills and self morality being instilled through this week. I hope Silent Mentor Program will continue for a very long time to let medical students have the chance like me to learn all these valuable lesson and experience. Thank you!

 

Lee Seek Yang (MEM120069)

一个人需要多大的勇气才肯把自己的大体捐出去?"无语良师"的工作坊人人都想参加,但是有多少人愿意成为"无语良师"呢?这是我一直都在思考的问题,人无私的爱可以到什么程度?我很想了解!自从我认识了吕清溪老师,我才深深地体会到爱可以那么的无私,那么的伟大,那么的感人。吕老师简直是个生活中的榜样,连走到了生命中的最后关头也想把最好的留给他爱的人,他不曾认识的陌生人和他不曾认识的我们。能做为吕老师的学生是我这一生中最难忘的事也是我这一生中最难忘的一堂课!对我而言,活菩萨是最适合形容吕老师的代名词,他那无私的爱将会长长久久的遗在人间,因为他把无用变有用,小爱变大爱。如果吕老师听得见,我想对他说: 我能成为你的学生是我这一生的骄傲。

 

Sia Jo Ee (MEM120173)

I’m so grateful and thankful for Tzu Chi giving the chance for us to join this program. Learnt some things, although is just empathy, but is something which can be learnt outside academic stuff. Lastly, be a humane doctor instead of a successful doctor.

 

Chan Xiao Min (MEM120025)

忆起家访至无语良师工作坊的最后一天,一切都还是那么历历在目,仿佛昨天才刚发生。我很荣幸能参加这一届无语良师工作坊,也很骄傲成为各位“最特别的老师”的学生。让我印象最深刻的,是当家人们见大体老师最后一面,泪流满面,不舍及怜悯的神情。我不禁默默暗许,会更加珍惜此次机会,更加认真地看待医者这份使命。

这五天,大体老师的生平事迹一遍遍地被学生们叙述着,也一次次地感动了我们。即便到了生命的最后一刻,老师们任不忘奉献自己,把爱遗留在人间。老师们静静地躺在解剖台上,任医学生们动刀。我相信这每一刀,每一针,每一线,不仅给了我们宝贵的医学经验,更唤醒了我们的同理心,提醒我们以后对病人要有爱心,莫忘“医者父母心”。这,将是我人生中最有意义的一堂课!

恭送老师到火化场的回程中,天空飘起了细雨,犹如四位老师对家人们表达最后的爱意与思念。吕清溪老师,符策运老师,谢宋历老师及陈月意老师,谢谢您们在我的生命中短暂地出现过,用生命激励了我们,鼓舞我们在未来医学道路上继续勇往直前。我们将会把所学的知识及您们传授的无私大爱精神延续下去,帮助更多需要帮助的人!感恩。

 

Ng Kar Aik 黄嘉镒 (MEM120119)

在2012年大学一年级时,我就成为了“無語良師工作坊”的志工。那时的我,正因为是好奇心的驱使之下,来到这个既陌生又熟悉的地方。看到几具冰冷的躯体,我并不害怕,而是感到既疑惑,又振奋。随后,有位讲师就问了我的来历。当她知道我是一年级生时,她先是惊奇,接着又热情地邀请我参与她的教学。当时的我,感到无比的高兴。那位讲师先告诉我“無語良師计划”的由来,并鼓励我除了要认真学习,还要视每个病人为自己的老师,並待每个病人为自己的家人,成为一个“医者父母心”的好医生。她还告诉我:医学之路,是必须牺牲自己的一切,让病人拥有更健康的生活;医学之路,就是要时常为病人着想,把病人的一切永远排在第一。回想过去,我一知半解的点头;直到现在,我才恍然大悟的理解。 

在这五年里,每当我有闲暇时间,并在机缘的牵引之下,我都会帮忙大体老师净身。我非常感恩我拥有的一切。我会以最真诚的心,来服务老师。那是因为有两大原因:其一,我觉得能舍身献上一生相随的大体来成就学生的无语良师,是值得被赞扬的,正是因为他们无私与大爱的心,培育医学的未来栋梁,我非常钦佩他们舍己为人的精神。我深信他们伟大的付出,是一个善举,也是一个信任,并且不会是白费的。因为老师把他们最后的生命交给了我们,并希望把爱继续延续下去,以便造福人群;其二,我发现在帮老师净身时,能让我忘掉一切烦恼,并一心一意的服务老师。这也让我多想想自己的错,就会慢慢忘记别人的过。正像歌词《奉獻》中唱到的“長路奉獻給遠方,玫瑰奉獻給愛情。我拿什麼奉獻給你,我的愛人……”。我撫心自问:我可否为病人牺牲我的时间与精神?我到底为我的家人和朋友付出了多少?我可曾为我的国家、社会或人民贡献? 

在第十七届無語良師工作坊里,我学到了很多,也觉得很充实。我们每天早晨都会细心的帮老师洗头,并小心的为老师净身。到了夜晚,我们会诚心的为老师缝补伤口,耐心的呵护老师的身体。我真心的感谢老师的无私奉献。因为缘分,我与陈月意老师系上了一个特殊师生关系。不需要言语,老师只是用她的大体,让我悟透人生哲学:老师的孝心,让我钦佩;老师的爱心,让我尊敬;老师的热心,让我佩服;老师的义举,让我敬仰。同理心也是我从临床技术中所学会的;老师不言不语的让我们在他的身上磨练我们的缝合技能,是因为要我们用心的做,并在真正的病人身上动刀之前,就拥有精巧的技术,并减少他们的痛楚。她舍身为人的精神,不但成就了我们医学生,而且造福于更多的病人。我坚信老师的付出是不会被糟蹋和浪费的,我会自强不息,努力不懈的增值自己,并与自己切磋琢磨,任劳任怨的为病人服务,成为一个医者仁心、仁者医心的医护人员。 

缘起缘灭,大体捐献并不是一个生命的句点,而是另一段故事的开始。我相信大体老师的慈悲奉献,必定能栽培更多的仁医;大体老师的无私身教,必定能培育更多的良医;大体老师的大爱善举,必定能唤醒人性的本善。感恩!

 

Tan Hong Keat 陈鸿杰 (MEM120186)

首先我要向陈月意老师您无私的付出致万二分的敬意。您为医学领域所作出的牺牲是我们没齿难忘的。虽为无语良师,但您似乎都在叮咛着我们的每一针每一线都要尽自己的全力去完成它。您的教诲我会牢记于心,并学以致用。博爱付出是课本所学习不到的,但在您宝贵的这一堂课里却让我深刻体会。医者父母心,我会秉持着您的这一份仁爱去完成医学者的责任,甚至将其发扬光大。衷心感谢您,陈月意老师!

 

Bryan Lee Yen Pei 李彥培 (MEM120022)

While words may never be enough to repay the gift the Silent Mentors have bestowed to us, they were all that I can offer here. I am sincerely thankful for the opportunity to be a part of the Silent Mentor Program and to the selfless sacrifices the Silent Mentors have made. 

The values of compassion, empathy and gratitude are among the many that this program aims to instill and I believe that it has been achieved. These values are ones that transcend creed and culture, and values that have been taught by total strangers, who have made the decision in life to give what remaining that belongs to them when they passed on, in hopes that we may benefit and pass that down when treating future patients in our care. 

The Silent Mentor Program is, in short, a reminder of empathy, a remembrance of a deceased loved one and a show of utmost gratitude to an act of great love to humanity. For that I offer my deepest appreciation to the Silent Mentors and their family members.

 

Nur Farah Inani Binti Zakaria (MEM110125)

No words can describe my feeling throughout this Silent Mentor Program. At first, I joined this program just to learn about the surgical skills. But I’ve learnt more than that. Our Silent Mentors have taught us more than we expected. Not only the skills, but we have learnt to be a good doctor when giving care and treatment to our patients. Empathy, love and responsibility are very important for this profession. We even received loves and advices from our Silent Mentor’s family. Having them together with us made this program more meaningful. Lastly, I’m thankful to have our doctors from UMMC and Silent Mentor organizer to teach us the skills and stay with us for hours. Thank you Silent Mentors, families, doctors and organizers.

 

Tun Yun Tien 孙润添 (MEM120195)

My first impression on Silent Mentor Workshop is that it is a platform for medical student to learn and practice various skills such as suturing, chest tube insertion and etc. However, my view changes after I went through this workshop. I started to realize it is not only new skills that I learned from this workshop but what I learnt from it is way more valuable - gratitude. When each of us was assigned to certain families, we interviewed our Silent Mentor family about their life and family members too. Indirectly, we also make new friends and connection with their family. Every morning when I cleaned my Silent Mentor, I treated them as one of my family members and with respect. After a week of being with the Silent Mentor and family members, I personally think that the amount of sacrifice and commitment that they provide to us is tremendous. I think that Silent Mentor Workshop is a must have workshop and should be continued because it does not only teaches students new skills but also the way of treating patient in the future such as sense of responsibility, sense of gratitude and empathy.

 

Chan Pei Qi 陈沛琦 (MEM120024)

The Silent Mentor Program has been an experience like no other I have experienced over my time in medical school. It is the one program we are given the opportunity to discover the compassionate aspect of our future careers. To have worked so closely with our patient's family even after she has gone is really an opportunity one doesn't get often; some ever in their medical school life. I would like to extend my gratitude to the administrators especially Mr. Sia, who has tirelessly aided this program phase by phase, day by day. The skills I have gained will always be treasured; probably even be the kick starter to a career in surgery. I have finished this program refreshed and excited to a lifetime of new found confidence.

 

Jordan Christopher Chin Chien Chuan 曾健专 (MEM120055)

It was a privilege to be able to join this program in the first place and I would like to thank my Silent Mentors and their families for the love and sacrifices they showed us. Words and emotions are unable to express the gratitude felt by my colleagues and me. It's indeed a noble decision made by the Silent Mentors. It's easier to say than actually do it.  

I think besides medical knowledge and skills, what I learnt most from this program is the selfless love portrayed by the mentors and their families. After joining the program, it was difficult to just walk away without feeling emotional. The lessons learnt from our mentors are precious and special. Although we never met them before, the bond grew stronger as the days go by.  

Standing next to them and walked them to their final journey made me realised the contributions they made are going to last forever crafted in our heart. And we are forever in debt to our mentors. Thank you for all the love. It's a perfect chapter laid to rest and rest in peace, our beloved Silent Mentors.

 

Nurul Farhana Binti Mohd Amin (MEM120150)

Till now, I am still missing my teachers, especially Teacher YY (Chan Yoot Yee). Throughout the sessions day by day, while doing the medical procedures, I am really into my teacher. Every time, I am helping my friend to cut the strings, I will hold your cold hand and saying to myself, thank you and I am sorry. How can you be so brave  and kind hearted soul for allowing us to learn such a valuable knowledge. You are really my hero. On that day, when you are leaving us, I am crying really hard. Thank you. Thank you. I never met you before, but I will always remember you as my hero and inspirational teacher. Going to miss and love you so much. Rest in peace, my teacher. Thank you.

 

Pong Jia Shen 冯嘉伸 (MEM120163)

致各位大体老师,感谢您! 虽然这一届的无语良师计划已在此画上了句点,但是您的奉献与付出会永远地烙印在我们的脑海里。即使您不对我们开口说话,但您已給于我们这莘莘学子上了宝贵的一课堂,让我们能够茁壮成长,学以致用,更上一层楼。也许以后我们不是最棒的医生,也许不是最知名的医生,但是我们在此学会了奉献;奉献时间,奉献精神于病人身上。我们也学会了耐心与细心;耐心与细心地关照与照料病人。 

在这无语良师计划当中,也少不了许多在幕后进行所有工作的谢先生,自愿对我们授课的医生以及教授的教导及同伴们的相助,使这项计划能够成功进行。再次的谢谢大家,感恩你们的付出。

 

Oon Chun Huat 温俊发 (MEM120162)

第十七届的无语良师计划圆满地画上句点,感谢四位无语良师,符策运老师的家人,Mr. Sia,各位教导我的教授与医生,志工们以及我的朋友们。无语良师们大爱无私的奉献,医生们细心地教导与朋友们的分享,让我获益良多。无语良师计划让我认识了符老师的人生,唤醒了我入学医科的初衷,了解了生命与家人的可贵。最后,我想向我的医学朋友们说:"勿忘初衷,以爱治人"。感恩!

 

Lai Weng Wai 黎穎蕙 (MEM120066)

参与了长达一周的第17届无语良师工作坊,那是多么忙碌的一周! 但随之,我收获了许多新的体验。打从家访,启用仪式,清洗以及亲自体验医学生工作坊,我都学到了许多课本上摸不着的知识以及授课时没有的体会。感谢四位伟大的无语良师与家属们,无语良师行政主任谢添荣先生,为我们任劳任怨地加班的教授医生们,所有幕后的工作人员及自愿者们,让这个富有意义的计划能够如期顺利地进行。 

我从此次的无语良师工作坊学到的不仅仅是缝针,插管,急救等等的临床技巧,而是如何诚心照顾和善待病人,医病也医心。致参与此次计划的老师们及家属们,我希望您们能知道,我已学会了尊重及同理每一个病人的感受,在未来的十年,二十年甚至更多的行医生涯,我会承载着老师们的爱,不求回报地诊断及治疗,竭力完成“医者父母心”的使命。 

敬爱的大体老师们,也许我们素不相识也非亲非故,但我很庆幸缘分让我们在此相遇,因为是您们让我认识了人间的爱,关怀以及勇气。我永远不会忘记老师们无私的奉献,因为您们都是伟大的凡人,在生命的尽头,为后代医学的延续奉献了跟随一生的大体,以身授教。 

最后再次谢谢老师们让我上了宝贵的一课,我在此敬上万二分的谢意。感恩。

 

Hoh Wee Liam 何洧年 (MEM120049)

很榮幸能參與此屆的無語良師計劃。我從此次的無語良師工作坊獲益良多。從中學到的不只是醫學上的知識,還感受到了無語良師們的大愛和奉獻精神。雖然他們和我們不曾相識,但他們願意為了我們與病人們的未來而做出了貢獻,讓我學習了"奉獻"的精神。借此,想要感謝無語良師們與他們的家人們,Mr. Sia和幕後的工作人員們。沒有了他們的付出與奉獻,此屆的無語良師計劃就不能畫上美好的句點。

 

Kow Yun Shi 高韵诗 (MEM120064)

感恩能参与此次无语良师工作坊。从报名,家访,简介,工作坊至送行,每个阶段都有不同的感受与学习。然而,更重要的乃一份无私的大爱。从老师对回馈社会的爱,家人的包容,接纳与支持,至医者对病人的在乎,都不是课本知识所能领悟。至此,愿我能继续散发并传承这份大爱。谢谢大家,谢谢符老师。

 

Siti Qaiyyum Binti Kamari (MEM120178)

There is no word or phrase that can describe all the Silent Mentor's noble sacrifice. They were all my teachers. My silent teachers that taught us more than a book can give. I am so glad to get the opportunity to join this program which has taught me a lot especially in the aspect of respect, love, value and sacrifice. Big thank to all the Silent Mentors, family members and the organizer.

 

Dherej Kaur A/P Amarjit Singh (MEM120037)

The Silent Mentor Program is indeed one of its’ kind. I feel so blessed and privileged to be a part of such a unique program that not only teaches us and allows us to sharpen our clinical skills, but also emphasizes on compassion and respect of our mentors. I cannot find the words to express my gratitude to our Silent Mentors for their selfless sacrifice. Our mentors have not only allowed us to become better doctors but also better human beings. This cannot be learnt from any textbook but stems from the love for humanity that our Silent Mentors have exhibited. This has touched each and every one of us and will leave a lasting impression. Not forgetting their families. No doubt letting go of a loved one in an unconventional way would have been a difficult and painful process. I would like to thank you sincerely for being supportive of our Silent Mentors’ decision. To the family of my Silent Mentor, Mr. Foo Siek Yoon, you welcomed us into your home and have been nothing but helpful and cooperative throughout the whole program, thank you for this. Lastly, thank you to Mr. Sia and the Silent Mentor organizers as well as the volunteers for making this program possible.

 

Quek Ven Chin 郭汶锦 (MEM120164)

"More bless to give than to receive". Indeed this phrase is true as I now see it myself in this Silent Mentor Program. It's through their selfless sacrifices that our hearts can be touched, understanding that life is not only about ourselves, but sacrifice for the others. It has reminded me to have love for people, even to those that I didn't know or met before, and this is important in my medical career as I will be going to meet all kinds of people from different walks of life! Our Silent Mentor has definitely demonstrated a good example for us to learn from. 

I've learnt so much through this Silent Mentor Program. Thank you to all Silent Mentors, family members and organizing committees for making this possible! I'm so grateful!

 

Tan Pheng Hian (MEM120189)

Silent Mentors’ decision to participate in this program despite orthodox cultural and religious belief is a courageous yet noble one. We have benefited a lot from this program and we highly appreciate the sacrifice made by the Silent Mentors and their families.

 

Lee Chee Hao (MEM120067)

A tree is known by its fruits, a man is known by his deeds. Thank you Silent Mentors, your kindness is beyond words.

 

Siti Nabihah Binti Kumasi (MEM120174)

Silent Mentor Program has provided a very good platform for a medical student, not only to learn medical skills, but also to respect patients as their teachers. The knowledge that we gained is very helpful and beneficial for our future as a doctor. Thank you Silent Mentors!

 

Kaalpana A/P Jayakumar (MEM120056)

When I first registered for the Silent Mentor Workshop months ago, I was in the impression that I am just going to learn the important clinical skills a doctor should know. From the first day I took part, I realized that its way beyond just learning. There was love, emotion, sacrifice and more sentiments in this program. 

My Silent Mentor, Mr. Chia Song Lee is my hero. When I went to his house to meet his family members, I was told about his personal life. He was such a loving father, husband and brother. All those sweet, loving memories that his family members had about him reflects how special he was to them. Since then, I realized that it was not just about the body, it was also about his courage and the sacrifice that he made for us, medical students. We all have learnt to be more humane when giving care to patients, to handle the human body with utmost respect and gentleness and to respect their families’ emotions. 

His daughter said this during the Gratitude Ceremony, “Remember, today my father and Silent Mentors are your heroes. We believe that in the future, you will become our heroes.

Good luck to all of you, doctors to be and thank you.” These words from her were very touching. 

Thanks to the organizers of Silent Mentor Workshop, to the mentors’ family members and most importantly thank you so much to all our Silent Mentors, the real heroes - Mr. Loo Thean Khoy, Mr. Chia Song Lee, Ms. Chan Yoot Yee and Mr. Foo Siek Yoon.

 

Koay Zhong Lin 郭忠霖 (MEM120061)

首先很感谢能够参与无语良师计划,对于无语良师这项活动,早在我大学第一学年时就早有所接触,並让我深深体会到大体老师的伟大与无私。虽然那时候还没有足够的医学知识,但看到学长学姐们穿上医生袍,送大体老师最后一程的时候,眼泪还是不自觉的滑了下来。当时就希望能够在我毕业以前再一次的参与这项活动。 

这一次参与无语良师工作坊,第一次以参与者的身份被纳入为这个团队中,其中的责任与团队合作让我有喜有苦。喜的是,在这些活动进行的这几天,大伙儿都牺牲了自己宝贵的睡眠与读书时间来参与;苦的是,大伙儿随后在上课时都好似虚脱了。但我想说的是,一切都是值得的! 

这次的无语良师工作坊,给我的感动远远超出第一次。这一次我们真正的接触大体老师的家属,了解他们的生活,理解他们的疾病或是往生后家人的看法与反应。当然离不开最后一天送大体老师最后的一段路,在过去的那几天与大体老师的接触,难免都会产生一种不舍的思念。然而,人固有一死,或重于泰山,或轻于鸿毛。大体老师的无私奉献让我们这群莘莘学子能够上一堂宝贵的课。感谢家属们的谅解与支持,感恩大体老师无私的付出,感激各位教授在这段时间的指导,我们无比荣恩。感恩您们!

 

New Ru Peng (MEM120118)

One of the most exciting parts of my medical school during the pre-clinical years is to learn anatomy using cadavers in the dissection hall. It was when medical students will dissect frantically to find the particular vessel or muscle before the session ends without knowing the origin or background of the cadaver. The Silent Mentor Program opened my eyes to understanding the suffering and selflessness of a patient to allow others to learn from them. I learnt more from the house visits rather than the clinical session itself. The surgical and clinical skills that I learnt may be valuable and life-saving but what is more important is the awareness and emphatic feelings that is instilled within from this Silent Mentor Program that will make a doctor who cares for their patients. Thank you, Mr. Chia Song Lee and family for allowing us to get into your intimate area of your lives for us to understand better, to be better doctors in the future.

 

Lee Shu Ren (MEM120070)

无语良师们默默奉献,遗爱人间,但愿造就莘莘学子。对于这份大爱的感恩,一天比一天来得强烈。每天早晨的一抹一擦,夜晚的一针一线,让我深感感恩。在您身上开的每一刀,我们都尽所能的缝补,就当成是在替活生生的病人缝补伤口,好不马虎。看着老师的家人见他们最后一面时,眼泪也不禁的流了下来。 

无语良师们在生命末期邂逅这班医学生,并启迪了非一般的生命旅程,而我们与老师共同的目标始终是回馈社会。老师授予的生命教育,不仅刻苦铭心,也无时无刻提醒我们要把慈悲为怀的精神落实在行医路上。感恩! 

 

Nur Fatihah Binti Abdul Razak (MEM120132)

Silent Mentor is a beneficial program where I have learnt so much beyond what I can learn from patients and books. I would like to send a big gratitude to the late Mr. Chia Song Lee and his family for their contribution to us, medical students and doctors. He portrayed that to teach, we might not need to be in the same world. Even though we are in different worlds, he could still teach using his body as a genuine sacrifice. I personally really appreciate what he has done. 

May continuous blessing will always be upon you and your family, dear Mr. Chia Song Lee.

16th Silent Mentor Workshop 04-09/10/2016

Chian Xue Han 钱学涵 (MEM120031) 

从一开始到亚久老师家进行家访的那一份陌生,到送别亚久老师的那份熟悉感,历历在目。接触无语良师计划时,有那么一位朋友问我:“你能接受自己的亲人去参与这个计划吗?”我无法回答。参与大体老师这个计划并不是一个人说了算,相反地,这决定牵涉了一整家人,因为活着的人,是有感情的。我非常佩服亚久老师的家人,如果不是他们无私的支持,我也没法与亚久老师相遇。 

虽然我和亚久老师从来没有机会说过话,但是在这短短的六天里,老师却以无声的方式,教导了我许多知识。虽然您已经不在了,但是身为您人生中最后一名学生的我,一定不会辜负您对我的期待。感恩您。

 

Irdina Aminuddin (MEM120052)

Apart from gaining new clinical skills, this program sheds light on the more intimate side of medicine: the impact of disease on family, the process of coping with a loss and particularly, an individual's wishes to leave a legacy for others to benefit from.

It's an honor to learn from the Silent Mentors and take care of them up till their grand sending-off ceremony. This experience is important to me and it is one that will always be remembered.

 

Aun Yiyang (MEM120188) 

It was my fault 23rd birthday when I first got exposed to the Silent Mentor Program. I was called by my friends to help out on cleaning the body of a Silent Mentor. I reflected on my life, for that instance. Months passed and we finally completed our 6 days course on Silent Mentor Program. From the home visit to sending the teachers for cremation, it gave me an insight on our purpose of life. I admire the courage of the teachers to donate their bodies for a better future and generation. I respect the family members who are always supportive and putting high hopes on us, the future medical practitioners. To give is to take, I hope the spirit of the program would be passed down.

 

Tung Yu Feng (MEM120196)

I am very grateful to have been given this opportunity to participate in this Silent Mentor Program. Not only that my Silent Mentor gave me an opportunity to learn and practice on his body, he also encouraged me to become a better person in the field of medicine. In my opinion, Silent Mentor Program is a way in which a person is able to learn not only clinical skills but also medical ethics. From a stranger to someone who is willing to donate their body after deceased for good use, we can see that how strong the expectation of our selfless Silent Mentor is, in terms of hoping that we can one day be a good medical practitioner, so that whoever is in the same faith as them, would not have to suffer the same way they do.

Through my Silent Mentor, I also learned that emotions also play a very important role in treating our future patients. It is always better to put ourselves in the patients' shoe so that we understand their feelings as well. In this way, hopefully better care can be given to them as well.

 

David Zachary Redzuan Mosiun (MEM120036)

As I continued to walk down the path laid before me in my medical student life, I often thought about stepping off for a little while to see where I would end up. I did just that the moment I enrolled myself in the Silent Mentor Program. 

This program brings invaluable benefit to doctors, students, and patients alike, past or present. Doctors are able to hone their skills further, polishing the finer details in their work. Students are able to learn new knowledge and gain a better understanding of what they have learnt. Patients are able to receive the treatment knowing they are in capable hands. Furthermore, the benefit is sure to live on into the future with the help of this program. 

I cannot seem to find the right words to describe my feelings towards the program. I am happy yet I am in awe. Happy that I got to learn so much from this program, practical & life-saving clinical skills together with the importance of the way you feel towards your patients. In awe simply because I can never and probably never will understand how our Silent Mentors can be so generous and full of courage as to donate their own bodies for our cause. 

Whatever it is, I now feel more confident as I return to the path laid before me in my medical student life. And rest assured I will make good use of whatever I have gained from this to serve the people, as my teachers, the Silent Mentors, have served me.

 

Teoh Yi Ming (MEM120193)

Participation in the Silent Mentor Program was initially to expose myself to a different kind of learning opportunity. Later on when the program started, it revealed a more personal and emotional type of education. Then I realised the importance of knowing and understanding our Silent Mentor before we started to expect knowledge from him. I was inspired by the courage and selflessness of the Silent Mentors to donate their bodies and contribute to the society even after they passed away. They did not know who will be utilising their bodies yet they were willing to let us as medical professionals to practice clinical skills on them. I then started to ask myself if I would do the same as my Silent Mentor. 

Throughout this Silent Mentor Workshop, I had definitely brushed up my clinical skills but the more important things that I would highlight are the noble values that I learnt indirectly from the program. I learned to be empathy and to respect my patients. My Silent Mentor taught me that a patient-doctor relationship is far more crucial than the medical treatment itself. Ill patients need understanding doctors, not stereotypic doctors. I would say that it was truly an amazing experience and a lifelong opportunity to participate in this program and benefited from it. I would also like to praise the family members of the Silent Mentors for their generosity and support. Lastly, I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude towards my Silent Mentor Mr. Low Hun Ming for being the one and only special teacher in my life.     

 

Goh Saw Huan 吴淑环 (MEM120043)

我非常感恩能参与无语良师工作坊。感恩各位无语良师们用无声的言语无私地教导我们让我们学习到了许多书本上无法获得的宝贵经验。但是,我所学到的,不止是这些临床技巧,更多的是无语良师们的无私大爱与奉献精神。他们愿意奉献自己造福别人、成就别人。此外,我也学会去尊重人、尊重生命。因为缘分, 我与卢汉民老师从陌生人变成很特别的师生关系。卢老师用身体来教导我们课本上学不到的知识。我深信这次充满意义的工作坊将会为我未来的行医路上带来更大的贡献。 

在此也感谢各位无语良师们的家属,支持老师们的决定。也感谢无语良师计划全体工委和志愿者的付出,让这项有意义的计划能延续下去。感恩。

 

Sharveena Veeran (MEM110157)

I am blessed to be involved in the 16th Silent Mentor Workshop. It was way beyond my imagination. In the beginning, I did not expect much and did not have much idea though I thought it would be just a one day program held with clinical procedures teaching. However I was in shock wow 1 week, though I had to skip my one week of Banting posting which I was enjoying and relaxing but bravo, that 1 week of Silent Mentor Program totally changed all my perception that I did not develop in these 5 years. 

I appreciate every Silent Mentor who was selfless and willing as well able to contribute for medicine especially us the medical students to practice on their long lived body on earth. No one can teach empathy, sympathy is easy but empathy is not. I developed empathy and would like to express my gratitude to all the 6 Silent Mentors. Their great contribution has helped me to develop and practice clinical skills on their body with the guidance of the doctors. 

When I watched the video of Silent Mentors before their final succumbs, I was really touched and tears was just flowing down my eyes looking at the honourable deed they could do, as it was not that easy. They were great teachers for us medical students, through their bodies I got the opportunity to learn and gain experience as well as recall my anatomy which I did not get much exposure during my first year of medical study. I am really in awe of this program and would like to thank all the doctors who helped us and taught us especially on Friday night teaching patiently, giving one to one teaching to me as I joined the workshop. Thank you Dr. Ridzuan, Dr. Ashraf, Dr. Sachin, Dr. Jaya, Prof Si Lay and all the doctors who gave their time to teach us. I learned what it means by love toward knowledge which is vast and unfathomable. 

Last but not least, I believe everyone has a role in this world but above all let's give and contribute for science and medical research to be better. I would like to thank every family member of Silent Mentor without whom this may not be possible, thank you for your willingness and support towards our Silent Mentor. In a nutshell , thank you Prof Chin and Prof Saw for being with us all the time guiding us and encouraging us, Mr Sia & the volunteer helpers. I believe every medical student should take part in this program, such a great fortuity. I am thankful and grateful to God for this sublime experience. 

"Doctor-Patient relationship matters in management of patient" – Silent Mentor Mr Low Hun Ming

 

Celia Low Fang Ying (MEM120023)

Silent Mentor Program was first introduced to me during anatomy class in my first year of medical school. I got to know this by listening to seniors and professors talking about this program. However, I did not take further actions to participate due to lack of interest. I suppose it was due to my limited medical knowledge during first year. I did not have the intention to involve myself in this voluntarily. 

As a final year student, the opportunity to do hands-on and to gain experience made me wanted to join this program so eagerly. Seeing juniors helping selflessly, spending their evenings just for this program, I realized that they will be good doctors in future because it shows that they are so truthful and kind-hearted. Their patience and passion towards this program could not be faded, and so did that our Silent Mentors, their sacrifices made earned my utmost respect. 

It would take me a huge courage to donate my body as a Silent Mentor. However I would consider organ donation. But for now, what I want to learn and to achieve as a medical student is first to be responsible to my patient. I would put myself into the patient's shoe and give more attention to the patient and the family members physically and mentally. Lastly, I feel that all Silent Mentors have brought pride to their lives and their family because of their selfless act. By letting us learn on their bodies, hoping that we could become a more decent doctor to help more patients in the future. 

 

Khoo Shu Jiun 邱诗珺 (MEM120057)

工作坊的第五天临晨6点钟下了很大的雨,我们冒雨如常出席每个清晨为无语良师清洗身体的环节。本来一心想着赶快完成了清晨的清洗任务,却在祷告默哀的时候突然发现因为长期置于常温的老师们除了气味浓了,样子也变了很多。而无语良师工作坊也在无声无息中接近尾声。如若老师们在天之灵可以看见,他们会不会为身上的针线感到心痛不舍,还是会为我们的认真求知欲感到欣慰?会有什么想对我们这些素未见面的学生说的话吗?老师们不管是求医路上还是在生命的尽头都深深信任着我们,是因为相信我们会好好学习才让他们凝聚了勇气以身授教?是因为相信医学研究还有无限的可能,才让他们付出一切回馈社会?而我们这些学生在默念“大恩不言谢” 的时候,真的必须明白再多再多的感谢都抵消不了他们对我们的恩惠。毕竟在当下的社会能够抛开成见舍身为人的真的不多。

我的老师并没有在生前录下想对我们说的话,但是我相信就和另一位老师所期盼的一样——“你们就放心在我身上动刀就是了,我就是现成的白老鼠,你们好好学。要在我身上划多少刀都没有关系,只要你们不要在其他病人身上划错一刀。” 简单的一字一句,是老师刻在我们心间的理念。他们奉献自己的身躯为以后在我们手下求医的病人累积福气,希望在无语良师计划下学习的我们在他们身上划下的每一刀每一针每一线都能唤起或多或少被理智和规律淹没的“同理心”。 

我们只是在这条漫漫长路的起跑点,都不知道未来会攀多高,跑多远。但是我相信我们每一个人都会记得有这样一位不说话的老师,用无声传播无私奉献的精神,用生命传承爱心和责任心,用身体发肤灌溉社稷。而我们就是要承载着老师们的爱去医人、医病,更要医心。

感谢第十六届无语良师工作坊的每一位无语良师和家属,感谢为我们加班的教授医生,也感谢为工作坊从早忙到晚的幕后人员。感恩万分。

 

Nurul Hazirah Mohd Hanafiah (MEM120153)

Silent Mentor Program has taught me a whole new level of empathy towards medical profession. Apart from having the opportunity to practice and improve clinical skills on those bodies that had the closest feeling to real patients, I also learned that one can still continue to contribute to the society even though they are no longer around. As for now, I hope to make full use of the knowledge I have acquired through this program not only for my own career but also to share with my other colleagues, so the benefit from the Silent Mentors can continuously be passed down to other generations.

 

Sherwin Johan Ng (MEM120171)

I first heard of the Silent Mentor Program when I was a first year medical student back in 2012. Before joining this program as generations of my seniors did, I thought it plainly serves as a platform for medical practitioners to brush up invasive procedure skills by practicing on the cadavers.

After the home visit and interacting with our mentor's family members, I discovered that it was not merely to extract information of the mentor, but to learn about a teacher's life story through fragments reminiscence shared by each family member, which were put together forming a beautiful memoir. 

Throughout the sessions, I had learnt and practiced on surgical and procedural skills which were guided by experienced professionals. No doubt that I had achieved my objectives in this program. But that was not all, I too learnt the values on how to care and empathize our patients which are life lessons that could not be educated in a classroom. For each day, we cleaned, shampooed and dried our mentor before and after the workshop, as though as they are a living person. With every stitches and procedures I have done, I did it with care and with the mindset that these were performed on actual patient instead on the mentor. 

As we move our mentors into the coffin, I felt grateful and relieved at the same time as they finally deserved to rest well after all the contributions they gave to the medical field. As we proceeded to the funeral the next day, I walked slowly behind the hearse and I felt sad for every step I took as though as it was sending off someone I knew for years. It was the Mentor who was silently teaching, illuminating and upskill us; It was the Guru who patiently allowed us to learn slowly; It was the Teacher who did not lecture us for any mistakes done. Thank you my Silent Mentor, Ms. Tan Gek Booi, for giving me and my team the chance to learn not only to be a skillful doctor, but a benevolent one. May God bless upon you and your family members.

 

Koh Ee Yin (MEM120062)

"Declare the past; diagnose the present; foretell the future." Hippocrates' words on medicine were spoken centuries ago, yet until today it remains relevant. I am immensely grateful for the opportunity to be a part of this program - it is only with the contribution of the Silent Mentors that I am able to diagnose the past, build up on my medical knowledge, and proceed from that point on to be a better medical learner. The chance of learning from Silent Mentors is definitely a privilege, and I will always remain humble in the presence of these great teachers. Thank you so much.

 

Tiew Han Wei 张汉伟 (MEM120194)

有句话说: “人生是公平的,你和别人拥有的一样多;但付出却可以是无止尽的”。

我是一名五年级医学生,说巧不巧的在无语良师计划进行的同时,我正处于妇产科。在妇产科里最感动的事情莫过于宝宝呱呱落地,见证生命奇迹诞生的那一刻。就在同一段时间,我也有幸参与了无语良师计划,见证了人生的最后一刻里原来还是可以有意义的回馈社会。无语良师们即使到了生命的最后一刻仍不忘记在医学系里的莘莘学子,爱心捐献出了大体,好让医师们好好学习,受惠。诸位老师无私的奉献,视乎印证了我们也许无法祈求更多,但我们可以付出比一般人来得更多,更有意义。 

“无语良师犹如蜡烛,燃烧自己,照亮他人”。没有人可以预先知道自己还有多少时光,剩下多少年华,供我们完成未完成的事情。在参与了无语良师计划之后,我学会了凡事用心体会,才能够给予病人最好的呵护。老师们无私的教导更让医学生在医学技术上获得了大大的进步。我更学会了珍惜当下,努力向上,未来成为一名对社会有贡献的好医师。诸位老师齐聚于一身的勇气,爱心以及无私的奉献,我感同身受,并且承诺将秉持着这一份精神回馈社会,造福人群。感恩。

 

Chew Wen Dee 周宛莅 (MEM120030)

“在我身上开千千万万刀,无所谓,别在病人身上错开一刀。。。”这轻轻的一句话,触碰了我的内心深处。这种无私的付出及牺牲,让我们莘莘学子无比的感动。众所周知,肉体再往生之后就只是一副躯体。我感恩伟大的老师们,愿意为我们打破以往传统思想的束缚,让躯体继续升华,造福人群,成就他人。我也感恩老师为美好的医学未来而奉献,让我们有机会提升医学知识,把错误降到最低,并且有足够的信心去进行拯救工作。 

短短几天的无语良师工作坊,不仅仅是医学知识的提升,更让我明白了生命的真谛。我感谢及感恩家属及老师们对我们无私的信任,我们铭记于心。 感恩无语良师工作坊的志工们,感谢您们成就了我们。 

 

Ngio Yi Chen (MEM120121)

经过这次的无语良师工作坊,我大开眼界。我在想,要能够决定把自己的身体捐出来,到底要多大的勇气?要达到怎样的无我境界,才能够舍得把自己守护多年的身躯让学生们开很多很多的刀;让自己的身体冷冻这么多个月不入土,过后解冻,让学生进行研究?相信老师们都修得了很高的智慧,才能够达致这个境界。对于老师们为医学界无私的付出,除了感恩还是感恩。 

这个计划可以顺利进行,我也要感谢慈济大学,感谢Prof Chin, Prof Saw, Mr. Sia, 还有每一位工作人员。感谢您们愿意付出生命宝贵的时间为学生们筹备,带领学生做家访,陪学生们一大清早清洗老师的身体,每一天的工作坊完成后又帮助学生们收拾。从这次的工作坊,我学到了一些医学上的技巧与知识,相信对未来行医工作会大有帮助。 

如果有机会,我希望未来还有得参与更多这类型的活动,不止得到医学知识,也获得心灵上的成长,得大智慧,向老师们看齐。老师们,希望您得以安息。也衷心感谢老师的家人热心的支持这个计划,愿您们一切安好 。感恩 !

 

Ooi Ying Shi 黄音绮